Sounds like a proper storm of emotions over with you! But overall sounds really positive which is great. Although not so fab about the nausea, it’s the absolute worst - mine has been going strong for 12 weeks so far, 24/7
but hopefully yours subsides soon and you stay well.Oh no really?!!Has it not got any better at all? Did you feel all these emotions or is it just me? XxSounds like a proper storm of emotions over with you! But overall sounds really positive which is great. Although not so fab about the nausea, it’s the absolute worst - mine has been going strong for 12 weeks so far, 24/7
I’m quite a emotional person anyway, I don’t notice much difference during pregnancy (this is my 4th baby). My poor sister is the opposite. She is not emotional at all, and she found pregnancy really tough with the emotional turmoil inside her. So it is totally normal!
I know you're not asking me but I felt a lot like you. I was convinced it wouldn't last but eventually concluded that I was prepared for the worst but could still cautiously & realistically enjoy some of the happiness, being happy wasn't going to change the outcome.
Thanks so much for taking the time to explain to me your feelings so honestly.
Hey I'm okay - pain isn't as bad & bleeding ain't as heavy. One of my friends has just announced on Facebook she's pregnant though and it felt a bit weird like normally i would just comment being like congratulations but I didn't want to just made me feel sad, but I did in the end and then I got a bit sad deleting the pregnancy app I was using.. My friend was saying a few things that just have made me feel worse but then I don't want to say anything to cause an argument neither but why be like "at least you can drink again woo" Like that's the most important thing x
I’m glad you are doing better, although I can’t imagine how you must feel. I think you have been so brave and so strong. Iv been thinking about you every day you know, hoping you were ok and someone was with you.
I'm approaching 40, off the pill with my ex 4 years, spent a long time coming to terms that it wasn't happening & when I split with him, that was it, there wasn't time left. Obviously it worked out but I still can't get my head around it, the shock. I fell after 8 weeks expecting it to take years of IVF, we'd not been together properly a year. Even seeing the positive result, knowing it was what we wanted, I spent days worrying we should do it so soon in our relationship.
Wow a lot of the things you say are similar to how I feel.I'm approaching 40, off the pill with my ex 4 years, spent a long time coming to terms that it wasn't happening & when I split with him, that was it, there wasn't time left. Obviously it worked out but I still can't get my head around it, the shock. I fell after 8 weeks expecting it to take years of IVF, we'd not been together properly a year. Even seeing the positive result, knowing it was what we wanted, I spent days worrying we should do it so soon in our relationship.
I was also terrified about what my age meant for the health of the baby (my partner is younger & I felt responsible, if he were with someone his own age he wouldn't have the worry). We paid for the DNA test at 10 weeks to be sure, £400 later but worth every penny for my peace of mind. I'd recommend it.
There are so many scary factors, one is eliminated, another comes along. I waited so long avoiding pregnancy for the 'right time' and now it's happened in many ways at the wrong time (Covid, reduced midwifery service, we were house hunting, ideally would have had more time together before baby) I'm trying to go with the fact that this is the strongest, most supportive, loving relationship I've ever had and we're financially stable so we can weather storms but still... Anxiety is getting the better of me some days. I haven't suffered really seriously for years now and here it is. I get the most horrible emotional response when I feel her kick in a certain way like shame, remorse, regret, doom, feeling like I've done something terrible everyone is about to find out about or dwelling on bad things I actually have done and feeling horrible. It's the weirdest thing and my brain is
But..... Pregnancy hormones. And being sick or in pain daily also messes with your mind and morale. Trying to control your thoughts and emotions is hopeless. I just hope with all my heart that it gets better once she is here. And I won't even get started on worrying about once she's here and bonding!
I know how lucky I am to have the opportunity to experience pregnancy, but I want to acknowledge that it can be hard; no one talks about that. It's like I'm already a bad mum because I'm not glowing and painting my belly for Instagram. All of this is just my experience so far and may not be interesting to anyone but I'm writing it to get it out and because it should be ok to admit it's not all roses. We shouldn't pressure ourselves so much.
Sending you some more big, big hugs. People say some really stupid, stupid things when they’re confronted with loss - some of it is simply filling a silence, or it just falls out of their mouth (my DH would happily tell you a novel of all the stupid things people said to him when his first wife died). It’s so cringe, and it hurts so much but like you said, you feel like you don’t want to cause an argument with the people close to you. It’s okay to be angry at them and upset with what they’ve said, even if you think they didn’t mean bad - words can still hurt despite best their intentions.
