Am I posting this right or in the right place? Never posted a thread before.
This is a long story, but since I've been awake now for over an hour due to his music and him hollering, I figured I'm not going to sleep so I may as well post it...
We've lived in this house since I was in high school, so 10 years now, and on and off we've had problems with the next door neighbour. They began when my mum split from her partner, as it's only us in the house which he is aware of, and which makes us feel a bit unsafe (he has a criminal record, more on that below) So, the issue in specifics...
He plays music so loud you hear it vibrating in our house at all hours of the day and night, sometimes all day AND night (it began today at 4am) he bangs and smashes things against the ajoining walls, screams lyrics at the top of his lungs etc. We've reported him to the housing association but he plays the mental health card as he has drug induced schizophrenia, so there is little they are willing to do over the situation as they say he has more protections than the average tenant. It also doesn't help were the only house attached to his, as it's flats on either side of our houses so they aren't getting other complaints as other people in the road aren't affected like we are and as such want an easy life and avoid him.
So, we recently began doing the only thing we could do, and began recording him on an app like the housing asked us to do on our phones. They actually accused mum of lying that the music was next door as it was that loud and clear? Even though he puts it on full blast and leaves his doors and windows wide open which makes it worse in warm weather. Anyway, eventually they sent him a letter and a housing officer visited after several weeks of that every day, and then he began knocking saying he'd keep down the noise, etc after they sent him a letter that he ignored, and then issued him a formal warning as a result.
We hoped then issues would stop, we were friendly enough, but now he's began knocking all the time, sometimes 7, 8 times a day or more, trying to get my mum to do things for him like go in his house to find something he's lost (his house is a disgrace, it even has flies from food he's left lying about), go with him shopping saying he can't read labels as he's blind in one eye or ring numbers for him off OUR phone, once she was on the phone for him over an hour, or lend him money for weed. He's even had her cook his dinner for him in our oven before more than once making out he can't read the cooking instructions. One day he had her going round doing all sorts and when she asked him not to knock again that day as she was in a lot of pain that day - he ignored her of course, kept knocking, expecting her to go in his house to chat to him etc. (my mum has several physical disabilities and is always in different levels of pain every day, so she shouldn't have said yes to doing anything as he's a user and he's been getting worse with trying to get her to do things, but she wants an easy life)
When she says she can't do something? He moans saying how much pain he's in to try and guilt her etc even though his medications are very weak compared to ones she's prescribed. When she's said to him she's in a lot of pain he just turns around going "Yeah well I'm in pain too". He has no bleeping empathy, everything is always about him and he's never wrong etc. She lost her job and doesn't have much money, he actually gets more money than her as he makes out he's in a bad way to scam disability benefits, but when she said no to giving him money he moans at her, asks her to lend money for him, asked her to lend money for him off my grandad, she said no, so he said to her sell things door to door to get him money etc and she said no. When she says no he then starts with the music like today. (He actually wastes his money on things he doesn't need like £45 trainers and lots of weed, and then goes food banks for food, bleeping user, so his lack of funds is totally on him)
I've spoke to him about the music. I'm a light sleeper and have a very acute sense of hearing as I'm autistic. He was all apologetic, saying it wouldn't happen again etc last week, and yet less than a week later because mum said no to lending him money for weed, here we are... I'm close to a meltdown, let me tell you.
Mum's concern is that if she begins reporting him again and he ends up evicted he will blame us and she's worried he will throw a rock through the window (best case scenario), or turn up with a gun and shoot our two dogs, or petrol bomb the house or worse. He recently got arrested for threatening his ex wife and two kids with a machete, and has said before how if he wanted a gun he could get one easily. He told me once he's been in prison several times. I wouldn't put it past him to do things like that either unfortunately, so please don't think she's been dramatic with her worries. She isn't.
The housing are currently in the process of taking him to court to evict him as he hasn't been paying the extra bedroom tax (it's a two bed and he's a single man alone) he seems to think he won't get evicted due to his mental health. I'm not sure how true that is, but it's still a couple of months until that happens anyway.
If he doesn't get evicted I'm not sure what I might do. Both mine and my mum's health has been declining badly due to this. We've tried applying to move to other houses anyway but even though we are in the highest bracket we can be on property pool we never get them, so we're stuck.
Mum is also concerned that if he knocks and I answer the door before she can about what will happen as I'm primed to explode at him. I really am. I just don't care anymore, I'm actually hoping he threatens me or assaults me so we can get him arrested and get a decent nights sleep. But then if he gets out, she has the worry still about what he might do.
Started writing this at 5am after he had been at this for an hour. Its gotten louder since then. Forgot to add he will go out for hours at a time and leave it on while out as well. Hatehatehate him.
