I just saw this (even though my baby is now 6 months)
so tested out our 12 week and 20 week scan photos and it got them wrong so I wouldn’t rely on ChatGPT haha! So annoying though and totally not okay x
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so tested out our 12 week and 20 week scan photos and it got them wrong so I wouldn’t rely on ChatGPT haha! So annoying though and totally not okay x
Wow thank you for the advice!! I’ll check it out
I’m terms of delivery with a big baby how did it go? Any issues or anything I should know? 
thank you xx
Week 11 is kicking my a general aches and pains wise. I know it's normal and probably just everything rearranging itself for bab's hotel to increase in size but I've got 12 week scan tomorrow so it's getting me nice and twitchy for that 
Doesn't help I'm having a really stressful time at work.
Doesn't help I'm having a really stressful time at work.
Since returning to work last week after being signed off with WRS, my manager (who is the problem, and after having done some reading and prior experience of people like this and being very therapised, I think she may be on the diagnosable end of problem personality 
) has ramped everything up in terms of obfuscating, cruelty and has made vague allusions to having me removed from the team/my job. Have gone to union and am meeting with a volunteer bullying support/advice person tomorrow. Have confided in trusted senior people I work with. Job apps flying out. But of course I'm terrified this stress will hurt babbikin in some way (even though I know rationally it is probably fine and me stressing about stressing won't help)
) has ramped everything up in terms of obfuscating, cruelty and has made vague allusions to having me removed from the team/my job. Have gone to union and am meeting with a volunteer bullying support/advice person tomorrow. Have confided in trusted senior people I work with. Job apps flying out. But of course I'm terrified this stress will hurt babbikin in some way (even though I know rationally it is probably fine and me stressing about stressing won't help)
I'd be tempted to tell work about the pregnancy. Pregnancy is a protected characteristic, if she continues her behaviour and does ANYTHING to discriminate pregnancy related you can take legal action under the equality act. They also have to ensure they're making reasonable accommodations to prevent risk to your or the baby's health which may mean removing her as your manager.Week 11 is kicking my a general aches and pains wise. I know it's normal and probably just everything rearranging itself for bab's hotel to increase in size but I've got 12 week scan tomorrow so it's getting me nice and twitchy for that
Doesn't help I'm having a really stressful time at work.Since returning to work last week after being signed off with WRS, my manager (who is the problem, and after having done some reading and prior experience of people like this and being very therapised, I think she may be on the diagnosable end of problem personality
Adult bullying is the absolute worst.
Yes I get it. I also get lightning bumThis is so weird but I’m 37+5, does anyone else have “rectal pressure” lol…like I feel pressure in my hole like I need to go for a poo but I don’tpls someone tell me I’m not crazy
keep an eye, when I went into labour with my first it was rapid and the only sign I had as I wasn’t contracting like you expect to- was feeling a back pressure like I needed to go to the toilet and couldn’t stop. 
Was also thinking the same thing. Shouldn’t be happening to you full stop, but really, really could get a lot of people in a huge amount of trouble as you’re pregnant. Particularly all this alluding to your role being no longer and all that rit.
Definitely tell HR you are pregnant, I know you may not want to with it being 12 weeks but hopefully this will make them back off as the others suggested pregnancy is protected and the last thing any business would want would be an tribunal!Week 11 is kicking my a general aches and pains wise. I know it's normal and probably just everything rearranging itself for bab's hotel to increase in size but I've got 12 week scan tomorrow so it's getting me nice and twitchy for that
Doesn't help I'm having a really stressful time at work.Since returning to work last week after being signed off with WRS, my manager (who is the problem, and after having done some reading and prior experience of people like this and being very therapised, I think she may be on the diagnosable end of problem personality
I’m sorry you are going through this at a time that should be precious xx
thanks all. Manager (and trusted seniors) know I'm pregnant and I've told the union in my headlines email, but I think I will get onto the HR person next week. I don't fully trust them (and I think Manager may have got to them first, there's been a whole drama because doctor wrote me a phased return and I told her how I was going to do my hours and she did not like that)
I've also got an Occupational Health appointment on Weds, so will be able to get something down in writing there. (This will be a larf because she made me go Occy Health for my autism/cPTSD earlier this year, they wrote me some very garden variety recs (i.e. give instructions in clear, specific written form, which I've never had to ask for before because every other role I've had at this org it's just been ...standard practice for people to follow up verbal instructions in writing
) and she's refused to comply to them and keeps arguing about how it's not possible.
