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Zenchick101

Zenchick101

Fledgling Psycho said:
I was with a string along for eight years. When I finally threw in the towel he was with someone else within a month. Luckily for him she "didn't want to get married" so he struck lucky. I felt quite upset and bitter too for some time. I've really gone off men over the last couple of years and the apps confirmed I was much more mentally healthy steering clear of them!
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strung along for four, he's a huge cheater and found my replacement in what four months? in the meantime tried stringing me along till he locked that down and tried making me his sidepiece afterwards
 
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Gym&Tonic

Gym&Tonic

What do we make of people who have an inability to stay single for more than a few short months and go from one disastrous relationship to another? A member of my extended family is like this. She goes from one man to another in rapid succession. We’re talking serious relationships where they end up living together, Facebook official and children introduced and expected to act like a blended family unit. The rest of the family are expected to treat them as her ‘partner’ and include them in all family events. Most of these men then turn out to be abusive or losers or usually a combination of both, she then has to ‘flee’ with the kids and find somewhere else to live and rest of the family pick up the pieces. It makes me so sad that her self worth is so bad that she has to do this, but at the same time I have little patience for her continually making such poor life choices and not thinking about her kids and the impact it has on them. I’d rather stay single any day!
 
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paulpercy666

Gym&Tonic said:
What do we make of people who have an inability to stay single for more than a few short months and go from one disastrous relationship to another? A member of my extended family is like this. She goes from one man to another in rapid succession. We’re talking serious relationships where they end up living together, Facebook official and children introduced and expected to act like a blended family unit. The rest of the family are expected to treat them as her ‘partner’ and include them in all family events. Most of these men then turn out to be abusive or losers or usually a combination of both, she then has to ‘flee’ with the kids and find somewhere else to live and rest of the family pick up the pieces. It makes me so sad that her self worth is so bad that she has to do this, but at the same time I have little patience for her continually making such poor life choices and not thinking about her kids and the impact it has on them. I’d rather stay single any day!
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Honestly this way of living is so foreign to me. I’m the same as you, I have a few family members/friend who are serial monogamists and despite all the experience they have in dating (🙄) they manage to pick the most demented people on earth as partners! It is seriously pathological 😂. What grates on me the most is people like my cousin who is a completely different person with each man - she used to be super chill and airy fairy until she met a bloke who was probably the most highly-strung man alive and she turned into a complete control freak. Seems like such an exhausting existence tbh but I always seem to get pity from these people for being long term single, as if it’s some kind of moral failure on my part. Little do they know I think they’re batshit crazy 😂
 
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Gym&Tonic said:
What do we make of people who have an inability to stay single for more than a few short months and go from one disastrous relationship to another? A member of my extended family is like this. She goes from one man to another in rapid succession. We’re talking serious relationships where they end up living together, Facebook official and children introduced and expected to act like a blended family unit. The rest of the family are expected to treat them as her ‘partner’ and include them in all family events. Most of these men then turn out to be abusive or losers or usually a combination of both, she then has to ‘flee’ with the kids and find somewhere else to live and rest of the family pick up the pieces. It makes me so sad that her self worth is so bad that she has to do this, but at the same time I have little patience for her continually making such poor life choices and not thinking about her kids and the impact it has on them. I’d rather stay single any day!
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My best friend has never been single! She was engaged for 8 years left him and got with her first husband. Left him after 10 years (abusive narcissist) and within 2 weeks was living with her now husband. I can’t imagine being like that at all. It is alien to me. I’ve been single most of my life.
 
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Thatswhattatsaid

Hello! I spent the last week speaking to a guy which has been a perfect reminder of why I’m happy single. I’ve not been in a relationship since my last one ended and that was emotionally very abusive and controlling. This is someone from work, he added me on Facebook and since then has messaged me daily, I can’t figure out if there’s anything in it, everyone that has seen us together says there’s a “vibe” and has commented to me on how perfect we’d be together and I feel like that may have made me think about the possibility of something. Anyway he made a few comments about certain things this week, he seems to be great at dishing out “banter”, had no problem telling me I was only a 10/10 in terms of mental health (rude considering we work together, I’m higher up than him and we’ve met twice). Then went in to show me his dating profile bio, described himself as a self proclaimed 7/10 with the potential of getting better with age and becoming a 9/10 when he’s 40 (currently 30), I asked why a 7/10 and his response was that he’s better than 70% of people. Then went on to tell me he was taking a girl on a date Saturday (my friends suspect he was trying to make me a bit jealous and seem sought after) but the realisation hit me, this boy who had the audacity to make me feel like something was wrong with me is actively dating, he’s looking for someone and yet dating every other weekend and is single whereas I’m single by choice, I’m not actively seeking or dating anyone and have never tried. I’m happy with that 😅
 
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Fledgling Psycho

Fledgling Psycho

@Thatswhattatsaid He sounds like a complete plank. Also if he was into you, going on about other women is so immature and attention seeking. I know someone married to a man like this and it ruined her trust in him. She never left but they live in an emotional war zone. So glad he showed himself before you wasted any precious time. 👍
 
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LaBlonde

LaBlonde

shadowcat5 said:
How are we all feeling the day before valentines day? 😂
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it’s GALENTINES DAY so i’ve spent the morning sending incredibly ott messages to my friends 🤣

and happy galentine’s to all you lovely gals too. treat yourself to something nice - not just today but always. you deserve it 💙 xxx
 
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