Slimming World #4

[rubyred66]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

 

[princesspoppy96]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

This sounds insane. Lovey thing to donate to help someone yet certainly seems a little shady. It does sounds like an awkward situation. I would be certainly annoyed.

 

[Soggyfeetsummer]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

This is wrong and should not be happening.

 

[KeepitontheDL]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

You cannot be in the wrong here. You have NO obligation to donate anything and the audacity of your consultant and some social leader to make you feel otherwise! Pure bully tactics.

Get your money back & definitely stop donating food and items to a grown woman who clearly is happy to take freebies at the expense of others when she doesn't need it.

I acknowledge this situation is awkward as you see these people every week & have social connections but if everyone agrees to stop the 'food bank', there is strength in numbers and it will blow over.

 

[hereforalaugh38]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

Wow wtf, I would be demanding my money back what a load of balls! Why is this other persons daughter your responsibility!? I’m all for charity but this is taking the piss

I think it would annoy me if I was donating and didn’t know who the real recipient was tbh

 

[Soggyfeetsummer]

I would still love to know what happened to Mrs Mummy & Mr Daddy Wright !!

Someone I follow tagged Mrs Mummy Wright’s personal account which is locked but it looked like they’d had another child going by their header…unless it was the 3 children and a pet or something.

 

[princesspoppy96]

Someone I follow tagged Mrs Mummy Wright’s personal account which is locked but it looked like they’d had another child going by their header…unless it was the 3 children and a pet or something.

I always liked them both. I feel they (she) stopped running groups during covid due to the financial impact which isn’t surprising and hope they are well.

 

[wafflesnwings]

I went to SW for a couple of years (before the pandemic) and lost a lot of weight in those two years. I've since put on weight - with the lockdowns and the stress of the last few years. After everything opened up, I went back, but I felt differently about it all (almost like the whole thing was pointless). I have ended up going away from the whole SW thing ever since. When I look back on it, I can't believe how into it I was, the ridiculous little recipe 'hacks' - I hate quark so much, as well as, the Fry Light spray, the super low-large (and sour) cheese etc. What I hated most was how I got told by the group consultant to stop eating food from my culture because it was all 'full of syns' (even if I cooked everything with Fry Light), and that the best way to lose the weight, was to follow, cook and make SW food from their cookbooks. I'm not sure why it annoyed me...it still does if I really think about it now.
Even when I see photos of myself back then, it shocks me. Yes I was a lot slimmer, but my skin wasn't as glowy and my hair wasn't shiny (it became quite rough, and still hasn't gone back to its original softness/lustre, which upsets me). I didn't like how competitive or attention-seeking some of the members in the group I attended were, or how it was expected of you to open up after having a gain. I eat my feelings when I'm extremely stressed or in a depressive moment; it was so hard to explain it whenever I did gain. I would just cry whenever it happened and that always felt quite embarrassing, as I don't like to cry in public (let alone at a weight loss group where you are openly asked to explain yourself).
I don't think SW is a long-term viable plan; especially when it comes to maintaining weight loss in the long run. I think I'm just going to go back to the tried and tested method of eating balanced meals and regular exercise, while hoping for the best

 

[theeyeroller]

There are so many who have just completely dropped of the grid, the Wrights, JSG, Zoeylou, ylimesalad, cakeophile, itsyourgirlems, Emma the budgeting slimmer… Wonder if they’ve all regained the weight? xx

 

[princesspoppy96]

There are so many who have just completely dropped of the grid, the Wrights, JSG, Zoeylou, ylimesalad, cakeophile, itsyourgirlems, Emma the budgeting slimmer… Wonder if they’ve all regained the weight? xx

Almost everyone will have gained back and that will be due to relationships with food not being dealt with and I’m sure other reasons but ultimately I feel SW are to blame for part of that and the person themselves is to blame as well as the food still has to go in. All I hope they all find their way to healthy as ultimately that’s what matters.

I’m not one to dwell on the past and we should all look at the future and what we can do now. I have gained weight and I feel like I let myself down hugely yet I feel less pressure from SW and stopped going.

 

[mee43]

I went to SW for a couple of years (before the pandemic) and lost a lot of weight in those two years. I've since put on weight - with the lockdowns and the stress of the last few years. After everything opened up, I went back, but I felt differently about it all (almost like the whole thing was pointless). I have ended up going away from the whole SW thing ever since. When I look back on it, I can't believe how into it I was, the ridiculous little recipe 'hacks' - I hate quark so much, as well as, the Fry Light spray, the super low-large (and sour) cheese etc. What I hated most was how I got told by the group consultant to stop eating food from my culture because it was all 'full of syns' (even if I cooked everything with Fry Light), and that the best way to lose the weight, was to follow, cook and make SW food from their cookbooks. I'm not sure why it annoyed me...it still does if I really think about it now.
Even when I see photos of myself back then, it shocks me. Yes I was a lot slimmer, but my skin wasn't as glowy and my hair wasn't shiny (it became quite rough, and still hasn't gone back to its original softness/lustre, which upsets me). I didn't like how competitive or attention-seeking some of the members in the group I attended were, or how it was expected of you to open up after having a gain. I eat my feelings when I'm extremely stressed or in a depressive moment; it was so hard to explain it whenever I did gain. I would just cry whenever it happened and that always felt quite embarrassing, as I don't like to cry in public (let alone at a weight loss group where you are openly asked to explain yourself).
I don't think SW is a long-term viable plan; especially when it comes to maintaining weight loss in the long run. I think I'm just going to go back to the tried and tested method of eating balanced meals and regular exercise, while hoping for the best