It'll all come out in the wash and I'm feeling a lot better now I've rationalised what's going on so I'm not going to be constantly being triggered and upset because 'why is she acting like this'. Now I can focus on the fact it's not me, it's her, I won't be constantly shocked by unreasonable behaviour and whatever I do provoking a reaction and I can just emotionally detach. Which isn't easy when you're a seething ball of hormones but hopefully as I boogie into 2 tri it'll get easier.
I've also got an Occupational Health appointment on Weds, so will be able to get something down in writing there. (This will be a larf because she made me go Occy Health for my autism/cPTSD earlier this year, they wrote me some very garden variety recs (i.e. give instructions in clear, specific written form, which I've never had to ask for before because every other role I've had at this org it's just been ...standard practice for people to follow up verbal instructions in writing
) and she's refused to comply to them and keeps arguing about how it's not possible.It'll all come out in the wash and I'm feeling a lot better now I've rationalised what's going on so I'm not going to be constantly being triggered and upset because 'why is she acting like this'. Now I can focus on the fact it's not me, it's her, I won't be constantly shocked by unreasonable behaviour and whatever I do provoking a reaction and I can just emotionally detach. Which isn't easy when you're a seething ball of hormones but hopefully as I boogie into 2 tri it'll get easier.
Have had my first proper emotional day today. Like properly weird crying. I’m so tired because I keep waking up in the night and then struggling to go back to sleep and it’s not even because I need a wee. I’m just awake - my eyes are sore and yet AWAKE. Everything just feels like a lot and then I’m comparing my productivity vs mums who have these big careers and all I do is just look after my little one. Ugh. Some sleep and like a cool million pounds would really help right now.
Totally missed that there was a new thread! 38 weeks today and officially on maternity leave! Husband gets back from a trip tonight so I can start to relax now. Other than the fact that I’ve got really sore haemorrhoids . Struggled with them on off since my first birth but it’s got bad now I’m nearly full term! Going to need a trip to the pharmacy tomorrow but can only see that getting worse post birth!
. Struggled with them on off since my first birth but it’s got bad now I’m nearly full term! Going to need a trip to the pharmacy tomorrow but can only see that getting worse post birth!What are you all thinking for travel systems? I find the whole pram thing completely overwhelming (and expensive) and have no idea where to even begin. Some of them look so big and clunky and awkward and I quite fancy something nippy enough. Had a bit of a look in a few shops yesterday and think I’ve an idea of what I’d like for most of the bits but the pram I am completely lost
choose your car seat then it’s narrowed down by default how many travel systems it will fit on making it a bit easier is my advice xx
I’ve had horrid indigestion all day. Went out for dinner last night and probably overdid the portion control but it wasn’t particularly rich or spicy. I actually had a couple of Rennies earlier because it was bothering me so much, and I absolutely hate the texture of Rennies.
@ahtisyourself we went to a pram superstore place that probably sold every single type on the market. We had a type in mind (all terrain) and asked to see the Mamas & Papas Ocarro then asked to see any other all terrain system they recommended (it’s an independent place). Won’t lie, the all terrain ones are heavy, we just decided it might work best for the various places we will go. They had lots of systems that reckoned they were designed for city/urban life etc. as well. So, we got all of the all terrain ones demonstrated to us then went back round them and had a go ourselves at changing the things over and collapsing it, rebuilding it and pushing it around the shop. We of course have settled on a brutally expensive one that only came out this year so isn’t available second hand yet (Maxi-Cosi Fame). Typical. I did have a ‘I am overwhelmed and I don’t know what I’m doing here’ meltdown in the shop but we were browsing by ourselves initially and as soon as we spoke to an assistant I got over myself. They were not remotely pushy in there either.
I had decided a hi-lo chair was going to be a godsend and was eyeing up the Mamas and Papas Eno, which is crazy money at £350 but is supposed to last in various shapes for years and if we buy the pram we like from Mamas and Papas we will actually get money off other items in there so it would make the Eno affordable. But my sister in law had said to MrDragName that weaning and introducing food was a very messy business and they quickly sold their fancy chair for the Ikea £13 all plastic thing that can be fully wiped cleaned as she has memories of hours spent scrubbing the fabric parts of their old high chair. This has got me thinking. What I wanted was:
-something suitable from birth and onwards (I feel better about expensive purchases if they are at least designed to be used for years, even though there’s a risk my son will hate whatever we get)
-something he can recline in both on the floor and higher up in the hope he can be part of our mealtimes/knock about in the kitchen with me safely/have something to be in in the front room that’s not just a Moses basket or bassinet or play mat.
