Pregnancy

[Easilyannoyed]

Yay I’m soooo happy for you!! And your tiny tadpole When you have your twelve week scan it’ll be magical - seeing baby having a party in your tummy. So so pleased for you x

I am just very anxious thank you for your message really nice bunch in the group! So odd being on my own without my partner I cried and was speechless the nurse was really nice as well. Still can’t contact a midwife though x

 

[HoneyBee29]

I don’t know if they are still doing 4d. Just that they’re open under the medical scan ‘loophole’. I say loophole because much of the time it’s people wanting rather than needing to see baby - you don’t need a referral or good reason I don’t think, but I guess you could say any scan is always reassurance to some degree.

WTTW where I am from is only now offering a fetal or a growth scan. I had originally booked my 4D scan around November time and it wasn’t for medical reasons or anything but then was told by my midwife before Christmas that my bump is measuring bigger than it should be and they wouldn’t give me a scan unless they measured me again in a few weeks time and I was still measuring over. She told me not to worry about it but I’m a worrier so I’ve opted to do the growth scan cause the 4D was cancelled. If I didn’t have that worry I would have just got a refund as I did technically only book in the first place to have a 4D scan. Saying that no other clinics here are currently offering 4D scans. They messaged me saying under the new regulations they can’t do 4D scans at the minute so technically they probably shouldn’t be doing them. England is also far more restricted than NI as far as I’m aware

That’s the email they sent out today

 

[Macmama]

Hi lovely people just wondering if anyone can help settle my nerves.

I’m 28 weeks, FTM, baby was very unplanned but a happy surprise. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 7 years. We are very close. I keep getting jittery / panicky about how this is going to change our relationship. I really treasure our alone time and I know we won’t really have any again. I’m scared, if I’m honest, that we’ll grow apart! If anyone wants to share the positive ways in which having a baby changed their relationship I would be so grateful... feels like from the minute you get pregnant people love to tell you how crap your life’s gonna be...

People are always so ready to rain on your parade...

Yes, having a new baby is a strain. You’re tired, you’re emotional, you’re stressed. So is your partner. Yes, it’s a change in your relationship. But all of that is manageable through communicating, honesty and remembering that you’re a team.

My DH was a single dad when I met him,
our now eldest boy was 2.5. His first wife passed when baby boy was 3 months old. I think that gave him a lot of insight into cherishing having that relationship and support. It also meant he was very, very good when the rest of our brood came along, and was already comfortable being a dad. He was a brilliant dad on his own to our biggest lad, and it was actually one of the reasons I said yes to marrying him.

I love watching him as a dad. It’s a really lovely thing to see another side of the person you love. He’s kind, he’s gentle, he’s the bringer of fun, the fixer of problems. and our kids adore him. Seeing your partner with your tiny newborn is all kinds of lovely (I think it’s something monkey-brain about seeing strong man with little human that makes you want more!) Seeing your 9 year old run straight for his dad when he scores a goal at footie is also just as lovely. I love our time as a family, I love being together as a six. I’m so glad our kids have him as their dad.

Yes, you’ll argue, you’ll disagree, there will be rooster ups. You’re learning to be parents, and a family together. It’s only a true issue if you let it be

 

[Definitelyme]

People are always so ready to rain on your parade...

Yes, having a new baby is a strain. You’re tired, you’re emotional, you’re stressed. So is your partner. Yes, it’s a change in your relationship. But all of that is manageable through communicating, honesty and remembering that you’re a team.

My DH was a single dad when I met him,
our now eldest boy was 2.5. His first wife passed when baby boy was 3 months old. I think that gave him a lot of insight into cherishing having that relationship and support. It also meant he was very, very good when the rest of our brood came along, and was already comfortable being a dad. He was a brilliant dad on his own to our biggest lad, and it was actually one of the reasons I said yes to marrying him.

I love watching him as a dad. It’s a really lovely thing to see another side of the person you love. He’s kind, he’s gentle, he’s the bringer of fun, the fixer of problems. and our kids adore him. Seeing your partner with your tiny newborn is all kinds of lovely (I think it’s something monkey-brain about seeing strong man with little human that makes you want more!) Seeing your 9 year old run straight for his dad when he scores a goal at footie is also just as lovely. I love our time as a family, I love being together as a six. I’m so glad our kids have him as their dad.