I can completely relate to so much you’ve said. And I actually don’t think it’s acceptable for a group leader to tell you not to eat food from your culture. The whole point of SW is supposed to be about eating the foods you love, but finding ways to make them more SW friendly (using the dreaded Fry Light, Quark, sweeteners and so on)
Personally I think that no one who loves good, heathy food is going to get on with SW. I don’t agree with the concept of being able to eat loads of artificially sweetened, awful yoghurts, yet half an avocado and a little olive oil will use up most/all of your “syns”.
And I definitely agree that such a very low large diet isn’t good for skin and hair.
I struggle with emotional eating too. For what it’s worth I’ve knocked dieting completely on the head this past couple of weeks and I’ve somehow lost 4lbs!
Without realising it, I’ve been walking a lot more and eating in a healthier way - maybe because I’m not thinking that I’m going on a diet tomorrow so I’ll eat loads today
I wish you well - I think your plan of eating healthier and moving more is a good one

 

[Mab1994]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

Broad daylight robbery. Thanks

 

[WeHadFunRight]

i need tattle advice, do I have a right to be angry right now? I will give you the details.

For a while in group we have donated to a member of the social teams daughter, we bring an item of food for slimmer of the week and we also bring a item for the social teams daughter who lives in a town not too far away. We renamed the donation basket to the food bank to protect the daughters identity and dignity, but it’s agreed the donations goes to the social teams daughter as she doesn’t work and struggles financially.

I dropped a food blender off recently for the social teams daughter at her house, when I was invited in, I was asked if I want a coffee and she told me she had just spent £1,000 on a bean to cup machine. Afterwards I thought something doesn’t seem right.

We all had a meal planned for the Woman of the Year at a local restaurant and we paid a £10 deposit each, there isn’t many of us who attend group. 12 all together at the most. The meal was cancelled because of Covid. Rather than refunding out deposits, they have said they will donate the money to the group food bank. Only a few of us know that it is just a name we use for the sake of the social teams daughter. It has caused a lot of anger in the group. The consultant has rang us all individually and has called us mean spirited and selfish and the social team member is angry with us all for challenging it.

Are we in the wrong, be honest?

Honestly it sounds like you’re dealing with someone who moves the goal posts at their whim and to suit themselves.
They need to give you back your deposit, it is not up to them to decide what gets done with your money.
As for the food bank donation - honestly what a scam. Cheeky b-i-t-c-h-e-s

 

[Snarkypants]

Anyone else see Loving Lauren address what was said here about her rejoining SW and having an ED? She justified it by saying "as far as she is aware she isn't classed as having an *active* ED". Anyone else think that she's completely deluding herself here? She's clearly still very, very unwell. I feel like this will end really badly for her.

 

[MamaD]

Anyone else see Loving Lauren address what was said here about her rejoining SW and having an ED? She justified it by saying "as far as she is aware she isn't classed as having an *active* ED". Anyone else think that she's completely deluding herself here? She's clearly still very, very unwell. I feel like this will end really badly for her.

In her stories she said she was a SA victim. I think this causes the bulk of her issues. She seems to have a very good support system, sees a therapist and gets in house treatment as and when required. I think she’s intune with her issues and I would hope she’s discussed SW with her support system. Unfortunately there are a health complications from being underweight (as she was) and overweight. Although the body positivity movement would like us to think health and weight aren’t linked, they very much are. I’m someone whose obese but active and have started getting weight related issues.

 

[uokhun92]

I think Loving Lauren would benefit most by doing something that gets her out of the house for a reason that’s not related to her issues, like volunteering somewhere one day a week maybe she just seems really isolated, I’ve suffered with anorexia albeit not to the same extreme as her at points in my life and looking back the times were all when I was socially isolated for one reason or another, it was like having a friend. She doesn’t seem to have anything in her life to take her mind off her troubles.

 

[anotheronebitesthedust.1]

Dont know if its been covered but can anyone remember a slimming girl who used to work for sainsburys and was obssessed with something on her page but I cant seem to remember what it was

 

[uokhun92]

Dont know if its been covered but can anyone remember a slimming girl who used to work for sainsburys and was obssessed with something on her page but I cant seem to remember what it was

Yes! Think she was a Disney one too

 

[princesspoppy96]

Yes! Think she was a Disney one too

Is this a thing then being obsessed with Disney as an adult?

 

[uokhun92]

Is this a thing then being obsessed with Disney as an adult?

Yes I used to work with someone who was over 25 and still had Disney everything I don’t think Beaverbrooks etc have those crappy expensive figurines in the window for no reason