Pregnancy #62

[Angrysue_]

I definitely feel like it's a bit early at the minute with only being 14 weeks and I don't think I would convinced they were right if I did it this early so seems a bit pointless I think I will do it at 16 weeks though.
I want to be organised and know what I can buy etc and I'm just being impatient. I've waited so so long for these moments that I just get too excited

 

[Greencatfysh]

I definitely feel like it's a bit early at the minute with only being 14 weeks and I don't think I would convinced they were right if I did it this early so seems a bit pointless I think I will do it at 16 weeks though.
I want to be organised and know what I can buy etc and I'm just being impatient. I've waited so so long for these moments that I just get too excited

We found out privately at 17 weeks and then backed up what they’d said at the 20 week scan. I didn’t want to buy anything before that in case I jinxed it but also wanted to buy some cute girlie things as well as neutrals. I could never go through without knowing, I’m too much of a control freak!

 

[Angrysue_]

We found out privately at 17 weeks and then backed up what they’d said at the 20 week scan. I didn’t want to buy anything before that in case I jinxed it but also wanted to buy some cute girlie things as well as neutrals. I could never go through without knowing, I’m too much of a control freak!

Yeah that's me, I need to be in control the thought of a surprise fills me with chaos. I have bought a couple of neutral things but nothing much. I'm the same girl clothes are beautiful and I just want to know if I can buy them or not. I would actually really like a boy but girls clothes are so much better

 

[anything at all]

Yeah that's me, I need to be in control the thought of a surprise fills me with chaos. I have bought a couple of neutral things but nothing much. I'm the same girl clothes are beautiful and I just want to know if I can buy them or not. I would actually really like a boy but girls clothes are so much better

The clothes girls really are

I feel like we don’t need to buy too much new this time with us having our second boy, but I’d like some bits that are only worn by the new baby. But going into my local a couple of days ago Tesco it’s like baby boys don’t even exist. They have this tiny neutral section that’s just awful.. and then so many beautiful girls bits!! They’ve shoved the baby boy clothes on the end of older boys clothes but there’s barely anything there and what is there is awful and weird

 

[Angrysue_]

The clothes girls really are

I feel like we don’t need to buy too much new this time with us having our second boy, but I’d like some bits that are only worn by the new baby. But going into my local a couple of days ago Tesco it’s like baby boys don’t even exist. They have this tiny neutral section that’s just awful.. and then so many beautiful girls bits!! They’ve shoved the baby boy clothes on the end of older boys clothes but there’s barely anything there and what is there is awful and weird

Yeah I agree, baby boys clothes are like none existent or just really boring. I don't want to dress a boy in a baby grow full of tractors! And the neutral stuff is very few and far between. Really life 2024 problems

 

[Vmanxx]

Yeah I agree, baby boys clothes are like none existent or just really boring. I don't want to dress a boy in a baby grow full of tractors! And the neutral stuff is very few and far between. Really life 2024 problems

This is so shallow I know but it’s one of the reasons I want a girl I’m bored to death of vehicles/monsters/grey/navy and then as they grow up, Minecraft/marvel/spiderman/hulk etc gimme florals and dusty rose hues

 

[Angrysue_]

This is so shallow I know but it’s one of the reasons I want a girl I’m bored to death of vehicles/monsters/grey/navy and then as they grow up, Minecraft/marvel/spiderman/hulk etc gimme florals and dusty rose hues

Yeah that's my thinking as well, I wanted a boy but after seeing the clothes I just think nah, boring and utterly dull !. Can't bare character clothing, so weird. Yet if a girl wants to wear a Barbie jumper I'm all for it. I am not even a girly girl myself but in all my favourited items basket it's all pink flowery girly girl stuff.

 

[Spencerskates]

I like only having to decide one set of names (having my second boy, why are boy names so hard ) and this time round we (probably actually more me ) wanted to know if I could buy girly cute pink things or not
But really you can buy any super girly/boy clothes once baby is here anyway

With my first I did have some gender disappointment when we found out at the scan but it’s something I got over fairly quickly, I think I preferred knowing before rather than potentially being disappointed and sad the second he was born?

