Phoebe Court @swfeebs #2 Want a lecture? You're in the right place, brace yourself for a boob in the face

justfortonight said:

Does ‘vessie’ just make anyone else think of aunt bessie’s or am I on my own with that one?

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Yes. Or the Loch Ness monster

Hate the name vessie and vesper. But that’s for another day.

Also love how she’s sharing the ‘positive’ things being said about not having her 2-2.5 HV check but none of the ones showing concern. Not a chance of her 93k followers would all agree.

I want to unfollow her as she fucking makes me heave, but also I can’t because I’m so fucking nosey.

Stickytoffeepudding said:

ginger tits. Howling
My daughter is 3 on Tuesday and she’s not dry on nights either. Her nappy is so heavy I’d love to knock feebs out with it!



My daughter loves a sweaty soft play
Thank you so much. I don’t know why I used to compare my parenting she just make everything look so perfect.

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Weak at the nappy comment

Oh my fucking god!!! No you infantilised moron they can’t ‘pass’ being 2 but they can meet developmental markers that are age appropriate!

I give her her due, no if ‘vessie’ isn’t saying 96,000 words at her age, it probably doesn’t mean a great deal, nor will it effect her as she gets older.

However, certainly as they grow - it’s nice to know of their progress? Are her followers as stupid as she is? What do none of them go to parents evening either because you can’t ‘pass or fail school’ oh no that’s right you can! Ffs!!

So basically she’s been preaching to her SW groups all evening about the ‘plan’, and then grabbed a pizza on the way home for her dinner.

ok....

To be honest, I wish I had declined my daughters 2 year review!

ChubClubThug said:

QUOTE="Dandylion1, post: 719849, member: 26593"]
I’ve just seen that she said that she declined the 2 1/2 year review with the health visitor? Wow that is shocking surely that’s a flag for concern with the health visiting team?
I didn’t know you could decline anything to do with the health visitor why does she think she knows it all


Yeah you can decline things but it goes on record that you have declined it. Well, it did with me anyway. And I only declined a 'safety demonstration'

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They might send the social services around. That's what I was told

She’s a fucking knob

She has to be trolling us with this, surely??

‘So many of us struggle with comparison, it starts in the womb!’ Yes because you play fucking birth olympics with the whole of instagram!!!!

Don't worry Feebs no one will accuse you of being humble ... I doubt you need any promoting to brag either..

I’m sorry but this woman is a danger to other people. No doubt someone else will pass on their child’s review because of her stupid post and something will be missed. She has no concerns.. great but is she an occupational therapist? A speech therapist? A physio? A childhood development specialist? She is to totally undermining the Expertise of the health visit nurse, just because SHE thinks there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with Vesper Doesn’t mean that she’s reached all of her milestones and has no delays or areas of concerns. She will 100% be one of those mums whose child is ‘picked on’ by teachers if they give her a bad report

I am GOBSMACKED that she actually shared some of the contradicting responses. I was certain we’d get page after page of how wonderful and wise and sensible she is without a mention of anyone disagreeing. I bet she picked the tamer ones to share though - surely with almost 100k followers somebody has told her she’s an idiot?

Fridayschild82 said:

I am GOBSMACKED that she actually shared some of the contradicting responses. I was certain we’d get page after page of how wonderful and wise and sensible she is without a mention of anyone disagreeing. I bet she picked the tamer ones to share though - surely with almost 100k followers somebody has told her she’s an idiot?

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It's probably for our benefit

I’ve just filled in the questionnaire for my child’s 2.5 year review. I don’t have concerns about my child, admitted they’re not toilet trained yet when we’re out and about but other than that I think all is fine. However, I am not a health care professional. Although at child 1s review I was told they were overweight (they weren’t and a different HV was quite annoyed we were told they were!) that’s probably why she’s refused. What do you feed your child? Well, she’s an eating machine so 10” pizza, fish and chips, ice cream, same size meals and my (overweight) husband and I...

she disgusts me more every day! Her ignore all the professionals advice is damaging. For some mums out there a visit to the health visitor is the only way their depression can be picked up, a chance to ask for help with domestic violence. For some vulnerable women out there her comment making turning down the visit normal and ok is damaging. I get that a lot of HV appointments are rubbish and pointless but I would rather it be seen as a welfare check for all children whatever the mums opinion. Hopefully all refusals are followed up by a home visit just to check child is thriving and not being mistreated!
Regardless of all that who doesn’t love to see their child’s progress if they are doing well, or ask for professional help if not!

Eye_roll_central said:

She is grating on me! Used to love following her but since being pregnant again she’s a know it all! You have had one child. ONE. My daughter is 4 weeks younger than Vessie. She’s still in nappies, we are going to try after Xmas but I’m in no rush We also have our 2 year check with the HV tomorrow. I too have zero concerns, but still going. How do I know they won’t have their own concerns about her? And isn’t it just nice to get a professionals opinion on their development? Why does she think she knows better than a trained professional?

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Agreed! I have no issues with my 2 year old but why wouldn’t I take him to his check/ review? She says you can’t fail at being a 2 year old.. no one is saying that. The HV does not imply the child is failing at anything but what if there was something that she hadn’t picked up on, she’s not a health care professional so as much as she thinks she knows it all, she doesnt! So the HV review is just to make sure there’s nothing that needs to be kept an eye on. Maybe I’m just a worrier but to be told by the HV that my son is doing really well & there are no concerns was just confirming what I thought but since I’m not qualified I maybe could have missed a sign of something. Each to their own I guess but she does do my nut in making out like it’s all sunshine & butterflies and that Vesper is the perfect child. All mothers of 2 year olds I know say it’s bloody hard going some days & that their toddler is mostly a little monkey trying to get their own way & pushing boundaries which makes me feel like I’m not doing something wrong, thank god. Also, my 2 year old still wears a nappy at night & it’s always wet in the morning, he’s 2.. how can he know to hold it in while he’s asleep!? I mostly think people who say their 2 year old is dry through the night is chatting shit & I bet they still put a nappy on.
Soz for the longggggg message

MrsB76 said:

So basically she’s been preaching to her SW groups all evening about the ‘plan’, and then grabbed a pizza on the way home for her dinner.

ok....

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I think that’s because she sees it now as nothing more than a job. Especially since she’s lost weight or barely gained weight throughout her pregnancy without following SW. what does that say about the plan?!

It's okay though as you can deny an induction because swfeebs wants you to risk having a still birth as the professionals don't have a clue. She's lost me. I really think she needs to realise that most women face some sort of pregnancy, birthing or child development complications at some point in raising a child. Goodness knows what would happen to her perspective if she ever experienced a miscarriage or something like that.

She says all about these tick boxes and whatever but all she seems to go on about is Vesper can do this now. Vesper can do that now. That's just tick boxes of her own is it not?

It also gets me that she always says babies come when they're ready and not bang on 40 weeks. So she doesn't pay attention to the 40 weeks. That I understand. But she's basically doing the same thing now but instead of saying 40 weeks, shes just saying 42. Counting down to 42 weeks. 42 weeks is "bang on time"
blah blah.

This woman is a fucking liability. My aunt went overdue and wasn't offered an induction. Her placenta started to break away and my cousin was born brain damaged. This was in the 80s but still. What the fuck does feebs know. She will 100 percent be a ballache for the teachers when vesper starts school.