Re: cleanliness. I am not a stickler for it, my home is nearly always a little overdue for a clean in one place or another. But that screen shot someone posted a while back of the enormous amounts of dust under Ruby’s bed was absolutely sickening. It’s literally a health hazard, it would cause respiratory problems at least. Someone also posted an excerpt her mother had written about how she never vacuums under the couch cushions nor the beds, how there’s cob webs everywhere etc and she just asks guests to “ignore it”…
Their bodies may be used to it in that they’re not having constant allergic reactions but anyone else would surely at least sneeze a lot while there, if not have full on allergies and leave feeling run down and sick. Ruby never looks healthy which I’m sure she doesn’t eat enough or well but it wouldn’t help breathing in 10 years of dust and ingesting the bacteria that is clearly thriving all over their surfaces.
On the bed sheets, at first I was giving benefit of the doubt as I personally really only have 1 sheet set that I wash and dry then put back on the bed. I do have a spare but they are old and I don’t like them haha. But seeing the state of the house and their normalised levels of hygiene I don’t think this is the case here. Plus she literally took them outside then put them back on LOL.