I was the same. I think it’s maybe a bit controversial to admit, but I really wanted a girl and did have a pang of disappointment when we found out he was a boy. I very much got over it within minutes and he’s the greatest gift, but I’m glad I found out before and could have those feelings, get over them and then get excited for him. Whereas this time I genuinely don’t mind what we have so think I’d like to wait for a surprise.


For boys clothes, H&M is really lovely. Next too though obviously a little pricier. Got some gorgeous cargos and simple jumpers in burgandy, mustard, green etc for my son.

 

[Vmanxx]

Yeah that's my thinking as well, I wanted a boy but after seeing the clothes I just think nah, boring and utterly dull !. Can't bare character clothing, so weird. Yet if a girl wants to wear a Barbie jumper I'm all for it. I am not even a girly girl myself but in all my favourited items basket it's all pink flowery girly girl stuff.

justice for boy mums

 

[101d]

Can I ask - how did you decide you wanted to find out the sex? I feel like I do as I’m a planner / more logical (eg only have to think of one set of names) but my boyfriend wants to wait. Others have also said they wanted to wait until birth.

I didn’t want to set my heart on a girl/boy, choose their names, clothes, plan their room and then have to do everything different

It was just something I knew I wanted to know in advance. The baby is still going to be the most amazing surprise whatever their genitalia lol

 

[sushimama]

Can I ask - how did you decide you wanted to find out the sex? I feel like I do as I’m a planner / more logical (eg only have to think of one set of names) but my boyfriend wants to wait. Others have also said they wanted to wait until birth.

I really really wanted a girl and just wanted to mentally prepare in case it would turn out it’s a boy. And since this will be our only child I wanted to do nursery, clothes etc. in the right vibe, didn’t want to go all neutral. I found out around week 14 after NIPT but if I could do an early test I would (they don’t exist in my country). At NS she couldn’t say anything about the gender yet as it was too early. I was extremely impatient. But we also wanted to know because of the name, we never had any boy name favourites and we wanted to know if we should bother searching for one or just skip it.

The clothes girls really are

I feel like we don’t need to buy too much new this time with us having our second boy, but I’d like some bits that are only worn by the new baby. But going into my local a couple of days ago Tesco it’s like baby boys don’t even exist. They have this tiny neutral section that’s just awful.. and then so many beautiful girls bits!! They’ve shoved the baby boy clothes on the end of older boys clothes but there’s barely anything there and what is there is awful and weird

Ohhh I would normally agree but I went into Next a week ago and newborn boys selection was actually sooooo much better! Maybe it was just better stocked but they had so many cute stuff I almost regretted a girl for a second.

 

[BWinter]

Thank you for all the replies. I think the posters saying about being able to get over the (short lived) disappointment if it’s not the one you were hoping for is ringing true for me. I feel like it’s going to be so overwhelming in the post-birth moments that if it’s the “wrong” sex it will just seem so much worse, but then more than likely I’m just going to be so relieved he/she is here that it won’t matter and there’s going to be all sorts of other emotions going on anyway. Probably worrying for nothing so I can take this off my long list of other things I’m worrying about!

 

[anything at all]

Ohhh I would normally agree but I went into Next a week ago and newborn boys selection was actually sooooo much better! Maybe it was just better stocked but they had so many cute stuff I almost regretted a girl for a second.

I love some of the boys stuff next has right now but my husband doesn’t want to pay the price he didn’t care about the price of anything with our first so I’m slightly annoyed but I do get it as it feels like they’re really in these clothes 5 mins before they go to the size up! I will be keeping my eye on vinted in case any of them pop up between now and when baby is here though

Thank you for all the replies. I think the posters saying about being able to get over the (short lived) disappointment if it’s not the one you were hoping for is ringing true for me. I feel like it’s going to be so overwhelming in the post-birth moments that if it’s the “wrong” sex it will just seem so much worse, but then more than likely I’m just going to be so relieved he/she is here that it won’t matter and there’s going to be all sorts of other emotions going on anyway. Probably worrying for nothing so I can take this off my long list of other things I’m worrying about!

