Pregnancy

[elloelloello]

YaaY what was it like? I really want to book my own private scan but just really nervous! Really happy for you thanks for letting us all know xxxx

It was fine, I had it through the NHS and it was an internal. Very nerve wracking and I had to go by myself but just a huge relief it’s not ectopic.
Try not to be nervous, and if you want an early scan then go for it! Xxx

 

[StrawberryCream]

I guess mainly the fact that things can still go wrong between now and the 20 week scan and lots still can't be picked up till that scan so should I really tell lots of people.

It's not like I did an influencer style announcement or anything, but have told close family and friends which is quite a fair few, and I kinda had a bit of a panicky episode just now thinking about it. Haven't told anyone at work yet, might tell my boss in a couple of weeks but that's about it.

12 weeks is usually considered a safe point to tell people you are pregnant, although anything can happen at any point in pregnancy. I have had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and found out at the 12 week scan and I hadn’t told anyone I was pregnant but decided to then tell my friends and family about the miscarriage in the end anyway

 

[swimming]

So I’m 16+2 and seeing my midwife tomorrow (shocked I’m actually seeing someone!), and for the past 24 hours I’ve had very light period type cramps on and off in my belly. Also a feeling of sharp pulling lower down where my uterus is.

It’s my first baby so I’m not sure if this is normal? I’d rather not fall down the rabbit hole of google

 

[littlepup]

Did anyone panic after telling friends and family and worry they shouldn't have? We waited until after 12 weeks but now I'm worrying that we should have only told immediate family, and then the rest after 20 weeks.

We told our parents within about half an hour of finding out.
We had to tell other family due to a Covid risk situation around 8 weeks. I told close friends around 14 weeks, (after genetic test results) and only allowed mention of it social media after 24.
24 weeks made more sense to me as it's the viability threshold for medical care/ life saving intervention for baby.
"At 22-23 weeks, 'standard practice should be not to resuscitate the baby'; by 24-25 weeks, 'normal practice' should be to offer 'full invasive intensive care and support' unless the baby is in a very bad way."

I'm glad they knew because I would have wanted their support if the worst did happen and I would have wanted it to be acknowledged. It would've been a loss for them too, not that I'd want them to be be hurting but I'd have felt less alone.

It’s my first baby so I’m not sure if this is normal? I’d rather not fall down the rabbit hole of google

Just Google 'Round ligament pain' - see if that sounds right

 

[StrawberryCream]

So I’m 16+2 and seeing my midwife tomorrow (shocked I’m actually seeing someone!), and for the past 24 hours I’ve had very light period type cramps on and off in my belly. Also a feeling of sharp pulling lower down where my uterus is.

It’s my first baby so I’m not sure if this is normal? I’d rather not fall down the rabbit hole of google

Totally normal to have cramps and pulling pains in the second and third trimester, I’m 23 weeks and have had loads of cramping and pulling, it’s the baby growing. If it’s really painful that you feel really worried then give your midwife or epu a phone and they will ease your mind

 

[swimming]

Totally normal to have cramps and pulling pains in the second and third trimester, I’m 23 weeks and have had loads of cramping and pulling, it’s the baby growing. If it’s really painful that you feel really worried then give your midwife or epu a phone and they will ease your mind

Aw thank you!! Tbh I’m going to speak to my midwife tomorrow about my sickness as I got told by the EPU at 8 weeks I had hyperemesis but they wouldn’t put me on a drip because I didn’t have ‘enough’ ketones in my urine. 9 weeks down the line I’m still suffering badly and I’m so dehydrated and now getting pains where I think my kidneys are it’s doing me in. Can’t believe they wouldn’t give me fluids. Dunno what my midwife can do but all my GP said was ‘go to the A&E’ which I wasn’t comfortable with cos it’s swarming with covid around here

 

[Kitt]

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

 

[WhatABore]

So I’m 16+2 and seeing my midwife tomorrow (shocked I’m actually seeing someone!), and for the past 24 hours I’ve had very light period type cramps on and off in my belly. Also a feeling of sharp pulling lower down where my uterus is.

It’s my first baby so I’m not sure if this is normal? I’d rather not fall down the rabbit hole of google

That all sounds normal!

