Ruby Granger #45 "Um" -- Ruby Granger, 2023

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The way her handwriting looks... Gosh, she needs therapy. She starts big but quickly goes smaller to the point it's almost illegible. Her upper zone (which stands for intelligence) is still nonexistent. Her middle zone (which stands for social life) is shrinking rapidly. Her lower zone (the subconscious thoughts) are never going back to the baseline. Nowhere in life she is satisfied with herself. I have saved quite a few of her writings from over the year just to see how it changes... well, it doesn't. The most concerning thing is that it doesn't matter if it's a poem she wrote or a journal entry or a letter, if you look at the right side of the page, you can see how she has plenty of space to write but simply chooses not to - regardless of format - which can be a sign of ED. She thinks subconsciously the words are too long to fit the paper, it will be too much, and she must start a new line.
It's really sad, but at least she has no declining lines or inconsistent pressure...
She needs therapy, guys, serious therapy.
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To the post above about her handwriting/issues with motor skills (and the misspellings/mispronunciations of words) - I have always wondered if she is dyslexic or dyspraxic (or both). (And this would probably also explain the claw)
 
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I can’t quite bring myself to watch the video yet but the comments on there are so damn weird. ‘Ruby might find a man and get married’ (erm …), people getting overexcited and calling someone an ‘internet bully’ for commenting about the state of the garden, lots of wannabe intellectuals getting pointlessly verbose in the hope of being noticed by Ruby, lots of praise for really odd things -‘you have great bead-buttering and cucumber-slicing skills‘. It’s all very strange. I noticed too that some comments asking if she’s ok seem to have been deleted since yesterday.
 
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Ruby, girlypop, are you okay? You didn't even change outfits once in this video!
Ye gods what an uncomfortable watch. I know she probably meant it as a joke, but the funniest thing in there was Martha thinking the birdseed was for herself.
 
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duck- me

I just started watching and had to turn it off as my partner came in and sat down and was looking at the tv and back at me thinking I’d finally lost it by watching this odd woman spoon blue porridge into a teacup-
Obviously I’ve always found Ruby strange- but this video made me feel quiet uncomfortable and I only got a few minutes in- pretty worrying
 
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I know that Ruby is trying to push a Manic Pixie Cottagecore Girl trope, but this was really uncomfortable to watch.

She's back in her happy place, the childhood home, twirling in the garden, eating odd food concoctions and escaping the reality of being an adult in her twenties.

I think Ruby really underestimated the reality of Oxford, and I agree with others that I wouldn't be surprised if she reverted to Exeter, she needs to feel like a big fish in a small pond.
 
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This is the first time I've watched Ruby or posted about her on her in months, but I am completely lost for words.

She's 24 next month. 24-years-old. She's skipping and twirling in her garden before smelling flowers, saying "you need a pastry before visiting the garden centre", the weird ASMR, and just the whole tone of the video. It's so infantile it would be funny if it wasn't genuinely concerning. All the comments expressing concern have been deleted, so she's either ignoring any criticism, or believes it isn't relevant.

I've barely kept up with her so am not clued up on how her Masters is going. Presumably, it can't be going too well if she's having to escape from it to this extent but maybe someone can shed some light there? Anyhow, I really want to know what she's going to do after this year. She surely can't put off getting a job any longer, unless she pursues YouTube full time (which is plausible). What content does she do though? Surely stuff like this at 25/26/27 will be insanely creepy and I'm not sure who the audience would be either? I'm at a loss.
 
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I've barely kept up with her so am not clued up on how her Masters is going. Presumably, it can't be going too well if she's having to escape from it to this extent but maybe someone can shed some light there? Anyhow, I really want to know what she's going to do after this year. She surely can't put off getting a job any longer, unless she pursues YouTube full time (which is plausible). What content does she do though? Surely stuff like this at 25/26/27 will be insanely creepy and I'm not sure who the audience would be either? I'm at a loss.
We can only speculate about her Masters since she's said almost nothing about the content of her degree or her actual experience studying at Oxford, but...

She mentioned that it took 5 tries to get her tutor just to come up with an idea for an essay question that was acceptable for her first essay there. That's just the basic thesis question for what would've been her easiest essay there, so it doesn't bode well for her managing to come up with an actual essay of any merit or quality for that essay or the rest.

She's mentioned absolutely nothing about her grades. Ruby's always been hyperfixated on her grades and has always seemed and acted practically entitled to the highest one. Despite her occasional 'GRADES AREN'T AVVERYTHING' lip service disclaimers, if she's ever got a high grade or top marks before (even high-but-not-the-highest grades that she's "disappointed" by), she'll always rush to announce it and VARRY HOMBLY brag about it in her next video, even if it's completely unrelated to the video. At Oxford she's said nothing at all, suggesting that her grades have been dismal.

