Ruby Granger #35 Hello, it's Flu-bee!

[moosesauna]

Even here she says “if you just want to sit in your university room it’s fine”… she’s really clinginggg to university or maybe she just wants to appeal to that audience

Why is she buying one of those awful Five parody books when she's surrounded by amazing literature??

Also yeah, I'm shy and introverted too but regular socialization is necessary to keep most people mentally and physically healthy imo. There comes a point where you have to break out of your little Victorian book cave and meet people, otherwise you won't develop the social skills you need for future life - and you miss out on a lot of good conversation and valuable insight when you're alone. Spending too much time alone can literally ruin your health; it leaves you alone with your thoughts and worries, and once you become addicted to social media that just amplifies your existing insecurities imo.
Ruby emphasises the introvert experience and how it's ok, but she doesn't ever acknowledge that university isn't just about studying - it's about making connections and improving your soft skills, too. It's fine to not want to go out and drink yourself silly every night, and we should move away from the idea that all students are obsessed with partying; it's expensive and physically exhausting, and some of us actually want and need to study hard. However, as with all things you need balance, and shutting yourself indoors like Ruby does is going to give you a very disappointing and lonely university experience.
She should be encouraging shy students to join events, find friends and explore their university towns/cities, because after years of pandemic-induced isolation what most young people really need now is social interaction...

[At least I have a new bookshop recommendation now, though (as if I need more oops)]

 

[ammie]

This whole extroversion is bad thing is getting weird now like I'm pretty sure everyone I'm friends with (and myself) need time to recharge after socialising but this just seems like a you problem Ruby. No one said doing things alone or non extroverted activities are bad, it would be better if you did things alone for the sake of it rather than have someone (probably mother bones) follow you with a camera as you talk about how socialising is bad.

 

[GreyColouredLens]

Why is she buying one of those awful Five parody books when she's surrounded by amazing literature??

Also yeah, I'm shy and introverted too but regular socialization is necessary to keep most people mentally and physically healthy imo. There comes a point where you have to break out of your little Victorian book cave and meet people, otherwise you won't develop the social skills you need for future life - and you miss out on a lot of good conversation and valuable insight when you're alone. Spending too much time alone can literally ruin your health; it leaves you alone with your thoughts and worries, and once you become addicted to social media that just amplifies your existing insecurities imo.
Ruby emphasises the introvert experience and how it's ok, but she doesn't ever acknowledge that university isn't just about studying - it's about making connections and improving your soft skills, too. It's fine to not want to go out and drink yourself silly every night, and we should move away from the idea that all students are obsessed with partying; it's expensive and physically exhausting, and some of us actually want and need to study hard. However, as with all things you need balance, and shutting yourself indoors like Ruby does is going to give you a very disappointing and lonely university experience.
She should be encouraging shy students to join events, find friends and explore their university towns/cities, because after years of pandemic-induced isolation what most young people really need now is social interaction...

[At least I have a new bookshop recommendation now, though (as if I need more oops)]

Exactly my thoughts! My life is very similar to Ruby's and I'm a bit older. Unlike her have to work to afford food and commute as a student, but I live at home. Because of it, I don't have that much time to socialize (on top of my uni work). But I realize how bad it is and I crave socializing (at least sometimes). I'm also an introvert, but we all need friends and acquaintances. Never socializing with your classmates and colleagues or teachers during uni/department socials is a sign of bad nature (and it also gets harder for people to find good thesis counselors, discuss their work and connect with other researchers: it's much easier and nicer to ask professors for help/advice during events than it is as a rando showing up to their office hours). No one expects anyone to become a social butterfly and drink, but maybe stay for a while, talk to people, go home!
Also there are as many introverts as there are extroverts (and most people are something in between, even though they mayy identify with one or the other). No one's saying being an introvert is wrong, why is Ruby (and people like her) trying to convince us that introverts are an oppressed group of people basically? Also this content is far from new, it's all over the internet how it's all right to stay home and be an introvert. It's getting obnoxious.

