Pregnancy #2

[Kitt]

Not even 7 weeks pregnant and just got my first lecture from a colleague on how I should definitely breastfeed because I mentioned that I probably won’t be.

 

[Misspurpleberry]

I think everyone posting on other threads of pregnant influencers are desperate to force their negativity on them, probably because of jealousy.

 

[Definitelyme]

Hi how is everyone today? I am so tired today could just have a nap and leave my mouse dangling. @Kitt how are you xx

What on earth does “and leave the mouse dangling” mean?! Never heard that before!

Also shattered here. One of those days when you wonder how on earth you are actually going to survive the day.

 

[WhatABore]

I cannot believe that, she’s insane. It was actually recommended to me to have a section because of my third degree tear.

You can ask for another consultant and opinion, you don’t have to take her no as a final answer. (ETA just saw she has referred you to someone else)

Yeah I've got a second opinion in March.

Her only reason was literally the chance of infection.

I told her I was fully aware of all the risks.

I said how worried I was about tearing again and needing surgery and she said "Well, it's only a 7 out of 10 chance you'll tear that bad again anyway"

 

[StrawberryCream]

Antenatal classes teach things like how to bath baby, how to safely put them down, current advice like on back, feet to foot, empty cot etc ask your hospital. My trust has a whole course of videos online. (Some are terrible)

The amount of people who don’t do what’s recommended is unreal though. Just look at Amazon reviews on say baby mattresses. ‘It wasn’t very soft so I doubled them up and added a pillow’ with a picture of a quilt and cuddly toys in the cot. The midwife/HV and books would have you believe this is guaranteed death but it’s got 100 ‘helpful’ votes. It’s so stressful to me to even look at because it goes against everything you’re told. But obviously babies are far more robust than they’d have you believe.

I have no idea but these are some things I didn’t know but do now that were surprising to me...
- perfect prep machines that are on a lot of the ‘must have’ lists are not advised by NHS because they don’t use enough hot water to kill bacteria and can be a breeding ground for more.
- Sleepy heads,baby nests too are always recommended by mums. Not by NHS or lullaby trust for suffocation risk.
- Apparently babies noses will squash completely flat as the bone in there isn’t formed and that’s why it’s so easy to suffocate?
- Babies should never wear hats indoors. In fact the whole better to be colder than hotter thing and how easily they can over heat.

Does anyone else have similar ‘revelations’?

I remember those perfect prep machines went viral after everyone was finding loads of mould in them! Iv always hated those head wraps that cover babies ears with the huge ridiculous bows on the front that people put their newborns in they probably don’t have any safety concerns but I just think they’re is no need for them, let the baby hear!

 

[Tui]

Hi ladies, me again. Sorry to keep posting, but like a previous poster has said this thread is useful for those who are in the same boat and helps a FTM like myself to feel calmer

I’ve had a sore throat come on gradually since lunch time, it hurts slightly to swallow , as the evenings gone on it’s hurting more. My glands are slightly swollen, but I’ve had tonsillitis many times in the past and it doesn’t feel like that this time! Sore throat isn’t on the NHS website as a symptom of covid but I’ve also heard of people having sore throats and coming back as positive
I have my weekly monitoring at the maternity unit tomorrow and I’m freaking out that I’ve got covid.
Basically what I’m asking is would you guys get a test? Or wait to see if it goes away overnight? I have been more busier than usual today and haven’t drank much, dry throat maybe ?
obviously if it’s worse when I wake up , I will definitely get a test, but I don’t want to request one and miss my appointment tomorrow and the test comes back negative! I need these weekly appointments following my PPROM at 23 weeks.

I’m also shitting bricks that if it is covid , the baby will become poorly and something happens to him
Help a pregnant gal out

It would see how your are in the morning. If it’s still like that I would call the midwives and ask their advice if you should still come or not. They might want you to have a swab which is fair enough as an outbreak amongst the midwives would be disastrous if you did have covid. My husband had a sore throat for a week before losing his sense of smell - he had been going to work all that time as a doctor

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Thanks guys! I'll go look at least....and make sure my partner has my card so I can't buy anything unless I'm 100% certain

 

[littlepup]

Anyone else around 38 weeks? Second pregnancy and do not remember the first one being this hard!!! Changed the beds just now and feel like I’ve run a full marathon.

Yes! 37+4 and I’m struggling for breath constantly. Just getting in and out of bed is a challenge

Re: sleeping- I’m getting to sleep about 5.30am and waking up around 9.30 - it’s horrible. I’m an insomniac usually but never been this bad. But then baby does the river dance on my ribs from around 2-4 I’m taking it as training for when she arrives

There’s a baby name app that works like tinder. It’s called ‘babyname’ and you and a partner download it, swipe left or right to ‘like’ or dismiss then it saves any ‘matches’ you’ve both liked into a list. We are so stuck on a name still though

Baby Sophia is just perfect

 

[Tui]

@Mel17 Would you not get a digital test, that way it's either positive or negative, instead of faint lines open to misinterpretation?

Digitals aren’t always as sensitive especially early on. But if she waits a few days digital is a good choice

 

[StrawberryCream]

Yes they told my sister her waters had not broken, and they refused to examine her. She had her first baby a few hrs later, 6 weeks early.



I don’t know if much will have changed by the , I’m due end of April and not expecting to be able to see my husband after the initial birth and move to the ward. Unfortunately nothing that can be done about it.