I think if you possibly have a preferred gender then maybe it’s better to find out before. Once you give birth in the days and weeks afterwards there’s a lot going on and the possible baby blues and random crying and I wouldn’t have wanted any sort of gender disappointment on top of that 🥲 that’s my thoughts on it anyway!

I wanted a girl both times and cried many times when I found out my first was a boy, but we picked out a name, was buying him things and I then never felt sad since. I didn’t cry this time I found out I was having a boy, I was a bit sad but not sad that he was a boy, just sad that I may never have a girl as I don’t think we’ll have more children.

 

[PrincessShark]

We had a surprise with Baby Shark. My gut said boy all along, though we did have a hard time naming him but girls names we had loads!
We had a lot of growth scans and frequent lv&d scans, and had to mention each time that we were having a surprise, but he was always in such an awkward position I don’t think they’d have been able to tell us anyway.

 

[themuffinwoman]

Thank you for all the replies. I think the posters saying about being able to get over the (short lived) disappointment if it’s not the one you were hoping for is ringing true for me. I feel like it’s going to be so overwhelming in the post-birth moments that if it’s the “wrong” sex it will just seem so much worse, but then more than likely I’m just going to be so relieved he/she is here that it won’t matter and there’s going to be all sorts of other emotions going on anyway. Probably worrying for nothing so I can take this off my long list of other things I’m worrying about!

I wanted a boy and everyone was telling me she would be a boy, when we found out she was a girl I was quite upset because I thought I would disappoint her. I’m not girly, or into make up, I would rather be playing football or cricket than with a Barbie and wouldn’t be able to relate to her. Silly I know.

After a day or two I got over it, I spoke to someone at work who said she absolutely hates football but you bet she was out every Sunday being the loudest mum cheering on her footie-mad son.

If you are disappointed it’s completely normal and ok, once they’re here it will feel like a distant memory. The other day I was YouTubing toddler hairstyles because I want to be able to style it properly as I have no idea what I’m doing

PS I do love all the clothes but I get angry when I see superheroes on boys’ clothes then Barbie and unicorns on girls’, not even female superheroes on their clothes

 

[Vmanxx]

Thank you for all the replies. I think the posters saying about being able to get over the (short lived) disappointment if it’s not the one you were hoping for is ringing true for me. I feel like it’s going to be so overwhelming in the post-birth moments that if it’s the “wrong” sex it will just seem so much worse, but then more than likely I’m just going to be so relieved he/she is here that it won’t matter and there’s going to be all sorts of other emotions going on anyway. Probably worrying for nothing so I can take this off my long list of other things I’m worrying about!

It’s ok to be disappointed, I was gutted when my 3rd was a boy. Cried for weeks, literally weeks which feels ridiculous now esp as everyone says they got over it which in a day or less but at the time it felt very overwhelming. I wasn’t that I didn’t want a boy, I just thought he’d be my last and was mourning almost for a girl I’d never get and that mother/daughter relationship I’d never have.
I knew I’d feel sad which is why I did the early scan to try and get used to it before hand and I’m doing the same again this time. Don’t think I’ll be as upset this time though, I couldn’t imagine my boys being anything else now and I’ve not let myself get my heart set on a girl like last time x

 

[Jaybob]

Can I ask - how did you decide you wanted to find out the sex? I feel like I do as I’m a planner / more logical (eg only have to think of one set of names) but my boyfriend wants to wait. Others have also said they wanted to wait until birth.

I'm a knitter, I'm having a NIPT on Tuesday and will then be excited to buy some coloured wool. I'm going to keep it a secret from the family and let my son do a gender reveal cannon (though he'll have serious gender disappointment if it's a girl)

 

[Angrysue_]

justice for boy mums

Hahahah yep I stand by you! I might be one yet where do you buy nice clothes from?

 

[RoseyThorney]

Speaking of scans! When would everyone say is the best time for a 4D scan?

 

[Angrysue_]

Speaking of scans! When would everyone say is the best time for a 4D scan?

I wonder this too, and are they worth it ?