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Ah a woman after my own heart. It's the perfect arrangement isn't it, company and affection regularly, but if you can mentally shut off your mind afterwards, none of the stress of a relationship. Plus you get to keep the freedom of being single.

I was facetiming a friend the other day who's still pining for an ex she was with for 6 months last year.. looking into every social media detail trying to figure out if it means anything.. meanwhile she's spending all this energy on nonsense instead of living her life to the fullest.
Zen, it’s the energy. Ye got it in one. Am I feck spending hours wondering why some Henry hoover lookin trout man doesn’t want me when I could be eating Lindt balls and watching blankety blank in my pjs.
 
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Zen, it’s the energy. Ye got it in one. Am I feck spending hours wondering why some Henry hoover lookin trout man doesn’t want me when I could be eating Lindt balls and watching blankety blank in my pjs.
Agreed. Frankly I'm late twenties setting up roots for myself - building a life at the moment and literally am mentally too occupied with other adult things I have to get done, to have the energy for a relationship. Mentally unavailable at the moment.
 
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Happily happily single for 6 years. Don’t want to be in a relationship. Bisexual but only had 2 relationships in my life and both with men with one resulting in my son. Anyway, little old Ms Eyes over ere is having a fwb situation with a woman I met through work and I heckin love it. Not told anyone but felt like I could be honest with you lot. She’s in her mid 20s and doing a PhD so busy busy busy but we get together every week and snog like 16 year olds 😅😅😅😅
Living the dreammmmm!!!
 
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I always find it quite telling when a woman posts a thank you to their husband on a birthday or anniversary (which is cringe in itself obviously) and says ‘thank you for everything you do’. That always seems really alien to me as my exes have never really done anything for me. They weren’t classic chauvinists but ‘nice guys’ who just let me do everything. Never again!
 
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I always find it quite telling when a woman posts a thank you to their husband on a birthday or anniversary (which is cringe in itself obviously) and says ‘thank you for everything you do’. That always seems really alien to me as my exes have never really done anything for me. They weren’t classic chauvinists but ‘nice guys’ who just let me do everything. Never again!
Plot twist, their partners probably do duck all too 😅
 
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I always find it quite telling when a woman posts a thank you to their husband on a birthday or anniversary (which is cringe in itself obviously) and says ‘thank you for everything you do’. That always seems really alien to me as my exes have never really done anything for me. They weren’t classic chauvinists but ‘nice guys’ who just let me do everything. Never again!
I bet he doesn’t do anything for her either. Why do they feel the need to announce it? “He doth protest too much” and all that. 🤦‍♀️

For my garden gals, get yourself down to B&M. They have got great deals on. And Home Bargains sell hanging basket brackets for £1

I did a little garden project last weekend. Bought the pots from a nursery, painted them white and planted some beauties. Can’t wait till they fully blossom.

I start lawn treatment this weekend. Living the life and very peaceful. ❤
 

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I bet he doesn’t do anything for her either. Why do they feel the need to announce it? “He doth protest too much” and all that. 🤦‍♀️

For my garden gals, get yourself down to B&M. They have got great deals on. And Home Bargains sell hanging basket brackets for £1

I did a little garden project last weekend. Bought the pots from a nursery, painted them white and planted some beauties. Can’t wait till they fully blossom.

I start lawn treatment this weekend. Living the life and very peaceful. ❤
I got a Lupin from B&M yesterday and today I got another lovely plant from Asda. I forget the name of that one though 😆
 
I got a Lupin from B&M yesterday and today I got another lovely plant from Asda. I forget the name of that one though 😆
Lupins are so colourful. I wish they took better care of the plants in B&M, so many of them were drier than the Sahara desert! 🌵 😆
 
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Lupins are so colourful. I wish they took better care of the plants in B&M, so many of them were drier than the Sahara desert! 🌵 😆
I only ever buy from there if they look healthy. It’s horrible when you see them all dried out and dead!
 
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Agreed - anyone and anything is better than being single. I saw this on mumsnet the other day. ‘Generally a good, loving dad and husband’. I beg your pardon? The bar is in hell.
 

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Agreed - anyone and anything is better than being single. I saw this on mumsnet the other day. ‘Generally a good, loving dad and husband’. I beg your pardon? The bar is in hell.
And they wonder why we rather stay alone.

Can you imagine? Being stuck, connected, to an abuser like that for the rest of your life? And you don't know. Some abusers will be the best partners right until you get pregnant or lose your job or get sick and they feel like they've "chaught" you.

Having a husband used to be a neccessity, and a lot of women paid a steep price for it. Now that the necessity is gone, why put yourself into that position?
 
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Upsets me how many strong, funny, beautiful amazing women I know are tied to men who are abusive , boring or angry.
We are conditioned from very early on to accept scraps and that out validation is from men alone.

Love this thread , women validating ourselves and knowing our worth is not what our relationship status is.
 
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Agreed - anyone and anything is better than being single. I saw this on mumsnet the other day. ‘Generally a good, loving dad and husband’. I beg your pardon? The bar is in hell.
Is that drama really better than being alone? In my opinion if you want to date be smart about it: build a rotation, evaluate behaviour and then try to pick the best one.

Pros: emotional detachment and a time saviour.
 
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Upsets me how many strong, funny, beautiful amazing women I know are tied to men who are abusive , boring or angry.
We are conditioned from very early on to accept scraps and that out validation is from men alone.

Love this thread , women validating ourselves and knowing our worth is not what our relationship status is.
I'd like to give a shout out to my mother, who was such a wife. Long story, usual tit.

She couldn't always stand up for herself/us, but she made darn sure I'd have choices.
 
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I think some people are very bothered by the thought of being alone, so to them it might be.

Personally I don't mind being alone at all, for the most part.
I agree - I've gotten the "you're going to end up alone" insult a lot over the years. Due to me being too picky. But you just need to build a solid community around yourself in my opinion. You don't have to rely on dating.

By the way I'm in my twenties
 
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Happily happily single for 6 years. Don’t want to be in a relationship. Bisexual but only had 2 relationships in my life and both with men with one resulting in my son. Anyway, little old Ms Eyes over ere is having a fwb situation with a woman I met through work and I heckin love it. Not told anyone but felt like I could be honest with you lot. She’s in her mid 20s and doing a PhD so busy busy busy but we get together every week and snog like 16 year olds 😅😅😅😅
This is my perfect life tbh
 
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