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Order yourself a takeout watch a crappy movie and crack on.
It’s his problem not yours hun x
 
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I agree with everyone else. You're getting too tied up in his drama and he's doesn't give a frig about you. First off spend as much time away from him as you can. If he's lounging watching telly go to your room and hang out there. If he's cooking in the kitchen, wait until he's done if you want to use it. As others have suggested spend time doing stuff outside the house and no need to tell him what you're up to. Personally, if you're stuck there I would haul myself up in my own space and make sure I never spend any time in his presence. Just block him out and work on yourself.
 
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Her husband has found out so she had to stay in a hotel yesterday, hes on the phone to her now and I want to know what the hells going on do I just ignore it?!
Not your monkey, not your circus. The more you interfere in their business, the more a fool you will feel looking back. Stop dancing. He’s made his choice. Do you really think playing relationship police will change anything?

Start focusing on your own future without him.
 
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As others have said, you need to separate yourself from the drama. I’d go as far as not even speaking to him unless it’s absolutely necessary - don’t get into any conversation with him. Treat him like a lodger - someone that’s living in the same space, nothing more.
He’s an absolute dick head and you are better off without him - but you need to stop giving him the satisfaction of seeing that you are still bothered by him/the whole situation.

Start focusing on yourself and your own life - start socialising out of the house - go out, see friends, join a class or start a sport or hobby.
 
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I think it’s a guy thing of moving on so quickly. Does the women’s husband know? He probably deserves to and maybe they won’t be so cocky about what they’ve done then either.

He’s the one who’s done wrong, sounds like he was texting her when still with you, so he should be the one moving out imo. If he doesn’t want to move out ask him to at least have some respect and not have her coming to your house and rubbing your nose in it.

Also the chances are they’ve broken up once it’ll probably happen again. It won’t be quite as exciting for them when they aren’t sneaking around and just seeing each other occasionally.

I’d probably get some hot guys to pick me up for dates just to piss him off, but I’m petty 😂
 
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I think it’s a guy thing of moving on so quickly. Does the women’s husband know? He probably deserves to and maybe they won’t be so cocky about what they’ve done then either.

He’s the one who’s done wrong, sounds like he was texting her when still with you, so he should be the one moving out imo. If he doesn’t want to move out ask him to at least have some respect and not have her coming to your house and rubbing your nose in it.
I believe her husband found out Saturday night so she had to get a hotel- she asked my ex partner to stay there with her and he did - he says its exciting with her and hes just bored of us and he doesnt want to try again, I could literally slap myself as I cant help but ask him where hes been and what's he doing and it's none of my business I know I'm hurting myself now x
 
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I believe her husband found out Saturday night so she had to get a hotel- she asked my ex partner to stay there with her and he did - he says its exciting with her and hes just bored of us and he doesnt want to try again, I could literally slap myself as I cant help but ask him where hes been and what's he doing and it's none of my business I know I'm hurting myself now x
It’s exciting now. It won’t be when they aren’t having secret meetings in hotels and actually have bills to pay.. I mean it didn’t work out that well the first time did it.

Please don’t take him back whatever you do.

Gather the troops and have a girls night out or something to take your mind off it. Or even better, get the girls round for dinner and wine. Should make him feel sufficiently awkward 😂
 
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Bloody hell, some men really are scum. I cannot imagine what you're going through, but I know that if I were in your situation, I'd get the hell out of that toxic environment. You said you can only pay rent on your own from September, but isn't there someone you can stay with until then? A family member? A friend?
It's eating you on the inside and you might have to deal with the consequences of the stress you're under for a really long time. Mentally and physically.
You obviously still have feelings for him and I have a feeling that deep down, you're kind of hoping he'll have a change of heart and want you back.
I'm not an insensitive person and you definitely need a shoulder to cry on, but at the same time, you also need tough love from your girlfriends! HE IS A DOUCHEBAG and you need to start seeing him for what he is! Think of all the horrible things he's done to you and erase the good memories you have together. You need to stop having feelings for him!
Like I said, I have no idea what you're going through, but I know for a fact that if someone did the same to me, the disgust I'd feel would supress the love I felt for him. He's a piece of s***, period. And you deserve to be happy and to be treated respectfully.
If you can't stay with anyone, like many have advised, spend as little time at home as possible, see it as just a bed to sleep in. I hope to God that you're sleeping in separate rooms!
Keep your mind and yourself busy! Go to the park, read a book, go for walks, dinner, drinks, cinema. Basically anything but being at home!
And PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't ask him anything at all about anything. It makes it look like treating you like that was okay, when it obviously wasn't and that you want him back.
If I were you, I'd definitely consider a therapy session or two as it could help you tremendously in terms of coping with this stress and start the grieving process.
Sending a huge virtual hug your way. [emoji847][emoji847]
 
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I agree with others - don't focus on his new relationship or the drama at all. I know its hard, but they probably like thats its bothering you and clearly have no respect for you either. I reckon you'll get the last laugh anyway if it ends up not lasting!

If you can then maybe stay with a family or friends if its easier? It might be annoying having to pay rent on the old place for a few months, but it would at least give you some space (especially if she's coming up to the house to pick him up) to focus on yourself.

At the moment I guess you'll have to keep his number until the moving out is fully sorted, but after that definitely delete him. Also delete him off Facebook and other social media if you haven't already, incase he starts posting photos of himself with his new partner.
 
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