She posted vague Insta stories about how she was having bad mental health days right around grade feedback time of her first term. Possibly unrelated, but the timing is noteworthy and seems to support the above.

She's taken an unprecedented hiatus from content creation during the essay period of her second term and long after. The only videos she's posted during this time have been a rushed vlog titled 'the inevitable stress of essay season' in which she mentioned that she'd been feeling highly anxious about filming during this period (but refused to say why), and then this latest mental breakdown of a video. If she did badly on the first round of essays, there was more pressure to miraculously do better on her second, harder batch of essays to pull her grades up, which doesn't seem likely, and this new video doesn't exactly suggest she knocked it out of the park.

She's looked absolutely miserable practically every moment at her "dream school". In libraries, on campus, while studying, she's looked increasingly morose. No surprise that she's looked hopelessly miserable every time she's had to film herself in a library filled with other, much smarter students doing far more work. The only time she's looked remotely happy there is doing small social things completely unrelated to studying with the one friend she's made there.

Independent thought has never been her strong suit and she's always floundered massively when expected to come up with her own ideas and do her own work. It's why she hit a wall with her dissertation. At Exeter she was almost completely reliant on grade inflation, her dodgy system of academic shortcuts and her major rhymes-with-Cakeknee crutch to get her through while doing as little of her own work as she could. At Oxford, the bar will be massively higher, with infinitely more expectation from tutors for a student to showcase independent, original thought in essays. Ruby's not built for that, so it's not at all surprising that she's hitting bottom academically now she can't skip the required reading, recycle the ideas of other scholars and copy Blakeney's homework.

All signs point to her wading into Oxford expecting an easy ride where she'd slap together a few essays from ChatGPT extracts, recycled lecture handouts from AXATAR and copy-and-pasted academic quotes, then spend all her time twirling round libraries trying to rub everyone's noses in the fact that she's an AWKSFWUD STEEYOODONT who's JANUINELY living out her wildest dark macadamia Hogwarts daydreams. Reality seems to have hit her instantly and won't stop swinging.
 
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My one and only contribution to the discussion of her latest video is that her nails are absolutely disgusting and make me feel a bit ill :(
 
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Could it have been an April Fool's effort that she put up late? It is bewilderingly odd. I did feel she had been reading too much Lewis Carroll.
 
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I had to come back to this thread after watching her last video bc what the ffff is going on there... It's almost a cry for help it's that bad 😭
 
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Absolutely hysterical that Ruby includes two separate shots of her talking to the dog and in both the dog turns away and ignores her. Lola wants nothing to do with Ruby at all
 
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I never thought I’d say this, especially so soon after she got it, but GOOD GOD SOMEONE TAKE THAT MICROPHONE AWAY FROM HER.

It’s an entirely new level of anti-ASMR hell, she’s whispering into it but the sound is somehow just as deafening and incoherent as her normal shouting-into-the-wind audio.

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We can only speculate about her Masters since she's said almost nothing about the content of her degree or her actual experience studying at Oxford, but...

She mentioned that it took 5 tries to get her tutor just to come up with an idea for an essay question that was acceptable for her first essay there. That's just the basic thesis question for what would've been her easiest essay there, so it doesn't bode well for her managing to come up with an actual essay of any merit or quality for that essay or the rest.

She's mentioned absolutely nothing about her grades. Ruby's always been hyperfixated on her grades and has always seemed and acted practically entitled to the highest one. Despite her occasional 'GRADES AREN'T AVVERYTHING' lip service disclaimers, if she's ever got a high grade or top marks before (even high-but-not-the-highest grades that she's "disappointed" by), she'll always rush to announce it and VARRY HOMBLY brag about it in her next video, even if it's completely unrelated to the video. At Oxford she's said nothing at all, suggesting that her grades have been dismal.

She posted vague Insta stories about how she was having bad mental health days right around grade feedback time of her first term. Possibly unrelated, but the timing is noteworthy and seems to support the above.

She's taken an unprecedented hiatus from content creation during the essay period of her second term and long after. The only videos she's posted during this time have been a rushed vlog titled 'the inevitable stress of essay season' in which she mentioned that she'd been feeling highly anxious about filming during this period (but refused to say why), and then this latest mental breakdown of a video. If she did badly on the first round of essays, there was more pressure to miraculously do better on her second, harder batch of essays to pull her grades up, which doesn't seem likely, and this new video doesn't exactly suggest she knocked it out of the park.

She's looked absolutely miserable practically every moment at her "dream school". In libraries, on campus, while studying, she's looked increasingly morose. No surprise that she's looked hopelessly miserable every time she's had to film herself in a library filled with other, much smarter students doing far more work. The only time she's looked remotely happy there is doing small social things completely unrelated to studying with the one friend she's made there.