This is a long story, but since I've been awake now for over an hour due to his music and him hollering, I figured I'm not going to sleep so I may as well post it...
We've lived in this house since I was in high school, so 10 years now, and on and off we've had problems with the next door neighbour. They began when my mum split from her partner, as it's only us in the house which he is aware of, and which makes us feel a bit unsafe (he has a criminal record, more on that below) So, the issue in specifics...
He plays music so loud you hear it vibrating in our house at all hours of the day and night, sometimes all day AND night (it began today at 4am) he bangs and smashes things against the ajoining walls, screams lyrics at the top of his lungs etc. We've reported him to the housing association but he plays the mental health card as he has drug induced schizophrenia, so there is little they are willing to do over the situation as they say he has more protections than the average tenant. It also doesn't help were the only house attached to his, as it's flats on either side of our houses so they aren't getting other complaints as other people in the road aren't affected like we are and as such want an easy life and avoid him.
So, we recently began doing the only thing we could do, and began recording him on an app like the housing asked us to do on our phones. They actually accused mum of lying that the music was next door as it was that loud and clear? Even though he puts it on full blast and leaves his doors and windows wide open which makes it worse in warm weather. Anyway, eventually they sent him a letter and a housing officer visited after several weeks of that every day, and then he began knocking saying he'd keep down the noise, etc after they sent him a letter that he ignored, and then issued him a formal warning as a result.
We hoped then issues would stop, we were friendly enough, but now he's began knocking all the time, sometimes 7, 8 times a day or more, trying to get my mum to do things for him like go in his house to find something he's lost (his house is a disgrace, it even has flies from food he's left lying about), go with him shopping saying he can't read labels as he's blind in one eye or ring numbers for him off OUR phone, once she was on the phone for him over an hour, or lend him money for weed. He's even had her cook his dinner for him in our oven before more than once making out he can't read the cooking instructions. One day he had her going round doing all sorts and when she asked him not to knock again that day as she was in a lot of pain that day - he ignored her of course, kept knocking, expecting her to go in his house to chat to him etc. (my mum has several physical disabilities and is always in different levels of pain every day, so she shouldn't have said yes to doing anything as he's a user and he's been getting worse with trying to get her to do things, but she wants an easy life)
When she says she can't do something? He moans saying how much pain he's in to try and guilt her etc even though his medications are very weak compared to ones she's prescribed. When she's said to him she's in a lot of pain he just turns around going "Yeah well I'm in pain too". He has no bleeping empathy, everything is always about him and he's never wrong etc. She lost her job and doesn't have much money, he actually gets more money than her as he makes out he's in a bad way to scam disability benefits, but when she said no to giving him money he moans at her, asks her to lend money for him, asked her to lend money for him off my grandad, she said no, so he said to her sell things door to door to get him money etc and she said no. When she says no he then starts with the music like today. (He actually wastes his money on things he doesn't need like £45 trainers and lots of weed, and then goes food banks for food, bleeping user, so his lack of funds is totally on him)
I've spoke to him about the music. I'm a light sleeper and have a very acute sense of hearing as I'm autistic. He was all apologetic, saying it wouldn't happen again etc last week, and yet less than a week later because mum said no to lending him money for weed, here we are... I'm close to a meltdown, let me tell you.
Mum's concern is that if she begins reporting him again and he ends up evicted he will blame us and she's worried he will throw a rock through the window (best case scenario), or turn up with a gun and shoot our two dogs, or petrol bomb the house or worse. He recently got arrested for threatening his ex wife and two kids with a machete, and has said before how if he wanted a gun he could get one easily. He told me once he's been in prison several times. I wouldn't put it past him to do things like that either unfortunately, so please don't think she's been dramatic with her worries. She isn't.
The housing are currently in the process of taking him to court to evict him as he hasn't been paying the extra bedroom tax (it's a two bed and he's a single man alone) he seems to think he won't get evicted due to his mental health. I'm not sure how true that is, but it's still a couple of months until that happens anyway.
If he doesn't get evicted I'm not sure what I might do. Both mine and my mum's health has been declining badly due to this. We've tried applying to move to other houses anyway but even though we are in the highest bracket we can be on property pool we never get them, so we're stuck.
Mum is also concerned that if he knocks and I answer the door before she can about what will happen as I'm primed to explode at him. I really am. I just don't care anymore, I'm actually hoping he threatens me or assaults me so we can get him arrested and get a decent nights sleep. But then if he gets out, she has the worry still about what he might do.
Started writing this at 5am after he had been at this for an hour. Its gotten louder since then. Forgot to add he will go out for hours at a time and leave it on while out as well. Hatehatehate him.
