Perimenopause Moans #3

[zetta buttons]

How long does it take for the magnesium to start to help? I am nearly 2 weeks in and don't feel anything yet.

When I started taking EP (mainly for sore breasts), I think it took a good 3 months for me to see a difference. I haven’t had pain since then, even though I have other pretty bad symptoms.

I’d give it longer, hope you feel better soon. Yesterday was a write off for me btw.

 

[Cowpat]

I've been talking to some friends who have been through the meno. We decided that you either get brain fog and anxiety, or you get RAGE. I'm getting rage.
I'm also getting semi-permanent thrush. Sorry for the TMI.

Your thrush symptoms might not be thrush, I felt like I had semipermanent thrush but turns out it's the joy of dryness and it was my down belows acting like they are made from sandpaper and that a vaginal moisturiser has become a lifesaver and saved me spending £££ on canestan that was doing absolutely nothing, I tend to use Balance Activ or Yesyesyes ones, I have found it again is something lots of women suffer from but don't discuss, the perimenopause/menopause really tis the gift that keeps on giving.

 

[Fanny Muchmore]

When I started taking EP (mainly for sore breasts), I think it took a good 3 months for me to see a difference. I haven’t had pain since then, even though I have other pretty bad symptoms.

I’d give it longer, hope you feel better soon. Yesterday was a write off for me btw.

Thank you xx. Sorry about yesterday for you 🫂

To the poster who felt they had semipermanent thrush, ask your GP for a swab to test if it actually IS thrush, you can do it at home leave it back in at the surgery and they will test it for you. I had the same issue, turned out it WAS very persistent thrush. Before getting the test my GP was convinced I was just dry and itchy from peri, but I knew it was more (I had been on several high doses of antibiotics in the space of a few months).

 

[SunshineSally]

For me the very worst part of peri menopause has been the driving anxiety. I’ve never been a confident driver but now it’s hell.
I have to drive too. No choice. Some days I can’t eat with the worry I’m so scared.

I'm so glad that it isn't just me! I've been imagining allsorts of dreadfull driving related scenarios

 

[missbct]

I'm so glad that it isn't just me! I've been imagining allsorts of dreadfull driving related scenarios

I have the same. I’ve always been a confident driver and now I can barely drive down the road.

 

[Woolmercardington]

I felt a bit weird on Magnesium Glycinate and stopped taking it.

I take a combo of Malate (meant to help with mood) and Citrate (320mg dose) I honestly don't know if it really does anything, but maybe Id feel worse of without it, I dunno.

I was hoping the citrate would help my lazy bowel, but unfortunately not. I don't think I take a high enough dose, though. I take 200mg of that one and I think you need at least 400mg.

 

[Tank Girl]

The driving thing is very real I think it’s to do with decreased spatial awareness ? The joys eh.

 

[griftalo]

Going to do some research on GABA… do you take it? Have you just saved us all?

I was taking it for ages, and I will begin again tomorrow!

 

[zetta buttons]

I’ve just written on the weather thread about how I’m feeling totally betrayed. I used to hate the summer but about 5 years ago that changed and now I love the light. However, my body says no and the last few days (although it hasn’t been objectively that hot), I’ve really suffered. I can’t hold a conversation, can’t eat any thing really strong smelling, just want comfort. The winter will come, I’ll feel miserable AF but my body will be all .

 

[Clementine]

Hello, apologies for just coming in and not contributing previously but I kept forgetting to check if there was a perimenopause thread and would then get distracted by the daft influencers threads on here

Also, apologies for the massive vent I’m about to unload and questions that have probably been answered many times

I’m 46, haven’t had a period since last November, and they’d been erratic previously since 2020 (had 6 in that year). Was tested for various things in 2020 and told I couldn’t be perimenopausal as I was too young and my levels were fine (I know blood tests aren’t the thing that we should be going on anyway). In a fit of pique a few weeks ago I booked a menopause test at a Randox clinic (they seen me coming). I genuinely feel I’ve lost most of my brain cells and I don’t understand anything anymore so I don’t even know how to make sense of my results I have a Drs appointment on Monday and I don’t know what to ask for/don’t know what I need, don’t even know if I’m perimenopausal or it’s the added weight I’m carrying that is having an impact on me.

My mental health is in the bin and I get so frustrated/angry. Have had to do a few primal screams recently, but then I don’t know if it’s the perimenopause or my life is just proving to be quite frustrating. I’ve had some dark dark thoughts and for a while there had the intrusive thought of just tipping up to A&E and asking to be sectioned (I’d never do this)

Sorry for such a mememe post but tried to write a post on Reddit today and it wouldn’t post because you can’t write about lab results.