 

[Upintheair83]

I’m 22 weeks and waited until 20 weeks to tell parents (still think I should have just told them after the birth ) and work. No one else knows apart from a couple of my friends. I’ve told them to keep quiet and not tell any other family members, maybe I’m weird but I just hate people knowing my business, asking how things are and all the anxiety in case something is wrong. I could never be an influencer!

I’m gonna hold off telling colleagues for as long as possible too (they’ll probably find out whenever my maternity cover role goes online), can’t be arsed with repetitive conversations and how I’ll probably never get a good night’s sleep again.

Oh I hate that when people tell you how bad it is when you become a mum- how you will never sleep again, and never do this and never do that! It’s not that I’m not realistic but it’s not really helpful is it? I find it all abit negative.

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

Thinking of you and hope all goes ok. Lots of love xx

 

[WhatABore]

Aw thank you!! Tbh I’m going to speak to my midwife tomorrow about my sickness as I got told by the EPU at 8 weeks I had hyperemesis but they wouldn’t put me on a drip because I didn’t have ‘enough’ ketones in my urine. 9 weeks down the line I’m still suffering badly and I’m so dehydrated and now getting pains where I think my kidneys are it’s doing me in. Can’t believe they wouldn’t give me fluids. Dunno what my midwife can do but all my GP said was ‘go to the A&E’ which I wasn’t comfortable with cos it’s swarming with covid around here

If you've been dehydrated and can feel pains where your kidneys are, definitely talk to someone.
I had this along with the pulling pain you described and it was a UTI. Had no other symptoms apart from that!

 

[Stimpii]

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

Fingers crossed everything is ok x

 

[WhatABore]

Oh I hate that when people tell you how bad it is when you become a mum- how you will never sleep again, and never do this and never do that! It’s not that I’m not realistic but it’s not really helpful is it? I find it all abit negative.

Thinking of you and hope all goes ok. Lots of love xx

I hated all the comments when I was pregnant with my first. People ask how you are and you say tired. And their response was "Just wait until you've had the baby, then you'll know what tired is"
I hate all the comments

 

[Squiggle]

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

So glad they've arranged a scan for you. Thinking of you xxx

 

[Upintheair83]

So Iv got an appointment on Thursday with the obstetrician- I’m 15 weeks- and I have no idea why I’m seeing him. I presume it’s because I’m high risk due to my age and a heart problem. But what sort of thing should I expect when I get there? Will he do tests? Or just talk to me? I’m getting abit anxious about it because I don’t know what to expect! I know that sounds abit silly, but I just don’t know what sort of things they deal with. I’m totally clueless

 

[littlepup]

I hated all the comments when I was pregnant with my first. People ask how you are and you say tired. And their response was "Just wait until you've had the baby, then you'll know what tired is"
I hate all the comments

I argued with my mum about this kind of thing the other day. It's been almost 40 years since she had babies, not every single thing I say needs her input. Just let me have it.
I wish people would just stop bleeping saying 'Oh just you wait...' like it's some kind of competition or they need to show how much they know and how naive I am. I get it, I'm well aware it's hard, but it's my experience, let me find out just like you did, just like every single other mother did.
It's never constructive and like 'Oh, the tiredness doesn't get better for a long time but google 4th trimester and get a white noise machine" - It's always "Just you wait, you don't know tired until you've had a newborn screaming and puking on the bed at 4am *smug smile*"

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

I'm so glad you're going in, everything you said indicated a serious situation not to be ignored. I so hope it's just regular pregnancy twangs and relieved that you'll know for sure

Please ladies, there's no room for 'I don't want to bother them' or 'It's probably nothing, don't want to cause a fuss'. The way things are right now with reduced midwife contact, lack of face to face, stay informed of the key symptoms for common complications like diabetes and pre-eclampsia and advocate for yourself with the professionals. Miscarriage is not the worst outcome, pregnancy is the most dangerous thing the average woman can go through.

So Iv got an appointment on Thursday with the obstetrician- I’m 15 weeks- and I have no idea why I’m seeing him. I presume it’s because I’m high risk due to my age and a heart problem. But what sort of thing should I expect when I get there? Will he do tests? Or just talk to me? I’m getting abit anxious about it because I don’t know what to expect! I know that sounds abit silly, but I just don’t know what sort of things they deal with. I’m totally clueless

The Pregnancy Book | HSC Public Health Agency (hscni.net) - chapter 2 might help
Or This
Good to ask those kind of questions when they book you or call your midwives and ask, they will definitively know all of the answers, each hospital can be different.
At first I found myself overwhelmed and shell-shocked every contact and I'd forget everything they said. Now I write down and write down questions before appointments.

