Pregnancy #48

[nefariousnellie]

Going back to weird dreams I had a dream the other night Phillip Schofield stole my baby and lied saying I'd been his surrogate so he could get sympathy from the public don't read tattle before bed

 

[scot_nursey003]

Have my 12 week scan today..so excited to see baby for the first time but also very nervous! Just hoping they’re doing okay in there

 

[threeSMEGfridges]

Even though we’ve since lost the pregnancy I don’t regret telling a few people I was pregnant before 12 weeks. I told my mum and a couple of sister-figured who have children. It was helpful to not feel so alone navigating the sickness, the changes, the worries

 

[On A Roll]

I felt baby kicking for the first time tonight!! been feeling flutters but tonight was definitely more of a kick - must’ve been trying to get comfy I’m 20 weeks on Monday, was starting to stress about my scan so it’s been nice to have a little bit of reassurance

 

[Naataaliiee]

Thinking of those of you overdue! The days once you hit your due date can be so long.
I’m wishing I could pause time so my 2 day old little boy doesn’t grow - feeling very emotional today! 🤍
I’m going to head over to the new baby thread at some point over the next few days but just wanted to wish all of you expectant mummies the best of luck with the rest of your pregnancies and thank you all for the chats and support! See you all over there at some point!

 

[CallMeHollywood]

I had my 12 week scan today and everything looked good. Very long legged baby in there. Put me back a whole 5 days though looking at head shape, I think it’s a boy. Now to wait for blood test results

 

[wishiniwasskinny]

Hi all, came here as after being 4 days late and having some mild symptoms I got my BFP this morning. Flo is telling me about 4wks 4 days and Clear Blue 2-3 weeks but it wasn’t my first wee of the day. Nervous, been trying for 2 years and now suddenly it’s happened. But also cautious as this is my first pregnancy so not getting too excited yet.

 

[emisixo]

Thanks for all your kind and helpful comments as always. This thread is a real sanity saver for me and I think it will continue to be. I’ve just had a bit of a wobbler because I’ve realised I am actually grieving for my mum again and feel like part of my reaction to other family member’s behaviours is because it feels like there’s a big gap. I also lost my grandad earlier this year who helped to bring me up when my mum was ill for many years, while my dad was around sporadically when he wasn’t chasing 20 something year olds in other countries. A lot to unpack and I’m just a bag of emotions at the moment.
On a more positive note, it’s so empowering to read advice that says I can actually make these decisions about MY children and it makes me feel a lot stronger.

 

[FatherJackHackett]

Well ladies I am still here lol got the balloon catheter in yesterday afternoon and dilated to 4cm, fell out around 7pm but our Trust will not bring induction of labour into the birthing suite after 6pm so was told I'd be heading there today after the elective c sections were completed. Now I've just been told its not looking likely that I'll be heading today either as it has been so busy and they will try to get me in tomorrow. When I say I cried real tears I am not joking... just fed up waiting now. Sorry for the rant x

 

[justonemorepage]

Had my 12 week scan and have been dated at 13 weeks. Definitely feeling more reassured but it still doesn't feel 100% real yet. I think it will once I start showing and baby starts moving. Everything looks good and there's a strong heartbeat. We've finally told family and friends and everyone are so excited so that makes it a bit more real too. I don't think I'll fully believe it until baby is in my arms though!

 

[Spencerskates]

Section date booked for 29th, Mat leave brought forward to 22nd

stupidly mentioned to my boss who has been a dick all of the way through that I’ve got a section booked and the first thing she said to me this morning was a sarcastic comment about being ‘too posh to push’

 

[elderflowerrose]

Pregnancy is just one long wait, isn’t it? I had a rough time post partum with my now toddler and I was determined not to rush things, just to enjoy each day as it comes with this pregnancy because as lovely as the babies are when they arrive, it’s tough going. Now 33 + 2, and soooo uncomfortable. Achey and sore, hip hurts, back hurts, awkward sleeping means my shoulder hurts so even turning around is painful, feeling sick, weary …

I am guilty of constantly wanting the next moment. Is anyone else the same? So I get my positive test and then waiting for my reassurance scan, then 12 weeks, then 20 weeks, then wanting trimester 3 to start, then wanting this half term to end as it is my last full one in work (teacher) now I’m wanting my 34 week scan to see if this naughty baby has turned (breech) and then wanting maternity leave to start and then …

I want to just enjoy the here and now but it’s hard when it’s so sore!

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

Has anyone had lower abdominal pain at around 34 weeks? I keep getting a cramping pain ant the front under my bump when I stand up, takes me a minute to straighten up then it goes. Is this ligament pain?

Yep I started to experience it then too! Your joints start to go very stretchy and soft and baby is starting to move down now so will be putting a lot more pressure in that area.. I found that it didn’t last longer than 20 mins or so but does continue right up until the end!


