Pregnancy #62

[Amylaauren]

We had our first antenatal class with bump to baby yesterday and it was soo good! Especially for dads, highly recommend if it’s something you’re able to do!

 

[anything at all]

Think I've just experienced medical gaslighting. I've been getting about 4 hours a night sleep. No trouble falling asleep but I can't stay asleep. Midwife said it's totally normal but from what I was describing it sounds like I need to reset my sleep cycle and to speak to the GP (who was a locum and not my regular GP) about possibly getting some medication for a couple of nights to reset it.

Conversation goes like this:

Me: explain the issue
GP: it's because you're very stressed and anxious
Me: I don't think so. I don't feel that way at all and it's only been since I've been pregnant so I think it's something biological.
GP: you sound very anxious to me.
Me: I'm not. I'd quite happily say if I was.
GP: you really need to accept that you're anxious.

It goes in like this for a bit with me explaining myself over and over.

Me: explain what the midwife said again
GP: midwife doesn't know what she's talking about, women don't struggle with sleeping in their first trimester unless they are anxious
Me:...
GP: so you want me to sign you off work, is that it?
Me: No, I don't think that's necessary at all.
GP: look, I'll give you some Phernagan but you have to accept a sleeping pill isn't going to fix your problem, you probably need antidepressants.

Speechless.

That’s awful!! I would put in a complaint


I think unfortunately a lot struggle with wakeups and staying asleep in the first trimester, I know mine got better in the second. I’m not actually sure what can be done about it though

 

[clmay]

Baby is probably still changing position a fair bit still at 31 weeks. Hopefully they get comfy in head down for you and stay there!

 

[Greencatfysh]

After a bit of advice.

I'm about 5 - 6 weeks along. Woke up yesterday and had some very light brown spotting. Not worried as I know that's fairly normal. It was gone after a few hours. Woke up with the same this morning but now this afternoon it is now tinged with dark red blood and is heavier but not period heavy. I have no pain. I was going to call the community midwives just to see what I should do but they have closed for the day. No one tells you what's normal or what to expect so I've got no clue. Again I know bleeding can be perfectly normal. I feel like I'm being dramatic if I call the OOH midwife. I suppose there's not much they can do anyway. Do I just call them tomorrow, leave it? I don't know

Call them tomorrow for sure. They’d always rather help you now than later. You might be able to book into the EPU for a scan next week depending on your history 🩷

 

[Shinythings]

This really made me laugh pregnancy is so weird isn't it haha.

It's smells for me, absolutely everything smells ! I can't bare the smell of outside, I could vomit when my partner gets in the car, I told him recently everything about him smells he just doesn't understand, poor tw*t

It's so strange! Gravy is absolutely disgusting to me at the moment. Even writing the word makes me feel ill. Flicking through Insta and people posting their roasts covered in and it's knocking me sick. I loved it before I got knocked up.

I was saying to Mr Shiny things that if we have to carry a kid for 9 months it's only fair we should feel amazing, but nooooo my own saliva makes me gag.

 

[Everycloud]

I’m 33 weeks on Friday and I have a regional role which requires lots of driving and then days spent in kitchens training staff or working events (hospitality industry). I’m really done with work now but I’ve got 5 weeks left, trying to do as much this end to have as much time when baby is here but likewise to lots of you guys. Just had enough mentally and physically - some days I just can’t walk or move when I get home my back and pelvis kills I’m stat pay as well no enhanced pay - if I did have some sort of enhanced maternity I definitely wouldn’t be working until 38 weeks!

 

[PoppyKJ]

I’m so close to the next bracket but so far

 

[yankydoo]

Got my 4d scan in half an hour. Praying little miss plays along because my boyfriend already hates the 4d scans and thinks they’re ugly if we don’t get a nice shot I won’t hear the end of what a waste of money it was haha

Hope it goes well! My husband didn't see the point either but our images were amazing and since then he has been sending them to all his friends and family haha.

 

[Amylaauren]

Had my scan at EPU this morning. Everything is fine and where it should be. Bleeding was caused by a little blood sac that's still there so they've said to expect bleeding to continue for a while whilst it empties. I am having the worst farts and trapped wind at the moment and the strength it took not to fart on the table whilst she's wiggling the wand round and pressing on everything was insane.

glad everything is looking good!!
crying at the farting

 

[Angrysue_]

I’m 16+6 and getting this as well! Just wait for the lightning crotch aka Fanny daggers

Oh so it seems really normally.

Fanny daggers??!!! I do not like the sound of them hahaha

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Has anyone had any experience with baby’s weight slowing down. Had a growth scan at 34 weeks and was told baby had stopped following her line and fallen under the 10th centile..awaiting someone to ring me tomorrow but just looking for any advice?

