PumpkinKing
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I’ve not seen a thread for single parents so thought I would start one.
I don’t really have anyone in real life I can vent to so I’m going to dump all my feelings here.
I’m a single mum to 4 children, totally alone, no fathers involvement and no partner. It’s fucking hard. Made harder by the fact I suffer with my mental health and it has impacted on my parenting, I’m probably the cause of their own poor mental health. I’m so resentful towards my exes, fucking off and leaving me to deal with EVERYTHING! I can’t cope most of the time, I’m a shit parent, I’ve become a lazy parent and I’ve spent so much time feeling like I’ve failed my children. They hate each other and it breaks my heart, but it’s probably my fault, how I’ve raised them. I want to change. I want to be a good, fun and loving mum.
My anxiety had got worse, I worry all the time that something is going to happen to them, whenever I hear them cry I feel like I can’t breath and won’t cope if they really hurt themselves. It was so bad at one point that I stopped them all playing on the trampoline, that’s how ridiculous I am.
I’m sick of the arguments, fighting, doing all the housework alone. I constantly nag as they don’t listen and I lose my temper. I’m trying to let some things go, ignore it etc but my god some times it’s hard.
I thought now my eldest 2 are 20 and 18 it would be easier but it’s not, and my younger 2 copy what the older ones say.
Just now my daughter has come down and mocked me for watching the queen’s funeral, saying she never did anything for me/us. I just told her to go back upstairs.
God I’m just ranting, I feel drained. I know I chose to have my children, they didn’t ask to be born, it’s my duty etc but I don’t think I’m made to be a mother. I’m shit at it. Maybe it’s depression talking, I don’t know. I love my children but there are days when I feel like they would be better off without me because I’m doing such a terrible job. At the same time I couldn’t live without my children.
Apologies for the long nonsensical moan, hopefully this thread can be a place to just vent like this, offer advice etc without judgement.
I don’t really have anyone in real life I can vent to so I’m going to dump all my feelings here.
I’m a single mum to 4 children, totally alone, no fathers involvement and no partner. It’s fucking hard. Made harder by the fact I suffer with my mental health and it has impacted on my parenting, I’m probably the cause of their own poor mental health. I’m so resentful towards my exes, fucking off and leaving me to deal with EVERYTHING! I can’t cope most of the time, I’m a shit parent, I’ve become a lazy parent and I’ve spent so much time feeling like I’ve failed my children. They hate each other and it breaks my heart, but it’s probably my fault, how I’ve raised them. I want to change. I want to be a good, fun and loving mum.
My anxiety had got worse, I worry all the time that something is going to happen to them, whenever I hear them cry I feel like I can’t breath and won’t cope if they really hurt themselves. It was so bad at one point that I stopped them all playing on the trampoline, that’s how ridiculous I am.
I’m sick of the arguments, fighting, doing all the housework alone. I constantly nag as they don’t listen and I lose my temper. I’m trying to let some things go, ignore it etc but my god some times it’s hard.
I thought now my eldest 2 are 20 and 18 it would be easier but it’s not, and my younger 2 copy what the older ones say.
Just now my daughter has come down and mocked me for watching the queen’s funeral, saying she never did anything for me/us. I just told her to go back upstairs.
God I’m just ranting, I feel drained. I know I chose to have my children, they didn’t ask to be born, it’s my duty etc but I don’t think I’m made to be a mother. I’m shit at it. Maybe it’s depression talking, I don’t know. I love my children but there are days when I feel like they would be better off without me because I’m doing such a terrible job. At the same time I couldn’t live without my children.
Apologies for the long nonsensical moan, hopefully this thread can be a place to just vent like this, offer advice etc without judgement.
some men are just dirt tbh!
nice to have a reply on here!
it’s so hard especially when children are in the mix, you feel it all… guilt, fear, happiness, more guilt, sadness! And then the logistics kick in!
so also trying to get over him and how much I’m probably in love with him.
(daughters half sibling) thankfully I don’t have to see my ex but when you have a child it’s really hard as you never fully have that closure do you?! I feel nothing but hatred towards him after he walked out on us for this bitch of a woman and now struggle to trust anyone as a result! And that’s all his doing! I have to deal with the teenage rants & all the emotions whilst working a stressful/full time job, running our house, paying bills etc like you’ve all said it’s so hard by yourself! I have little family support and have learnt over the years to not rely on anyone due to being let down! I totally relate to each of you that have said how lonely it is being a single mom and it really is 
but I am thankful that the best thing to come out of my marriage is my daughter who can be challenging due to her age but she is my greatest creation and is so caring and wonderful at times, and I miss her so much when she’s not here, I like to think we have an extra close bond and she knows I’m always here for her, she’s not under any illusion as to what a POS her dad is as she’s sadly reached that conclusion by herself! I do think that we should all be proud of ourselves it’s the hardest but most rewarding job especially doing it by ourselves! 
that I tell myself daily. Their dad is barely involved and whilst I have massive issues with resentment, I take comfort in the fact that my children will know who it was that did everything for them and who was always there for them, and who it was that couldn’t be bothered.
I hope I can grow that with my daughter. There are a lot of bonuses to being a single parent!