I’m due May 1st, we must be days apart I know I’m just going to keep trying to think positive and hope it will be slightly better by then, if not then hopefully will only be in the hospital for 1 day

 

[Stimpii]

Yes I think that's what I'm going to do too just ignore it! Congratulations got to love peoples assumptions lol x

It’s so good when you have the same sex if you’ve kept stuff too and you can re use it.

 

[Vivian124]

Well that put me back in my box never to comment on tests again, fair play to everyone who could see a line, im off to specsavers!
That's what i love about digital tests, it's either pregnant or not, no misreading of lines.

 

[Chickenandgravy]

2 days later and 16 hours of being sick every 30mins I finally feel alive forgot how debilitating migraines can be gp said they can give me my triptans as a last resort but apparently there's not enough research done on pregnant woman to say they are/aren't safe, so I don't think I'll risk it unless I end up with daily ones

On the pregnancy pillow chat...my partner got me one and they're amazing (not that I need it yet) so comfy!

 

[WhatABore]

Hi ladies, me again. Sorry to keep posting, but like a previous poster has said this thread is useful for those who are in the same boat and helps a FTM like myself to feel calmer

I’ve had a sore throat come on gradually since lunch time, it hurts slightly to swallow , as the evenings gone on it’s hurting more. My glands are slightly swollen, but I’ve had tonsillitis many times in the past and it doesn’t feel like that this time! Sore throat isn’t on the NHS website as a symptom of covid but I’ve also heard of people having sore throats and coming back as positive
I have my weekly monitoring at the maternity unit tomorrow and I’m freaking out that I’ve got covid.
Basically what I’m asking is would you guys get a test? Or wait to see if it goes away overnight? I have been more busier than usual today and haven’t drank much, dry throat maybe ?
obviously if it’s worse when I wake up , I will definitely get a test, but I don’t want to request one and miss my appointment tomorrow and the test comes back negative! I need these weekly appointments following my PPROM at 23 weeks.

I’m also shitting bricks that if it is covid , the baby will become poorly and something happens to him
Help a pregnant gal out

I'd wait until tomorrow to see if it's still there.
I've woken up many times with a sore throat and it's gone the next day.
Obviously if it's still there tomorrow then I'd ring and explain and cancel your appointment.

I've seen many things that have said Covid in pregnant women has no affect on the baby unless it's during birth

 

[Stimpii]

I’ve already had a private scan to confirm I was pregnant, I was just going to book another until someone said it’s unhealthy to be scanned too often, now I feel
I should be scanned every 2 weeks from 18 weeks - 24 (I was with my first baby) as I have an incompetent cervix - surely they wouldn’t do that if there was a danger to the foetus? 2 days stewing and my head is now a mess, any advice appreciate xx

Please don’t worry about scans. They’re perfectly safe. I had close to probably 20 scans with this pregnancy. They’re there to help you/the doctors.

 

[Tui]

@Kitt that is absolutely amazing news!!! Especially after a rocky start these last weeks. Congratulations to you and OH!

I agree with @Tui that some online resources are fab, and have done away with the need for many books. For breastfeeding I’d recommend Kellymom.

Kellymom is good.
I’ve been looking a lot at Evidence Based Birth too https://evidencebasedbirth.com/

@Kitt congratulations that’s insane!! So amazing!

 

[Chickenandgravy]

I got both my nub theory things back and both said girl....hopefully cos the two names we have picked are so nice

 

[Macmama]

Has anyone got group B strep? Or had it in previous pregnancies?
did the antibiotics manage to stop it from being transferred to baby? Also, is it something I’ve got for life?

Group B strep is a normal part of our skin flora, about 1/3-1/4 would test positive for it at any time. It only causes an issue in adults when it makes its way into your bladder and can cause a UTI. You'll get antibiotics for GBS in your urine, but not on a swab as it is normal to find it in the vagina. It can, however, cause some babies to become very unwell - working in our own neonatal unit, I have seen babies who have GBS infections that need a lot of help. If you test positive at any time in pregnancy, you'll be offered antibiotics through a drip in your labour to protect baby. If you have had GBS with a previous pregnancy, you may be offered the choice - this is different in some different areas. Your baby will also receive some monitoring after birth - normally that's 12-24 hours of observations every 2 hours (heart rate, temperature, breathing rate). There are some things that make your baby more 'at risk' such as having your waters gone for over 24 hours, being very small, having a premature baby or you being unwell in labour (having a temperature yourself). If baby has 2 'risk factors' (GBS is one, the things I've mentioned and others are the second), or there are any concerns for your baby after they are born, your baby's doctors may want to start antibiotics for baby through a drip in their hand (although this might be different at your own hospital). Usually this is for between 2-5 days, but it isn't just for suspected GBS infections that babies receive this.

Some people have babies who are unwell with GBS without it ever being picked up on their swabs/urines, despite having them. Most people who have GBS+ve results and receive antibiotics in labour will have no issues. I had antibiotics for it with both of my vaginal births (both premature) and no issues.

 

[teddypicker89]

Question to the people who have had csections previously... How long did you have to stay in afterwards?

I had one 17 days ago (emergency) - baby was born at 4pm, I was home by 2pm next day. I was desperate to get home though after being in the hospital for three full days. They just wanted to see that I'd done two wees before they let me go after having the catheter out and wasn't in unbareable pain!

 

[Definitelyme]

My midwife the other say said "Make sure you're getting as much out as you can to avoid UTIs"
I'm sorry? Do you not think that's what I'm doing? Do you think I want to feel desperate and then pee a few drops?

Ahhh yes. Us pregnant women love to hold our pee in, we adore running (lumbering in my case) to the toilet twenty times a day. She’s found us out