 

[figgypud]

Society doesn't say that being extroverted is the best way to recharge at all. Most people have a balance. I'd say most people post about how they want to stay in bed watching films or reading fairly regularly. People existing socially is natural, whether it's everyday or once a week. I think I'd be traditionally classed as an introvert but I'd go mad without company after a day or two, max. Humans are social beings and Ruby fights that so hard because she's scared, not because normalising reading a book is some necessary and noble cause.

 

[marcelprout]

Yep, guess she's once again not part of the "inTAnDed DeMogRapHic". I think that "boring" is a perfectly valid criticism if what you're looking for is a good plot, interesting characters etc. But this book was clearly meant for more than pure entertainment. She's a literature graduate, a self-proclaimed avid reader who shows off philosophical works on her channel AND an aspiring Oxford student, so you'd think this would have been a great opportunity to discuss the ideas in the book or come up with something more well thought out than "boring". She's so condescending towards writers who have shaped the course of literature in her own country.

That's why I would find her admission downright offensive (albeit it would be hilarious to witness her stumble through the course), she claims to have done "syo much research" for the video and yet is unable to properly contextualise the very first book she "cheeses tyo" read. The Pilgrim's Progress dates back to 1678, and she compares it to "much more children-appropriate" Peter Pan (1911) and Alice's Adventures in Wonderland (1856). Um, cool? None of the Brontës would be able to read either of those, since Charlotte was the last to die in 1855. Besides the fact that she is unable to grasp why such an influential Christian allegory would appeal to daughters originating from a deeply religious family, whose birthplace itself was a place of pilgrimage at the time??? And it's not even some hidden information one can access only through hidden archives or forgotten manuscripts - it's so easy to find and connect these dots, especially if you keep pushing the title of an English Literature Graduate (Hons) on everything you do. How profoundly embarrassing.

 

[DrinaM]

Society doesn't say that being extroverted is the best way to recharge at all. Most people have a balance. I'd say most people post about how they want to stay in bed watching films or reading fairly regularly. People existing socially is natural, whether it's everyday or once a week. I think I'd be traditionally classed as an introvert but I'd go mad without company after a day or two, max. Humans are social beings and Ruby fights that so hard because she's scared, not because normalising reading a book is some necessary and noble cause.

RIght? I certainly don't feel pressured to go out if I am exhausted. Its ok to be scared, like she seems to be, but I do think that she should work on that rather than normalise being a shut-in.

 

[Hannahebee]

So Ruby gave us a mixed review on Bewick's British Birds yet on Goodreads she gave it a 4 star, I swear her reviews on Goodreads don't make sense sometimes as before she has said that a book was good yet she gives the book a bad review.

 

[gossip_guy]

If she'd stepped out of her bubble even a little at uni instead of running home every 5 seconds to cocoon herself in her dusty bedroom tomb, she'd have realised that most people, especially Gen Z, don't give a tit and are very supportive and encouraging when people are natural extroverts.

But Ruby's view of the world is so sheltered and out-of-touch. She's spent a lifetime with mummy and daddy telling her she's a very special genius and everyone's jealous of her because she's so smart. Her tiny social circle is a curated group of family, family friends and people exactly like her. Even her fellow influencer connections are all just like her: Narcissistic, privileged studytube grifters with an inflated idea of how smart and talented they are.

Most of her ideas about how society works seem to come from that echo chamber and the middle-grade bullying books she stole her fabricated life experiences from. She thinks the world will stuff her in her locker or shove her head in a toilet for studying and not going out partying every weekend. Her parents have told her she's special and never wrong, and simplistic kids books told her that there are smart people who read and dumb people who party and nothing inbetween.

Every time she comes out with one of her grandstanding "WE tend to think that..." declarations, it just shows how utterly detached from reality she is - all these things she thinks "we" do or think are almost always just Ruby things. This is what happens refuse to age past 12 or step even a little outside your own backyard. A little more time outside her bedroom bubble and insular social circle growing up might've given her the perspective and experience she desperately needs.

All this nonsense about her being an INTROVARRT in a WARRLD OF AXTROVARRTS never rings true either. She's not an introvert who's happiest and most at peace in her own company, she's a scared, self-important moron desperately trying to be anyone but herself.