 

[Beggars belief]

Hello, apologies for just coming in and not contributing previously but I kept forgetting to check if there was a perimenopause thread and would then get distracted by the daft influencers threads on here

Also, apologies for the massive vent I’m about to unload and questions that have probably been answered many times

I’m 46, haven’t had a period since last November, and they’d been erratic previously since 2020 (had 6 in that year). Was tested for various things in 2020 and told I couldn’t be perimenopausal as I was too young and my levels were fine (I know blood tests aren’t the thing that we should be going on anyway). In a fit of pique a few weeks ago I booked a menopause test at a Randox clinic (they seen me coming). I genuinely feel I’ve lost most of my brain cells and I don’t understand anything anymore so I don’t even know how to make sense of my results I have a Drs appointment on Monday and I don’t know what to ask for/don’t know what I need, don’t even know if I’m perimenopausal or it’s the added weight I’m carrying that is having an impact on me.

My mental health is in the bin and I get so frustrated/angry. Have had to do a few primal screams recently, but then I don’t know if it’s the perimenopause or my life is just proving to be quite frustrating. I’ve had some dark dark thoughts and for a while there had the intrusive thought of just tipping up to A&E and asking to be sectioned (I’d never do this)

Sorry for such a mememe post but tried to write a post on Reddit today and it wouldn’t post because you can’t write about lab results.

Unfortunately I have no idea either what your results mean! But I just wanted to send you the “you’re not alone” 🫶 message. I’m 48 and the last 4-5 years haven’t been easy with my moods either. One thing I have done and it’s maybe not for everyone but a year ago I completely gave up alcohol and although I am still a moody witch and I still get very angry the dark depressing days have gone! Again sending 🫶🫶🫶

 

[Clementine]

Awww. Thank you so much! 🥹 Does anyone else get teary so easily?! I was crying at my daughters swimming lesson the other day at how delighted in herself she was All the love to you as well, @Beggars belief. It’s not easy, is it?

Thank you for the advice but I rarely drink so can’t even use that as a reason Well done on making that choice for you though

 

[Suzesnooze]

You’re definitely peri menopausal and they don’t go on hormone levels, just by your symptoms. Go to your GP and discuss your symptoms.

peri can last 10 years and mine started around age 45.

 

[Latala]

Awww. Thank you so much! 🥹 Does anyone else get teary so easily?!

Before HRT, these are some of mine…
Husband made me a sandwich
Saw a newborn in Tesco (total stranger) & wanted to hold it 🫤
Realised the cat won’t live forever
Ran out of pegs and had a few items still to go out.
Bought wrong kitchen cleaner and didn’t like the smell.
Cleaner at work moved my second screen and coasters
And yes, I get they are bonkers but the tears just came out of no where! I had 1 episode where the neighbours cut his conifers and I was livid! Tried send my husband over to say he had done a rubbish job, it was ridiculous & I was almost hysterical

 

[Clementine]

Thank you for sharing @Latala ! And thank you for the validation @Suzesnooze I doubt myself so much that I’ve convinced myself it’s all just because I’m large and depressed because I’m not having mad hot flushes.

I had to stop myself kicking a wheelie bin in frustration the other week as the neighbours don’t close the lids properly so the birds had got in and scattered the rubbish everywhere.

 

[Hold my beans]

@Clementine - a couple of friends postmenopause didn't have a single hot flush and I've been fortunate so far not to have them in the day, just nighttime I'm waking up every hour sweating in this stupid heat

I'd give that bin a good kicking if it makes you feel better

 

[Latala]

Always kick the bin when you feel like it

 

[Padparadascha]

I'm really struggling with anxiety. It's all menopause related and irrational...like I had an episode of anxiety last week when I was on a boat and a stranger was leaning over the water to take a photo with her phone.

Why would I give a duck if a total stranger dropped their phone? I literally had to walk away and sit down where I couldn't see her to get a grip.

My life outside of menopause isn't exactly easy, so that's not helping either.

 

[Crumpet41]

I am back with another ( few ) moans :-

After a spate of periods that were reasonably regular I am back to periods that are all over the place . No period for 53 days and then yesterday it arrived . After having very very light periods ( some I don’t even think are a period - just spotting ). I am extremely heavy .

The last week was horrendous - either very low mood or crying hysterically for no reason.

Brain fog - can’t recall my own name at times . Had one day where I went to complete a work task . Could not remember what I am supposed to do ( it’s one I do multiple times a week). For almost 15 mins I start looking at the pc screen feeling overwhelmed to the point where I was considering just getting up and going home .

Too hot all the time- I know it’s been warm all last week but I feel like I have been burning up all week. I felt like I was on fire some days.

skin - surprised I have not removed my actual skin layer . Could not stop itching.

Poor sleep - I don’t think I have had one night in some time where I am not waking up at least twice in the night. Sometimes can’t get back to sleep so just lie there worrying everything and anything.

Paranoia - this is intense to say the least.

horrible horrible week

 

[dee_mc]

Hi everyone, I only found this thread in last few days and have only read back a little way but must have a full read soon. I'm about to turn 40 and deep in the peri symptoms, elevated ADHD type symptoms etc
Last month my period was 8 days early. This month, so far, it's 6 days late. I'm usually quite regular. Also retaining water which is new to me but in fairness I had a busy week standing for 10 hours plus per day in the heat and not hydrating as well as I should have, as well as giving in to sugar cravings. Dandelion tea and Epsom salts foot-baths it is then. The glamour.