I’ve not seen a thread for single parents so thought I would start one.
I don’t really have anyone in real life I can vent to so I’m going to dump all my feelings here.
I’m a single mum to 4 children, totally alone, no fathers involvement and no partner. It’s bleeping hard. Made harder by the fact I suffer with my mental health and it has impacted on my parenting, I’m probably the cause of their own poor mental health. I’m so resentful towards my exes, bleeping off and leaving me to deal with EVERYTHING! I can’t cope most of the time, I’m a tit parent, I’ve become a lazy parent and I’ve spent so much time feeling like I’ve failed my children. They hate each other and it breaks my heart, but it’s probably my fault, how I’ve raised them. I want to change. I want to be a good, fun and loving mum.
My anxiety had got worse, I worry all the time that something is going to happen to them, whenever I hear them cry I feel like I can’t breath and won’t cope if they really hurt themselves. It was so bad at one point that I stopped them all playing on the trampoline, that’s how ridiculous I am.
I’m sick of the arguments, fighting, doing all the housework alone. I constantly nag as they don’t listen and I lose my temper. I’m trying to let some things go, ignore it etc but my god some times it’s hard.
I thought now my eldest 2 are 20 and 18 it would be easier but it’s not, and my younger 2 copy what the older ones say.
Just now my daughter has come down and mocked me for watching the queen’s funeral, saying she never did anything for me/us. I just told her to go back upstairs.
God I’m just ranting, I feel drained. I know I chose to have my children, they didn’t ask to be born, it’s my duty etc but I don’t think I’m made to be a mother. I’m tit at it. Maybe it’s depression talking, I don’t know. I love my children but there are days when I feel like they would be better off without me because I’m doing such a terrible job. At the same time I couldn’t live without my children.
Apologies for the long nonsensical moan, hopefully this thread can be a place to just vent like this, offer advice etc without judgement.
I don’t really have anyone in real life I can vent to so I’m going to dump all my feelings here.
I’m a single mum to 4 children, totally alone, no fathers involvement and no partner. It’s bleeping hard. Made harder by the fact I suffer with my mental health and it has impacted on my parenting, I’m probably the cause of their own poor mental health. I’m so resentful towards my exes, bleeping off and leaving me to deal with EVERYTHING! I can’t cope most of the time, I’m a tit parent, I’ve become a lazy parent and I’ve spent so much time feeling like I’ve failed my children. They hate each other and it breaks my heart, but it’s probably my fault, how I’ve raised them. I want to change. I want to be a good, fun and loving mum.
My anxiety had got worse, I worry all the time that something is going to happen to them, whenever I hear them cry I feel like I can’t breath and won’t cope if they really hurt themselves. It was so bad at one point that I stopped them all playing on the trampoline, that’s how ridiculous I am.
I’m sick of the arguments, fighting, doing all the housework alone. I constantly nag as they don’t listen and I lose my temper. I’m trying to let some things go, ignore it etc but my god some times it’s hard.
I thought now my eldest 2 are 20 and 18 it would be easier but it’s not, and my younger 2 copy what the older ones say.
Just now my daughter has come down and mocked me for watching the queen’s funeral, saying she never did anything for me/us. I just told her to go back upstairs.
God I’m just ranting, I feel drained. I know I chose to have my children, they didn’t ask to be born, it’s my duty etc but I don’t think I’m made to be a mother. I’m tit at it. Maybe it’s depression talking, I don’t know. I love my children but there are days when I feel like they would be better off without me because I’m doing such a terrible job. At the same time I couldn’t live without my children.
Apologies for the long nonsensical moan, hopefully this thread can be a place to just vent like this, offer advice etc without judgement.
that I tell myself daily. Their dad is barely involved and whilst I have massive issues with resentment, I take comfort in the fact that my children will know who it was that did everything for them and who was always there for them, and who it was that couldn’t be bothered.
it’s so hard especially when children are in the mix, you feel it all… guilt, fear, happiness, more guilt, sadness! And then the logistics kick in!