 

[slamvs27]

Every time she comes out with one of her grandstanding "WE tend to think that..." declarations, it just shows how utterly detached from reality she is - all these things she thinks "we" do or think are almost always just Ruby things. This is what happens refuse to age past 12 or step even a little outside your own backyard. A little more time outside her bedroom bubble and insular social circle growing up might've given her the perspective and experience she desperately needs.

All this nonsense about her being an INTROVARRT in a WARRLD OF AXTROVARRTS never rings true either. She's not an introvert who's happiest and most at peace in her own company, she's a scared, self-important moron desperately trying to be anyone but herself.

Introvert here, we don't claim her. She gives the word a bad rep.

 

[theMoth]

 

[Deeznutslol]

Yesica really thought she ate

 

[londongirl92]

Ugh

 

[VallegGirl]

I feel Rubee's perception of herself as introverted is probably not inaccurate but I believe perception has now moved towards fixation and justification. I can't help but feel she is using this to justify why she made so little of her gap year. I think she felt that a first was in and of itself sufficient to get into Oxford. I think she failed to recognise that she needed to have put this year to better use and how important this would be in her statement. Just my view but what other excuse could she provide?
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Ugh

Yet another I didn't mean that I meant that. Enough Ruby. My advice to her. Recognise and acknowledge you failed to contextualise the book. It's OK to get things 'wrong'. It doesn't make you less able academically. In fact quite the reverse it makes you more able.

 

[bunnys]

Even here she says “if you just want to sit in your university room it’s fine”… she’s really clinginggg to university or maybe she just wants to appeal to that audience

But pushing yourself is how you grow. I moved out for uni and went to a different country in the UK. Was it hard at first? Yeah! It was hard having no friends when I first moved there, just like everyone else. But forcing myself to go out and meet new people, visit new places and navigate a new town helped me grow and mature. If I had sat in my uni room, I would have made my world very small. I still can't believe her parents were on board with her having a studio to herself the first year.

As an interesting sidenote, I found that the people I lived with in uni who went home frequently never really settled in. When you go home all the time, being at uni feels like something you struggle through until you can return to the safe, simple routine of home. It doesn't help you grow and that's what uni is all about. Ruby would have benefitted so much from not going home as frequently — or, like I did, by going to uni in a different country so that home wasn't just a short car drive away, but a bus, a train and a flight away.

 

[irunforfun]

Even her thinking is so childlike. Things are either good or bad, all or nothing, etc. There’s no grey (or colour!) in between. As humans, we are biologically programmed to need connection with others. Being an introvert isn’t about “shutting yourself away,” it’s about having time to recharge and feeling comfortable with doing things alone as well as enjoying time spent with others. Extroverts are the same. The only real difference is the balance of how much time is preferred alone or with others. How small or large the crowd is. How seem or unseen you prefer to be. But it’s not one extreme or the other. Unless you are trying to justify why you’ve become something of a hermit whilst you’ve spent many years trying to be someone you’re not and have now lost all grasp of reality in the real world.

 

[Griftwood]

But pushing yourself is how you grow.

The entire premise of her ”university might not be the best time of your life” video was how she tried to push herself in her second year and concluded that going outside of your comfort zone = bad.

 

[exopolitics]

Note taking in my first Shakespeare lecture today; thought about my favourite thespian Rubespeare when my lecturer made the point in bold!

 

[Griftwood]

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Note taking in my first Shakespeare lecture today; thought about my favourite thespian Rubespeare when my lecturer made the point in bold!

Thread title suggestion: Ruby Granger #36 Cordelia Rubespeare, the cuckoo of girlbossing

 

[Whisper2Me]

Seriously, this is the advice she needs to be taking. Not giving out. What a freaking hypocrite she is! I could slap her! This is on her Instagram story today. omg.

 

[JustVibing]

Okay Ruby, then why do we have to suffer through your terrible arts & crafts projects? How about you do them just for yourself?

Istg she completly missunderstands this post and concludes its amazing to post projects she "just" does without bothering to learn even the basics of the skill..