Pregnancy #64

[sushimama]

I bought one size up (because my boobs were non existent before pregnancy) and bottoms that tie and was able to wear them at 20week holiday, 34 week babymoon and will also be able to wear them this year while BF!

 

[RedPotter]

My partner is the chilled calm one in our relationship too so will be interesting to see how he is during labour
Parking is a nightmare at the hospital I will be giving birth as well.
We are doing an NCT course in a couple of weeks so I am hoping that will be helpful as well.
All I really know at the moment is that I want to try and avoid an induction!

 

[Cucumber and eggs]

Has anyone got a fit to fly / certificate from Doctor to fly? We go mid June and I’ll be 28 weeks. It’s a 5 hour flight. At what point would you ask the Dr for this, maybe end of May? Thanks x

I was over by a week. Ryan air cut off date is 28 weeks, my midwife did a fit to fly for me. When we flew out I had a massive coat on as it was the middle of the night and freezing, and they never noticed my tummy, but on the way back it was boiling in airport and I couldn't hide my tummy and they questioned me and asked for certificate. I think there may be different dates for different airlines

 

[Spencerskates]

I’ve just had my booking appointment at 10 weeks and the midwife was absolutely lovely but when I said I was thinking of a c-section and my reasoning (severe hip dysplasia which causes a lot of pain) she didn’t really comment other than confirming that’s what I wanted, and when I said I was open to suggestions she jumped on it and said she could definitely arrange someone to talk me through options. Is that normal? Is there a reason why they wouldn’t want me to have a c-section?

Is this your first pregnancy? You’re absolutely within your rights to choose, but I do think they like you to explore options with a first pregnancy if you’re open to do so as it obviously is major surgery, and then changes the game if you have any more pregnancies after having a section. I had an elective section with my first and while it was absolutely the right choice at the time, with hindsight I wouldn’t choose it again for my first. I ended up having another section as I didn’t want to be induced as the risks of an emergency section when going for a VBAC are much higher if you’re induced. There’s also the risk of uterine rupture which limits your options for a VBAC- for example I was advised against a waterbirth on the MLU. I could have still gone for it but it would have been against guidance meaning if anything went wrong they wouldn’t accept responsibility.

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Unfortunately inductions are pushed very heavily often for no real medical need and women are made to feel like they don't have a choice. I know it's easier said than done but try to block it out. You absolutely don't have to have one and unless there's a serious medical reason, you can give birth however you want.

Personally, my only hard no is an induction.

I had just never considered -how- they induce women and all this in depth talk of balloons when I’m stressed out my box with work sent me over the edge.

The obstetrician (who I’ve not yet met) has said I must have delivered by 40+6 which is oddly specific. His recommendation is sweeps at set periods, I forget what. I’d never actually thought about what that involved so reading about it was…. an education.

I dunno what to make of it all really. I’m high risk because I’m fat and old but that obviously doesn’t mean something is going to go wrong, only that they want to monitor me more and they think it might be more likely. I’ve not got to the stage where I’d get my extra checks anyway. I’ve got my 24 week appointment next week and I’m curious about my blood pressure because I’ve spent my week surrounded by idiots and feeling like I’m going to explode and having to work quite a lot of extra hours. But hopefully it’s fine and I’m more resilient than I think! If I remain tip top and healthy then hopefully I can swerve stuff I don’t want to do.

The book my midwife gave me at the booking appointment really leant towards natural birth with basically zero pain relief. It was very ‘do hypnobirthing’ ‘maybe have a single puff of gas and air’. I get there are downsides to pain medication and/or epidurals but I did wonder if this was the same barbarism by which they insert coils into women without local anaesthetic most of the time but they wouldn’t dream of doing something equivalent to a man without knocking him out cold. I felt it was a bit telling that my first midwife who is now on maternity leave with her second child said she had opted for an elective caesarean, though I obviously don’t know why.

