The ones that were originally circulated, with him smiling- I had assumed they were the foster mother’s photos?
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I'll put the verdict in the title.
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I'll put the verdict in the title.
New thread here:
Preston Davey Trial #6 Defendants Found Guilty Of All Charges
Please continue the discussion here. Sentencing is due tomorrow, Thursday 18th June. Link to previous thread: https://tattle.life/threads/preston-davey-trial-5.52801/
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Happy birthday sweet little Preston 🤍
Have you ever been through breast cancer treatment? Because I have and I couldn't have cared for a baby through active treatment. She was in her sixties and had breast cancer - there was no guarantee she would recover or what lasting effects treatment would have on her. It's not like you finish active treatment and you're back to normal. The treatment itself has lasting effects and there is usually further drug treatment of one kind or another that continues afterwards, potentially for years. There is always the risk of recurrence. The side effects of ongoing drug treatments can be brutal, some of the primary ones being fatigue and cognitive effects. With all the love and will in the world, she just may not have been capable of taking care of him, and that would have been impossible to predict. Preston needed stability. The whole situation around that poor sweet baby was a series of tragedies but I don't think the adoption decision was inherently wrong with the information available at that time. No one could have predicted the course of events.The right course of action? It got him grape and killed ffs. His grandmother could care for him and she wanted to. What gives any outsider the right to say otherwise? She was his flesh and blood. All she asked for was support and time from social services (who I thought were all for keeping families together) but they were much more interested in handing a baby over to any old Tom, fool or Jamie.
Just because Preston’s nan wanted him doesn’t mean it was the correct placement for him. She’s in her late 60s, has cancer & seems to have some care for Sarah Davey’s daughter. How would she have coped with Preston’s poor sleep & reflux while having cancer treatment?The right course of action? It got him grape and killed ffs. His grandmother could care for him and she wanted to. What gives any outsider the right to say otherwise? She was his flesh and blood. All she asked for was support and time from social services (who I thought were all for keeping families together
If he stayed with nan he would’ve been aware of his mum, potentially developed a relationship with her & suffered when disappears back to prison every so often. She didn’t change her ways for her daughter so wouldn’t have for Preston. Also the first trial mentioned the foster carer who stayed with Preston’s foster carer having cared for Preston’s sister so it may not be clear cut that nan had Preston’s sister.
That’s aside from any possible concerns about Nan’s parenting abilities & capacity to properly safeguard the children from any risk the parents might pose.
We can’t assume Preston could have stayed with his foster parents long term, nor that he could have returned to them if he had been removed from JV & JMF’s care.
Adoption would have given him the best shot at forming healthy attachment, which underpins your relationships for the rest of your life.
There are no easy choices in this situation. Other than Preston’s parents doing the responsible thing & using contraception in the first place.
I'm a kinship social worker so my bread and butter is assessing friends and family to care for children they know when their parents can't do so safely, usually within very tight timescales set by court (about 12-16 weeks if we're lucky).The right course of action? It got him grape and killed ffs. His grandmother could care for him and she wanted to. What gives any outsider the right to say otherwise? She was his flesh and blood. All she asked for was support and time from social services (who I thought were all for keeping families together
As Preston's grandmother had breast cancer at the time of care proceedings, she likely wouldn't have made it through the medical checks that are required for any kinship assessment. You don't need to be in perfect health, but undergoing treatment for a serious illness where the prognosis is unclear could well have ruled her out early doors unfortunately. As someone mentioned in another post, the push is to quickly secure permanency for a baby as young as Preston, so the courts sadly would not have extended proceedings to wait for grandmother to finish treatment. Its just absolutely devastating that he ended up with two monsters instead of other family members or better adopters.
I repeat, I am asking you a question about your comment..
if it’s not a red flag for adoption, then what’s it a red flag for?
I don’t think people on the outside understand how difficult the process is. The initial “so you’re thinking about applying” sessions I know of guaranteed to leave people walking out the door, and crying. It’s really a tough process (although beings psychopath probably makes it easier, explains how these two managed it)
It is though
This is vile. The eye rolling, snappishness and rudeness…that poor baby
Gosh he just oozes contempt that he is even being questioned about the possibility that he may have harmed Preston.
If I was the questioning officer, I would have struggled to restrain itself.
Hes such an arrogant scumbag.
If I was the questioning officer, I would have struggled to restrain itself.
Hes such an arrogant scumbag.
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