-something that will become a high chair for feeding in future years. Some models even convert to a little play table and chair to last even longer which is cool but not as necessary.
Now I’m wondering if this is daft. Happy to get a total wipe clean high chair, but what can I stick the boy wonder in from birth/early weeks that will allow him to be close to me whilst I’m doing stuff but not necessarily in a carry/papoose thing? Any thoughts? Am I kidding myself that I will ever get to eat my dinner with two hands and without a child on me? Haha.
@ahtisyourself we went to a pram superstore place that probably sold every single type on the market. We had a type in mind (all terrain) and asked to see the Mamas & Papas Ocarro then asked to see any other all terrain system they recommended (it’s an independent place). Won’t lie, the all terrain ones are heavy, we just decided it might work best for the various places we will go. They had lots of systems that reckoned they were designed for city/urban life etc. as well. So, we got all of the all terrain ones demonstrated to us then went back round them and had a go ourselves at changing the things over and collapsing it, rebuilding it and pushing it around the shop. We of course have settled on a brutally expensive one that only came out this year so isn’t available second hand yet (Maxi-Cosi Fame). Typical. I did have a ‘I am overwhelmed and I don’t know what I’m doing here’ meltdown in the shop but we were browsing by ourselves initially and as soon as we spoke to an assistant I got over myself. They were not remotely pushy in there either.
I had decided a hi-lo chair was going to be a godsend and was eyeing up the Mamas and Papas Eno, which is crazy money at £350 but is supposed to last in various shapes for years and if we buy the pram we like from Mamas and Papas we will actually get money off other items in there so it would make the Eno affordable. But my sister in law had said to MrDragName that weaning and introducing food was a very messy business and they quickly sold their fancy chair for the Ikea £13 all plastic thing that can be fully wiped cleaned as she has memories of hours spent scrubbing the fabric parts of their old high chair. This has got me thinking. What I wanted was:
-something suitable from birth and onwards (I feel better about expensive purchases if they are at least designed to be used for years, even though there’s a risk my son will hate whatever we get)
-something he can recline in both on the floor and higher up in the hope he can be part of our mealtimes/knock about in the kitchen with me safely/have something to be in in the front room that’s not just a Moses basket or bassinet or play mat.
-something that will become a high chair for feeding in future years. Some models even convert to a little play table and chair to last even longer which is cool but not as necessary.
Now I’m wondering if this is daft. Happy to get a total wipe clean high chair, but what can I stick the boy wonder in from birth/early weeks that will allow him to be close to me whilst I’m doing stuff but not necessarily in a carry/papoose thing? Any thoughts? Am I kidding myself that I will ever get to eat my dinner with two hands and without a child on me? Haha.
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Got to say- massive fan of the ikea high chair! So easy to clean, some of the expensive ones seem to be a pain to get crumbs out of crevices etc! From about 15 months he has eaten at a little Argos chair and table and then we have a booster seat for when he’s sat with us at the dining table.
Have you looked at the Tripp Trapp? Sounds like it would suit your needs and can often be found pre-loved for a reasonable price.
I totally understand as this is happening to me and it’s hellish.
the other Saturday I was was working on the Sunday and lay in bed until 4am (I had to get to work by 10am) and just cried hysterically out of frustration.
Luckily my husband looked after me. He didn’t want me to go to work but I insisted (as if feel worse if I let ppl down) so he drove me in and waited until I’d finished just in case I needed him.
I swear by magnisum butter. You rub it on your feet before bed and it’s a game changer. I wasn’t sure it’d work but it’s massively helped my sleep x
This is the one I bought and I’ve used it for about a week now. Only one night I didn’t sleep very well but I managed to have a nap at 4-6pm which I’d never normally be able to do
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This is so nice thank you!This is the one I bought and I’ve used it for about a week now. Only one night I didn’t sleep very well but I managed to have a nap at 4-6pm which I’d never normally be able to do
Sweet Sleep Magnesium Butter
Our beautifully soft Sweet sleep Magnesium Butter has been gently formulated to contribute to a restful night. Made by hand using the finest natural ingredients and scented with pure lavender essential oil. An essential piece of wellbeing kit for everyday life, it supports relaxation before...
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