Independent thought has never been her strong suit and she's always floundered massively when expected to come up with her own ideas and do her own work. It's why she hit a wall with her dissertation. At Exeter she was almost completely reliant on grade inflation, her dodgy system of academic shortcuts and her major rhymes-with-Cakeknee crutch to get her through while doing as little of her own work as she could. At Oxford, the bar will be massively higher, with infinitely more expectation from tutors for a student to showcase independent, original thought in essays. Ruby's not built for that, so it's not at all surprising that she's hitting bottom academically now she can't skip the required reading, recycle the ideas of other scholars and copy Blakeney's homework.

All signs point to her wading into Oxford expecting an easy ride where she'd slap together a few essays from ChatGPT extracts, recycled lecture handouts from AXATAR and copy-and-pasted academic quotes, then spend all her time twirling round libraries trying to rub everyone's noses in the fact that she's an AWKSFWUD STEEYOODONT who's JANUINELY living out her wildest dark macadamia Hogwarts daydreams. Reality seems to have hit her instantly and won't stop swinging.
Exactly my thoughts! Something to add- this video lacks the usual OTT Wikipedia-like intellectualizing in her other videos ("DYD YYU KNYOW BLAH BLAH BLAH"). Instead, the script of this one literally reads like a horror/ children's book kinda thing. Not what you expect from an Oxford master's student, AT ALL. I swear if my peers or profs came across this video I would be mortified and could never show my face again.

I'm honestly surprised how she's made it this far- the bulk of her intelligence seems to be rote-memorized trivia facts and plagiarized ideas. As we can see from her video quality, she doesn't change or improve on her skills. Doesn't take feedback, doesn't try creative new things. Obv this translates to her academic life as well- she's been using the same "study methods" as GCSE/ A levels and can't even fathom the fact that she's not good at some things and should take feedback in in order to improve.
 
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Please can we agree that graphology is a flawed practice. Multiple times I’ve seen it on these threads and I have to roll my eyes. It’s the same as trying to diagnose her through the screen of autism - just not accurate. (No hate to the people talking about it)
 
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First time poster on Ruby's thread. I used to watch her years ago and then realised how unhealthy her content was mainly back in the days when she posted 12+ hour study days.

I had to see what other people meant so have just checked out her latest video. I'm very concerned for her welfare. Looks to me like she's having a breakdown. If she was 15 and posting this stuff I would still be worried but is it 24 she is?

Someone in her personal life needs to step up and do something here I'm thinking her parents or someone should contact her parents. They can clearly afford private mental health care and they need to.

I feel really sad for her as even though I thought she was snobby/thought she was cleverer better than others I did believe she was overall harmless. There's a lot of worse people on YouTube out there than her e.g. family vloggers who are exploiting their kids.

If anyone is reading this and knows her or her parents personally I really hope they do something.
 
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This was her strangest video that she's posted and I've been through the frozen peas and cabbage water porridge days with Ruby.

I keep thinking about it and there's something not right about it. I think that it would perhaps be an acceptable video if she was a teenager than a 24 year old. It gave me the vibes of a school project on nonsense poetry for English or media studies than something a masters student would do.

It just feels like she's going through a big regression since she's gone home, it starting off with the childish outfits and now this. I am expecting to see more odd food combinations coming again.

It's also very telling that she's been so quiet about Oxford the whole time, especially in comparison to Exeter where she was filming about her grades, speaking about her assignments. Ruby has been so quiet about Oxford other than her pretending to study in the library.

I don't think that she is getting the grades that she expected. I think ruby was expecting to get distinctions for all of her work 70% upwards for my MA course, and shes been given a few merits 60%+ or passes 50% +. I've had a mixture of all those during my course and it's upsetting not to get distinctions and merits all the time as to being honest, life happens and you get through the course as best you can and take the 58% .

I think that if ruby had all distinctions , she would be posting about it as it fits her image. I think that she would be very tight lipped about getting a merit compared to distinctions. I am convinced that she changed course in Exeter as she got a 50 something grade for her first theology essay and it ruined her from having straight firsts.

I don't know if she's had some bad news like a book has been rejected and she's on another debut novel or she's not got into a PhD application and the regression has been furthered by this.

I think once Oxford is finished she'll try and become a full time writer again in her parents house as she 'wants to spends lots of time with them,' or what she said in the gap year. I think that she'll continue to make content but I don't think that she'll be mentioning or discussing Oxford much and pretending it never happened.

I think that she's picked the course which wasn't for her. I think that she was mostly wanting the aestheticn and the idea of Oxford compared what she's actually experienced. I'm still convinced that she went for the dark academia aesthetic and that she will use it for a novel idea.
 
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