Pregnancy #62

[Saltfish84]

Hi everyone. I’m so pissed off and stressed and not sure what to do. Essay/ran

I’m 32+2 today in a supposed high risk pregnancy (40 plus, IVF). First time I’ve seen a consultant today but spoke to one when 16 weeks when he said they’d book my ELCS for 23rd Dec when I’m 38 weeks + 2. This was due to the bank hols and the fact that when I had my first son (natural pregnancy) ELCS at 39 weeks his placenta was discovered to be failing.

Now went to sign consent forms and there’s been a bollocks up and 23rd Dec is full, I wasn’t booked in. The earliest they can do is 30th Dec at 39+3 but I’m terrified this is too risky. I’m older now and IVF and placentas fail more than non-IVF ones and considering my history last time - it’s a very real risk of still birth to me. There’s nothing they can do, they won’t even consider 37 weeks + 5.

I can try transfer hospitals but the referral can take weeks and still no guarantee there is space for me on 23rd

What do I do??

 

[anything at all]

how are you doing now @anything at all? I’ve been thinking about you x

Thank you x
I got to come home on Wednesday, still been having the odd bit of old brown blood :/ but thankfully nothing fresh and red otherwise I’ll have to go stay in again

I have felt quite dizzy and faint at times, I did call yesterday to ask if I should be worried and they didn’t really seem concerned but said I should try my Drs Monday to see if they would check my iron since it’s been pretty borderline the last time it was checked.

I do feel loads better today though so might just see how it goes ! But yeah very happy to be home and hopefully all stays okay now!

 

[Keera]

I think I’m averse to it because I’m a nurse and associate hospital with being unwell. I’m quite a private person anyway and to feel vulnerable and bleeding and all the rest I just think I don’t really want ANYONE around me I never do when I’m feeling unwell at all.
So if all goes well and we are home fairly quickly I just want visitors to come to the house when I feel a bit more in control of my surroundings and a bit more comfortable. That’s all assuming we are home quickly, any longer then obviously I’ll re evaluate.

 

[RoseyThorney]

I know for sure my MIL is going to be a nightmare breaking/testing boundaries. My main concern is how she overshares on social media - some of you have already read what we’ve been through recently with her pretty much announcing our pregnancy on FB (which we’ve been waiting for our 20 week scan to do) and how she reacted horribly when Mr Rosey wrote a very kind message to her asking her to remove it. She’s still sulking about it and is expecting an apology. Fat chance!

When we announced our engagement last year she pretty much stole and reposted all my photos and wrote her own post about it, tagging us in it. We removed the tags but it still irks me how she made something special to us all about herself. In previous years, she’s also reposted photos I’ve put up in a birthday post for Mr Rosey so now I wait until she’s made her post before making mine. It sounds petty I know but she’s really been getting on my tits ever since we got engaged. I fear this is going to become the whole “nightmare MIL” trope that you often read about online when babies start being born. 🫠

 

[scouseconstantine]

I moan about my boyfriend a lot but he is just the sweetest really he’s started waking up at 3/4am so he can check if I’ve rolled onto my back in my sleep so he can move me onto my side all because I told him going sleep on your back can be bad for baby

 

[Elisha97]

Anyone else just super hormonal and cry at the daftest things? I spend my days just sobbing at stuff

 

[101d]

My Dad asked me if the name we've picked is a real name .... the name is Gus

 

[ASAnigel]

I need this baby out now because I don’t know how much longer I can deal with lightning crotch.

 

[JombleWomble]

I don't want to scaremonger, but there have been times when whole NHS IT networks have gone down for days at a time. There are obviously back up systems in place, but they store less info than the main systems. It probably won't be an issue because it's a rare occurence, but there's no harm in having some basic info (expected due date, health issues/allergies) on a hard copy just in case.

I hate how recognisable the paper notes are here. My neighbours found out about my pregnancy before most of my family just because they saw me getting out of the car with the folder after my booking appointment

 

[101d]

I had asked my work for an enhanced maternity package. For clarity, I am a senior member of staff, worked here for 6 years. The pay and hours are good but we have zero other benefits. Just took a promotion for no pay rise, although I will have a better bonus (which I haven't actually been told about yet). Anyway, they said no. I'm incredibly frustrated.