Yes, you’ll argue, you’ll disagree, there will be rooster ups. You’re learning to be parents, and a family together. It’s only a true issue if you let it be

bloody hell, talk about making a whole load of hormonal women cry, that is beautiful

 

[Hbirdette]

I’ve just had a massive order from Boots arrive with 5 packs of maternity pads, Tena pants, cotton wool, breast pads, the lot can start packing my hospital bag now!

I had mine come the other day! Those pads are biiiiiig all our nursery furniture and pram is getting delivered next week too... starting to feel very real now!

 

[Upintheair83]

I’ve just had a massive order from Boots arrive with 5 packs of maternity pads, Tena pants, cotton wool, breast pads, the lot can start packing my hospital bag now!

Eeeeek! Exciting!!!! xx

 

[Kitt]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this tit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit tit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

 

[Definitelyme]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this tit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit tit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

I HATE it when people act like you should be grateful to feel like rit. Or that if you express any negativity about feeling like you’ve been run over that you somehow are ungrateful for being pregnant. You can very much want and love your baby, and STILL be allowed to feel down/annoyed/frustrated/angry/upset that you feel like utter crap all the time. My husband very much wants our babies too- but he gets to skip the crappy parts and nobody mentions that!

I’m so sorry you feel so awful. I truly do understand how it feels that reaching 40 weeks is an insurmountable task. But I promise you will get there. Pregnancy is hard on the body, it’s exhausting and draining in every way. And you have every right to not enjoy that. Don’t listen to you mum.

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this tit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit tit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

I haven’t started to feel sick yet but the dizziness I am getting is horrible you are allowed to feel however you want to feel I can’t imagine feeling so sick is a nice feeling for anyone. My mum doesn’t understand I can’t eat certain things obviously because when I was born there wasn’t google or even mobile phones so she thinks I’m being really ott. Mums are just like that aren’t they

 

[StrawberryCream]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this tit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit tit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

Hopefully it subsides soon I had awful nausea without being sick from week 7-12 in this pregnancy and felt like I couldn’t complain about it as I had a miscarriage a few months previous to falling pregnant, I actually did moan to my mother in law about it and the fact I could only eat ice poles and she just said oh well at least you know the pregnancy is going well! Most of the time sickness goes away in the 2nd trimester but those first few months can be so hard!

 

[littlepup]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this tit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit tit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

Tell her to have a chat with me
I HATE pregnancy, I hate everything about it. From about 7 weeks I felt sick every day and when that stopped I have been in excruciating pain 24/7 bar about 2 weeks respite. My bits are ruined, my a is huge, I’m constipated, I sweat like crazy, have random hairs growing in random places and I can’t sleep. Worst of all, it’s totally ducked with my mental health and relationships because I’ve been such a witch to everyone.

Do I want this baby? More than anything!!!
Will I be pregnant again? God willing, absolutely!!!
Does any of this really matter at all? Not a chance, but right now it’s not ideal.
I’m 38, nearly 39, this is my first pregnancy, I am very well aware of longing for a baby and it never happening, I do not take it for granted, I appreciate how lucky and what a privilege it is to have this. But I don’t like it.
It’s a process to get to the goal. You don’t have to like the process and you don’t have to pretend it’s not tit to want the end result.

If you say you hate dieting and exercise but want to get slim no one says you should be lucky to have the food or the legs to run, they accept it. Don’t like flying but love the holiday, that’s fair enough ‘all that travelling is such a pain’ they’ll say.
There’s something about pregnancy that people seem to think they can just tit on, give opinions that makes you want to just keep your mouth shut. Don’t, don’t let their negativity guilt you or make you feel tit. (Obviously you can be tactful but) You’re allowed to feel whatever you want to feel.

Oh and pregnancy has actually cleared my skin right up so there’s a positive

 

[HoneyBee29]

I hate ‘breast is best’. No. Fed is best. My friend felt so much pressure to breast feed that her son started to lose weight. The moment he was put on formula he gained weight like anything. I’m a firm believer in doing what is right for you and your baby because in 18 years, no child is going to give a damn about how they were fed as an infant.