Today is induction day for me! Can’t believe I’ll be meeting my baby soon, I joined this thread at 4 weeks after going through 2 miscarriages last year.. it feels surreal to be at the end now

 

[geegeex]

Had a really shit midwife appointment today. Babies heart beat was quite high even though baby was not moving, it eventually came down and traces of protein in my wee. Have to go back tomorrow morning to be re checked. If anything changes or reduced movements I need to go straight back to hospital tonight. Also had my induction booked and just feeling really shit and worried about it all. 🥲

 

[disillusionedbythegram]

Section date booked for 29th, Mat leave brought forward to 22nd

stupidly mentioned to my boss who has been a dick all of the way through that I’ve got a section booked and the first thing she said to me this morning was a sarcastic comment about being ‘too posh to push’

I would make a complaint to HR honestly, that’s appalling

 

[anonymous_flower]

Well ladies I’m now in hospital and being induced, got the first pessary inserted and all I will say is thank god for midwives with small hands

 

[rosieposie94]

Hope you don’t mind me joining I had my 12 week scan today and all is looking good. Just waiting on the screening results. Due in Jan!

I’ve already got a 2 year old and sadly had a miscarriage a few months before falling pregnant with this one. Hadn’t realised how much I was still hurting from it until the scan today and saw them wriggling around and heart beating.

Hope everyone is doing ok in the heat, my first is a summer baby so can fully sympathise with those near their due date and melting!

 

[Sickofinstacrap]

I honestly don’t know how people do this with other children. I’m only 7 weeks, I have awful nausea to the point of throwing out any food that I think of that makes me feel sick. I have vertigo. I feel like a bag of shit. I have a sore throat. My mum isn’t here anymore so I feel like there’s no one I can speak to about how I’m feeling my husband tries his best but I feel very alone and anxious that I’ll feel like this the whole pregnancy

 

[justonemorepage]

I'm 35 and this will be my first and probably only baby but all through my 20s I'd get asked when am I having children etc. Part of me wasn't ready in my 20s/unsure but when I hit 29 I did want them so came off the pill. We weren't actively trying at that point but we weren't preventing either. I've had issues in the past with low body weight and my periods stopping so I thought I probably had fertility issues. It used to get me down so much every time people asked that I ended up saying I didn't want children at all (just to shut people up because it upset me) I've only told close family and friends that I'm pregnant and the reaction has basically been massive shock because they thought I genuinely never wanted children it's such a personal topic and I would never ask anyone about children because I know how much it can hurt. We took two years of actively trying for this baby and were just about to be referred to fertility when luckily we conceived naturally but that's not the case for everyone unfortunately. People can be so rude on both ends of the spectrum. It's no one else's business how many children you have or whether you have any at all. I don't get why people are so bothered.

 

[Wild_she]

I’m due in a week and feel really down, could do with some advice!

partner walked out telling me to keep the baby to myself on Monday and has barely been in Touch Bar one text asking how the baby is and took nine hours to respond to a message of me telling him I no longer needed a section as baby had turned and nothing since. It’s all over his weed smoking habit, he’s spending £50 a day currently on it and smokes morning till night, he does earn a lot per day when he has work in but for the last few weeks it’s been very little meaning I’ve been buying all the food shopping in and paying to get the flat ready for babies arrival without any financial help
From him, he did decorate it but I just feel burnt out as I have two kids from a previous relationship and it’s been one of their birthdays and obviously the holidays. He spent £100 on weed over two days then asked me to lend money because he had nothing left after that and we had my baby shower, which I saw my arse as it had been planned for months and said to make sure he had money. He then smoked all that, had no money and got more on tick. He owes £100’s out to dealers because he’s constantly getting tick. I asked how he got more weed with no money and I think quite rightly kicked off because he has no money, meaning that he couldn’t get to hospital if I went into labour and no money for when he’s off work. He doesn’t live with us but stays a fair few nights a week so doesn’t think he should contribute towards bills or helping me prepare the room for the baby by helping to buy furniture etc. i don’t want him to move in with us because of his habit and lack of financial responsibility. When I brought this up and any other time I have he gets really nasty, telling me not to start, calling me names, slating me, ridiculing my health condition, swearing at me and then running back home to his mums (we’re both over 28!). When he stormed out he took all his stuff, threatened to take half the babies stuff as we’ve gone halves on most of it and told me I can keep the baby to myself. He twisted me saying that he can’t stay here when baby is here smoking the way he is and not contributing to food as me saying he can’t see his kid. I was supposed to be getting the carpets cleaned the next day and he was helping me move the boxes with the pram in and car seat and pulling furniture out to hoover behind in prep and he told me I could deal with it myself lifting them etc because I dared to question him getting more weed with no money and telling him he needs to sort his priorities out. I don’t even know if he has money now and I’m sure if he does it will just go back in his dealers hand, meaning again no money put away for when he’s off work and when we’re at hospital.

I don’t know what to do if I go into labour, like does he deserve to be there when he’s ignoring me at the moment and I don’t know what to do about our realtionship going forward. I’m just so sad that I’m a week away from giving birth and im stressed trying to get everything done on my own. I’ve got no crib or pram built yet either.