 

[Spencerskates]

I like only having to decide one set of names (having my second boy, why are boy names so hard ) and this time round we (probably actually more me ) wanted to know if I could buy girly cute pink things or not
But really you can buy any super girly/boy clothes once baby is here anyway

With my first I did have some gender disappointment when we found out at the scan but it’s something I got over fairly quickly, I think I preferred knowing before rather than potentially being disappointed and sad the second he was born?

I was the same. I think it’s maybe a bit controversial to admit, but I really wanted a girl and did have a pang of disappointment when we found out he was a boy. I very much got over it within minutes and he’s the greatest gift, but I’m glad I found out before and could have those feelings, get over them and then get excited for him. Whereas this time I genuinely don’t mind what we have so think I’d like to wait for a surprise.


For boys clothes, H&M is really lovely. Next too though obviously a little pricier. Got some gorgeous cargos and simple jumpers in burgandy, mustard, green etc for my son.

 

[Super_Berry]

Had my baby shower today and my mum organised it and she honestly gave 100% to it, decorated beautifully, just fabulous and couldn’t be more grateful for her and the effort she made!

But many people I thought would come didn’t (some family and friends), and the guests that did come didn’t talk to me much including my own nan or come to just to see me, just an excuse for a drink. Made me question whether people even like me, it felt like lonely in a room full of people situation.

I’m trying not to be upset or think of the day negatively as my mum and others put so much effort in to make it amazing for me.
Just needed to rant really without feeling bad about it

I'm really sorry to hear this. I know it's easier said that done, but try not to focus on it too much. It's such a lovely thing your mum did and you can't control how other people were.

I'm not doing a baby shower myself and instead opting for a dinner with my parents. To be honest, I could even pass on that. I lost my sister last year and celebrating without her feels really sad for me but my parents have been insisting on doing something and that was the easiest thing to do.

 

[Amylaauren]

38 weeks and I’ve been to our big shopping centre. I think I’ve lost my mucus plug from googling it?!

 

[JombleWomble]

It can grow back though

No matter how many books I read and how many classes I attend, there is always something new that I'm shocked to learn

 

[sushimama]

We had one boy name (Rory) that we were dead set on and just couldn’t/can’t agree on a girls name!!!! Typical that she is a girl
The two names we have picked are definitely a bit “out there” for my in laws - who made a face when one of partners cousins called their baby Allie (“just ally - not Allison!!!!??”).
I think they’d be happier with baby being called Maureen or Jeanette

What about Rory for a girl? Sorry I'm just watching Gilmore girls. I also love the name Aurora and then it could be Rory for short.

 

[Shinythings]

Not enjoying the irritability that has kicked in. Was fuming earlier because the way Mr Shinythings said 'hello' irritated me. Then he was standing in the wrong way and I had to leave the room. What is wrong with me?

 

[Kaylarina]

How do women get through the last weeks of pregnancy functioning at work? I'm 33 weeks today and have 5.5 weeks left before maternity leave. I loathe to go off earlier but really don't know how I'm going to get through the final weeks. I have an office job and can WFH so it's not even that bad. I really admire women with physical jobs because I wouldn't survive.

I worked until 36 weeks with my first on a job where I was on my feet most of the time (NHS surgeon) and on those last few weeks were a killer. Standing in one position for hours on a end nearly did me in.

 

[Spencerskates]

It’s so hard isn’t it? I obviously would have loved Mr Skates to have been able to stay, but I would have felt vulnerable and uncomfortable around strange men if other women’s partners stay. Maybe an option of a same sex birthing partner to stay would work. I was actually really lucky and was just in a shared bay with one other woman. She was lovely and we supported each other through the first night, we stayed in contact and are still friends now.

 

[plonkington]

Congratulations I hope you're all doing well.

Thankyou!
we’re all doing pretty good, her big sister is being so helpful already, it’s insane this tiny human was grown inside my tummy
just feeling pretty sore all over.

 

[lalallalaa]

found out i'm pregnant start of the week - so nervous as this my third pregnancy this; had MC at six weeks and then a chemical pregnancy following month!

just want to get to seven weeks so i can have a private scan