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Hi everyone, on my way to the hospital. After last night I had a little bit of blood in my discharge a couple of times today. I called GP and he took it very seriously and I’m going in for a scan to check it’s not ectopic.

Thank you for telling me to call. I wouldn’t have done it otherwise. I’ll let you know how it goes xx

Hope everything is okay x

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Hope everything is okay x

Hope everything is ok for you x have no idea how to reply to multiple people but I am sure everyone in the group is thinking of you x

 

[Jg182]

Had my 12 week scan today. Measuring 13 weeks. Been told baby has too much fluid at back of neck measuring 5.3mm. Got to wait on blood test results then keep testing for chromosome issues if comes back high chance. Said other issues could include heart defects.
I’m devastated. I can’t find any postive stories online.

 

[WhatABore]

So Iv got an appointment on Thursday with the obstetrician- I’m 15 weeks- and I have no idea why I’m seeing him. I presume it’s because I’m high risk due to my age and a heart problem. But what sort of thing should I expect when I get there? Will he do tests? Or just talk to me? I’m getting abit anxious about it because I don’t know what to expect! I know that sounds abit silly, but I just don’t know what sort of things they deal with. I’m totally clueless

I think it'll be similar questions to a midwife appointment.
They'll probably tell you the risks included with you being a bit older, anything that may affect your heart, and how they'll be keeping an eye on you. I'd imagine that's about it

I argued with my mum about this kind of thing the other day. It's been almost 40 years since she had babies, not every single thing I say needs her input. Just let me have it.
I wish people would just stop bleeping saying 'Oh just you wait...' like it's some kind of competition or they need to show how much they know and how naive I am. I get it, I'm well aware it's hard, but it's my experience, let me find out just like you did, just like every single other mother did.
It's never constructive and like 'Oh, the tiredness doesn't get better for a long time but google 4th trimester and get a white noise machine" - It's always "Just you wait, you don't know tired until you've had a newborn screaming and puking on the bed at 4am *smug smile*"


I'm so glad you're going in, everything you said indicated a serious situation not to be ignored. I so hope it's just regular pregnancy twangs and relieved that you'll know for sure

Please ladies, there's no room for 'I don't want to bother them' or 'It's probably nothing, don't want to cause a fuss'. The way things are right now with reduced midwife contact, lack of face to face, stay informed of the key symptoms for common complications like diabetes and pre-eclampsia and advocate for yourself with the professionals. Miscarriage is not the worst outcome, pregnancy is the most dangerous thing the average woman can go through.


The Pregnancy Book | HSC Public Health Agency (hscni.net) - chapter 2 might help
Or This
Good to ask those kind of questions when they book you or call your midwives and ask, they will definitively know all of the answers, each hospital can be different.
At first I found myself overwhelmed and shell-shocked every contact and I'd forget everything they said. Now I write down and write down questions before appointments.

Exactly.
And then after you've had your baby, you can say about how good they are, how well they sleep or bad, how chilled they are ect ect. And it's always "Oh just wait until this stage, just wait until that age"

None of it has been as bad as anyone has ever made out.
Even now when I've experienced it twice, I still get told "Just wait until labour if you're in pain now. Just wait until you have 3"
How about just wait until you shut up

Had my 12 week scan today. Measuring 13 weeks. Been told baby has too much fluid at back of neck measuring 5.3mm. Got to wait on blood test results then keep testing for chromosome issues if comes back high chance. Said other issues could include heart defects.
I’m devastated. I can’t find any postive stories online.

Sorry to hear this
I can't advice as it isn't something I've experienced personally.
All the stories online tend to be the bad ones though, people don't tend to write about the good stories

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Had my 12 week scan today. Measuring 13 weeks. Been told baby has too much fluid at back of neck measuring 5.3mm. Got to wait on blood test results then keep testing for chromosome issues if comes back high chance. Said other issues could include heart defects.
I’m devastated. I can’t find any postive stories online.

Exactly what @WhatABore said, you never do hear positive stories online because they get a good outcome. Sorry I don't have any advice either.