My cousins partner was all ‘breast is best’ with her first baby as she breastfed her. Then she had her 2nd baby in the summer of this year and had to end up formula feeding as the 2nd baby didn’t take to breastfeeding which is perfectly fine, but think she’s now changed her tune about it

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Its a bit dodgy if WTTW is doing 4D scans under the label of reassurance. A standard USS is one thing but a 4D scan is definitely not for reassurance, its a high price point scan which earns them lots of cash. Don't flame me, I know everyone wants access to these things but it's a bit unfair on the sonographers being exposed to customers and their partners and potential COVID risk in the name of a 4D scan. (Unfair from an employment point of view) I had a scan in the first lockdown because I'd been bleeding for 9 days and EPAU wouldn't see me, turned out I'd practically completed a miscarriage by that point so there are good reasons for a private scan in lockdown but I'm not sure a 4D one is one in my book.

Obviously others will have their opinion, I'm just surprised they are exploiting a loop hole by being fast and loose with the reasons for the scan.


The midwife said to go to A+E? That seems like a terrible plan given the current COVID situation. Is there any numbers for you to call maternity triage/EPAU to get seen directly?

I agree I've got numbers for maternity and epu so I'll call in the morning. So far I've managed to keep down some good old irn bru

 

[Tui]

Feeling a bit rubbish this evening. My mom called and asked how I am, I said feeling a bit down what with feeling sick all day every day. I just feel a bit pathetic being this floored by pregnancy when I’m not even 6 weeks. And she said ‘well you wanted to be pregnant.’ And all this tit. Basically telling me off for feeling down.

Of course I want to be pregnant. I’m so so happy I’m pregnant, I feel so lucky. But surely I’m also allowed to feel a bit fed up with feeling sick all day every day so early in pregnancy. I feel like I have a long road ahead and it overwhelmed me a bit this evening. My moms never had morning sickness so she can hardly comment. Just feel a bit tit now. Won’t be telling her anything, I’ll just tell her I’m fine if she asks.

I think your mum probably has no idea how it feels. When you’re nauseous it doesn’t take long for you to be thoroughly fed up! First trimester is exhausting and so far it’s the worst I felt (30 weeks now)

 

[Definitelyme]

First trimester is technically the shortest (if you find out at 4 weeks and it ends at 13 then that’s “only” 9 weeks) but feels like 47yrs.

 

[StrawberryCream]

First trimester is technically the shortest (if you find out at 4 weeks and it ends at 13 then that’s “only” 9 weeks) but feels like 47yrs.

Waiting for the 12 week scan is the worst the last few weeks of pregnancy are such a drag too

 

[Definitelyme]

Waiting for the 12 week scan is the worst the last few weeks of pregnancy are such a drag too

Yes, if you end up at 42 weeks (as I have done, twice...) those extra weeks also feel like 100yrs

Pregnancy is bloody long! Imagine how a poor elephant must feel. 22months of it all.

I wonder do animals get morning sickness? there’s a thought for the day!

 

[StrawberryCream]

Yes, if you end up at 42 weeks (as I have done, twice...) those extra weeks also feel like 100yrs

Pregnancy is bloody long! Imagine how a poor elephant must feel. 22months of it all.

I wonder do animals get morning sickness? there’s a thought for the day!

42 weeks (twice) must of been awful!! I have 1 daughter (second daughter due April) and I got induced with her at 39+5, got the date given to me the week earlier when to go in to hospital and it was the longest wait of my life

 

[Definitelyme]

42 weeks (twice) must of been awful!! I have 1 daughter (second daughter due April) and I got induced with her at 39+5, got the date given to me the week earlier when to go in to hospital and it was the longest wait of my life

It was horrendous with the first, and I accepted my fate with the second even then they both had to be yanked out, I’m clearly a comfy home! No3 was a planned section and done at 39 weeks exactly, I couldn’t believe my luck to have three whole weeks shaved off! Hoping this one is also at 39 weeks (also section) as that’s what I’m counting down to

 

[HoneyBee29]

This is my first and I’m nearly 29 weeks and I think it’s flew in personally up to now anyway. Doesn’t feel like that long ago that I found out.

Waiting for the 12 week scan is the worst the last few weeks of pregnancy are such a drag too

It did drag a wee bit up to the 12 week scan but from there I think mine has flew in