So not me personally but my friend had this. She delivered early and baby caught up growth really well - by the time she was 8 weeks (when we met) her little one was the same size as mine, (born a day apart)

 

[Amylaauren]

Yep, it’s lovely!!

so glamorous

 

[Super_Berry]

We told my MIL our potential name for our first and she continued to use it constantly… consequently I went off that name pretty darn quick

We've had the opposite with my MIL - she is so excited by our names and keeps suggesting ones. Not to try and influence us, but because she's so excited for her first grandchild that she just keeps thinking of names. It's actually been so sweet. And she's totally fine if we say that the name she suggested isn't for us. But my parents just aren't like that so I haven't told them any names haha

 

[Everycloud]

Yeah exactly! Very generous of ours to offer but they only offered after we’d already gone shopping and then made it sound like we should have included them. I just hate passive aggressiveness!

totally agree re not keeping up with new guidance. I’ve already mentioned things like safe sleep, which blankets we can/can’t use, having baby downstairs with us all day and therefore needing a downstairs sleep space - all met with laughs and some eye rolls about how silly it all is nowadays. So nice for a first time mum to deal with!!

omg, same with the new guidance.
first time mum / grandparents and when discussing safe sleep, sleeping bags, Moses baskets, no blankets, coat off in car seat etc I am met with ‘well you lot (me & sisters) never had any of that’ and ‘oh it’s so ridiculous now’

I’m like no things just advance and we tackle safety based on things we now know. I love my mum but she last had a baby 28 years ago and it’s hard to say look, things have changed please respect how I plan on doing this

 

[aggytha]

I’m 20+5 today and had my covid+flu jab yesterday. Am I right in thinking that for some people the covid jab can cause vaginal bleeding? I’m sure I read that somewhere but I’m not having a luck when googling about that and pregnancy.

I didn’t notice anything yesterday and only noticed something when I could finally get dressed this morning that I had browny stuff in my underwear and having it now mixed in with any discharge.

Hoping everything is okay.. there’s no red flow or anything so I should just see how it goes right?
I almost wish I didn’t get the jab now but I never had issues with it last pregnancy 🫠


It’s probably nothing? But just something to worry about 🫠

I know that some people have changes to their menstrual cycle after having the covid jab, but I’ve never heard anything in relation to bleeding and pregnancy. Brown is obviously not fresh blood which means it’s unlikely to be anything concerning but I’d give your maternity services a call for reassurance and just keep an eye out for if anything changes xx

 

[Greencatfysh]

Doesnt everyone have the badger app or is that just in Scotland? I don't have any paper notes but everything is in the app and all my notes get updated and appointments get added to it. It's a bit slow and annoying to navigate but it's all on my phone which is easier.

Yep, I have this in SE England. It’s great!

 

[Kaylarina]

I can't believe you did that. I WFH luckily and can do it from the sofa but I would have struggled even in the first trimester with how sick I was. Even last week I had to run off from a online meeting cause I was sick.

Really early on the sickness was hard - I mostly just had nausea but being in the OR was not fun at all. I think that was probably harder than the tiredness later on, especially as we were trying to keep it quiet as long as possible!

 

[Bingobango]

AS a room leader in the toddler room I feel your pain! What’s does your risk assessment say? I’ve updated mine to extra ten minute breaks as and when I need them, and I don’t do any lifting or any jobs other than paperwork and delegating where everyone goes. We also just changed teams but I kept a lot of my older staff in the room which helped as my management team didn’t want to add too much change/stress me out - although 24 toddlers on our busier day is hell on Earth it’s so hard working in a nursery at the best of times let alone pregnant and having to carry on as normal!

I'm in the toddler room too. My risk assessment has been in need of updating for weeks. My manager brings it up and then is too busy to sit and do it with me. I really wish my team hadn't of changed I'm just not mentally and physically in a place to deal with a whole new team. I'm still doing a lot of the more physical jobs onto of trying to keep up with the paperwork. I .managed to grab my manager for a chat on Friday. She wants me to hold a room meeting even though I've already told the staff what I expect and she'll try her best to give me time for all the two years checks. Eight weeks to go, I am on countdown.

 

[Angrysue_]

Just coming on to moan… rung up my GP this morning as really struggling again with sickness, only to be told can’t do anything today or to call 111 sobbing in the office at 10:30 wasn’t on my plan today

Awww that's shit for you! Why can't they do anything today? I know everywhere is busy but surely they can give you something, even a telephone appointment.

 

[littlepup]

Told my mum one of our baby names today after she’s begged for months and recommended loads of obscure, rare and old fashioned horrible names. She’s been saying for ages how ‘she wants to get the baby’s name right’ and she’s ’been researching’.. without us asking her or wanting her to mind you. Straight away she was rude and dismissive of it (we said a nice normal fairly common name everyone in here will have heard of that suits a baby at all life stages). Back to not telling a soul it is

People are weird. One family member “didn’t like” names like George or Harry that we shortlisted but wouldn’t quit with names like Ocean, Phoenix or anything spelled stupidly or made up like Tyiger or Grayclynn - not remotely our taste.
Another referred to baby by a nickname so much (think Trigger or Barbie) we had to explain to oldest and the people they got confused and told that it wasn’t the actual name.