 

[ahtisyourself]

What pregnancy vitamins are you guys taking? I’m taking Pregnacare gummies as they were recommended to me by my GP but am seeing a lot online about Viridian pregnancy complex, apparently it’s better? Or are they all basically gonna do the same thing lol. I hate a capsule that is too large so might stick with the gummies

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

My day has gotten worse would you believe

Spoiler: Trigger

bleeding a lot think I'm having a miscarriage

Spoiler: Potentially triggering

oh sweetie. Bleeding can be so scary and nerve wracking. It doesn’t always mean miscarriage. Do you have access to some pads? Midwives will always ask how much you are bleeding. Try and rest. Has there been any cramping? X

 

[Vmanxx]

I forgot about my kids parents nights tonight…I think I can probably get away with blaming baby brain

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

Same, they used to have a higher number e.g 1/50000 for downs which had been reduced so it sometimes seems a higher risk when it comes back now like 1/5000 and it’s low ?

Mine came back looking much ‘worse’ but it was the standalone quadruple not the NT scan and screening? So mine says 1/260 but low. But my NIPT was like 1/13,000 so I’m sticking to that.

 

[indeedjoy]

I’ve got a Moses basket & stand for downstairs and a sleepyhead (I know these are controversial) and then the next to me upstairs

Facebook marketplace always has a a lot of Moses baskets and you can buy new sheets /covers / mattress etc

 

[Spencerskates]

I have a friend who swears by the comb - she gave birth to an almost 9lb baby and that was the only pain relief she used!

 

[QueenKoala]

Hello all!
36 weeks today, I’ve had to go ahead from midwife to start colostrum harvesting. My first baby was born in one of the covid lockdowns, my appointments were always rushed and with different midwives each time so I didn’t really understand the benefits of colostrum harvesting and had no support with breast feeding so I was straight to formula- which we actually had no issues with and have a wonderfully healthy toddler!

Has anyone else had any success with collecting? I didn’t get much today and a bit disheartened, probably just overthinking about my last experience. Is it something that’s going to increase in time? I’m not going to stress too much about it as I got by without last time but really just wanted to give it a good go!

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

That sounds super sensible to be honest, I’m definitely going to get a private early scan just for anxiety sake. I’m actually going on holiday on the 21st so I’m going to try and get one for next Sunday because otherwise I don’t think my brain will be able to function!

My first scan was at 6 weeks, I thought it was 7. Everyone here had encouraged me to hold on for as long as I could which was wise as if I had gone the week before I don’t actually know if they’d have seen anything much at all. JuniorDragName was a funny tiny smudge with a heartbeat, not distinguishable as anything at all, but the little short videos I have of that heartbeat going for it are still the greatest thing I’ve ever seen in my whole life, as exciting as it is to also have videos and stills of scans where they’re bigger and moving and waving and everything. I’m not a religious person but I tried to tell myself all I could do was try and eat healthily/stay as chilled as possible and what happened next was with some sort of higher power. That helped my anxiety a bit but I still had days where I would panic take another pregnancy test and all sorts so it’s not foolproof! But you go and enjoy that holiday (in moderation of course, haha!). Have a chill time, listen to what your body needs and all that!

 

[ThisIsMyDragName]

The past couple of days I’ve had heart palpitations. Nothing serious, but so unnerving. Had a google and I can see it’s ’normal’ though I will mention it at my midwife appointment. I’ve also felt a bit like Sigourney Weaver in the famous scene in alien, I assume young Junior is having a little growth spurt or something.

Still, heart palpitations to add to a seemingly never ending list of symptoms nobody tells you about. Pregnancy is a non-stop party

 

[jimmyj123]

Which style of each?

I don’t know that’s my problem all of them look lovely

 

[HankMcPrank]

Omg 7 weeks pregnant and my back feels like I am back carrying at 40 weeks wtf🥲 is it too early to get the pillow out, I’m so uncomfortable I don’t know what to do to help it

Lovely I was like this and I had a UTi xx

 

[calabazarock]

Anyone had their 20wk scan and the sonographer has been sort of sure on gender but not really sure?this child is going to be super bull headed I reckon.

Oh god, really? At 23w mine was super sure, but I've known since before since it was ivf.