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my bloods all came back clear from the GP! he gave feck all advice in terms of my rashes or skin irritations. i’m now washing my hair over the bath and then toweling it before actually getting in to wash my body. it’s made a huge difference albeit a pain the hole! the elave body wash is also causing no issues (for the time being) but being honest im washing the important parts and being lighter with arms legs tummy etc to avoid the foam being on my skin!
 
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I’ve had the same rose gold plated Pandora hoops in since last may, these are the only earrings that haven’t made my ears react in years so I’ve left them in. I react to surgical steel earrings (sounds ridiculous) but previously fine with silver, but I haven’t had silver earrings in years to try now. Do your ears close up at the back if you don’t wear any?
No, the holes are fine after any length of time. Very strange. I might try some clip-ons or live without. Not a big deal at all in comparison to others' symptoms, just found it odd
 
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my bloods all came back clear from the GP! he gave feck all advice in terms of my rashes or skin irritations. i’m now washing my hair over the bath and then toweling it before actually getting in to wash my body. it’s made a huge difference albeit a pain the hole! the elave body wash is also causing no issues (for the time being) but being honest im washing the important parts and being lighter with arms legs tummy etc to avoid the foam being on my skin!
My daughter's been using this for hormonal skin flare-ups and works well

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Mirena is localised dose whereas the pill is fully systemic. It’s very unlikely to impact your mental health. X
Thank you. I might give it a try. Not sure if any of you are over on the childfree by choice thread, but I wouldn’t want to get any romantic notions once the copper coil came out and think ‘oh we’ll leave it up to fate!’
 
9 months since my last period (which was extremely light).
3 more to go… 🤞🙏🏻
 
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Im just wanting to say hello, I'm so glad to find this thread.

Preparing for my first appointment with my GP to discuss HRT. Got more sympathy from chatGPT than from my partner.

I feel so alone, and sad. My peri has caught me by suprise. My sadness isn’t just about the physical changes— it feels like a loss of control, a shift in identity, and almost a grieving process for my body and life I've known. And as it seems to have come so suddenly, before I felt ready, it’s even more jarring.

I feel like my identity has been taken away.

I don't know how to get back to a place where I feel stable, strong and vibrant.

Sorry for the brain dump.
 
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Im just wanting to say hello, I'm so glad to find this thread.

Preparing for my first appointment with my GP to discuss HRT. Got more sympathy from chatGPT than from my partner.

I feel so alone, and sad. My peri has caught me by suprise. My sadness isn’t just about the physical changes— it feels like a loss of control, a shift in identity, and almost a grieving process for my body and life I've known. And as it seems to have come so suddenly, before I felt ready, it’s even more jarring.

I feel like my identity has been taken away.

I don't know how to get back to a place where I feel stable, strong and vibrant.

Sorry for the brain dump
I know exactly how you feel, I could have written that word for word. It's so tit, I'm sorry.

I hope HRT works for you, but as a voice of warning please don't pin your hopes on it fixing everything. I do feel better, but still not myself. I'm not sure what's next, a private clinic, anti depressants. I have good days but mostly outweighed by bad.

Sorry I know that sounds really negative. But brain dump away with us at least! Do you have friends to support you? Ive found at least when I've opened up with people my age they are keen to share their feelings, I don't think it is talked about enough.
 
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I know exactly how you feel, I could have written that word for word. It's so tit, I'm sorry.

I hope HRT works for you, but as a voice of warning please don't pin your hopes on it fixing everything. I do feel better, but still not myself. I'm not sure what's next, a private clinic, anti depressants. I have good days but mostly outweighed by bad.

Sorry I know that sounds really negative. But brain dump away with us at least! Do you have friends to support you? Ive found at least when I've opened up with people my age they are keen to share their feelings, I don't think it is talked about enough.
I have a wonderful friend who has recently had a great experience with the Newsom Clinic and has given me some wonderful food for thought.

Im selling like a crazy person on Vinted so I can try a consultation with Newsom if I don't get very far with my GP
 
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I have a wonderful friend who has recently had a great experience with the Newsom Clinic and has given me some wonderful food for thought.

Im selling like a crazy person on Vinted so I can try a consultation with Newsom if I don't get very far with my GP
Thank you, that's really helpful to read. They are the ones I had been looking at too. A friend used them years ago after going through a particularly early menopause and really raved about them.

It just feels so early, like I shouldn't have to deal with this now. My GP is helpful but its difficult to get hold of them and it feels like their limit is oestrogen + progesterone and not much else. Maybe I'm being unfair.
 
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Im just wanting to say hello, I'm so glad to find this thread.

Preparing for my first appointment with my GP to discuss HRT. Got more sympathy from chatGPT than from my partner.

I feel so alone, and sad. My peri has caught me by suprise. My sadness isn’t just about the physical changes— it feels like a loss of control, a shift in identity, and almost a grieving process for my body and life I've known. And as it seems to have come so suddenly, before I felt ready, it’s even more jarring.

I feel like my identity has been taken away.

I don't know how to get back to a place where I feel stable, strong and vibrant.

Sorry for the brain dump.
I know how you feel and it’s tit isn’t it? Some people feel better quickly with HRT but I’d say most of us (HRT or not) feel better by increments. I feel loads better than last year but it’s sort of crept up on me really. There’s no denying it’s crap as an experience though.
When I heard it described as a reverse puberty it made sense. If you think of puberty as blooming then I’ve definitely done the opposite in the last couple of years. Hope you get somewhere with your GP.
 
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I have a wonderful friend who has recently had a great experience with the Newsom Clinic and has given me some wonderful food for thought.

Im selling like a crazy person on Vinted so I can try a consultation with Newsom if I don't get very far with my GP
I have recently had to go private as my GP kept insisting I use the contraceptive pill and not HRT. I used a company called Menopause Care. Which I would highly recommend.

You can pay over 3 months at £89 per month. That covered my first appointment and medication up to £90.

I had my appointment on the Thursday, 3 months worth of prescription meds were with me on the Saturday and a personalised letter about my treatment plan was with me on the Monday.

It was an amazing service and the HRT meds are helping so far.

Before that I'd been bounced around from GP to the nurse etc for about 20 months, instead of them just even giving me a trial of HRT. So I felt like going private was my only option.

It was so tit, as is perimenopause
 
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Also feeling pretty crappy though I will say my GP referred me to a great Gynae dept who did my prescription and review and all meds have been on NHS prescription (which could cost as little as 20-odd quid a year).

My friend has used Newsom Clinic and it sounds very expensive for essentially the same outcome (albeit with more ‘sessions’ and appointments which I don’t feel I’ve needed).

I brought up testosterone at my last review and the nurse said let’s try getting your estrogen up first. They did also suggest mirena instead of progesterone tablets but I haven’t gone for that yet.

I am in London so not sure if that’s made a positive difference but wanted to say it IS possible through NHS routes. Although I did need to turn 40 to be listened to I feel.

Sending strength to everyone going through it! Worst for me at the moment is the huge increase in adhd traits. I’m as disctractable as a confused kitten ALL the flipping time.
 
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I'll look into Menopause Care as an alternative to Newsom. Newsom does seem extremely expensive. Their Google reviews are amazing, but trust pilot are mixed and i don't want to waste my money.

My friend who used Newsom also has a pretty good GP, and got her prescription via the NHS. I'll call her this week to see how she managed this.

I don't want to use the contraceptive pill either - i was on a variety of them earlier in life and they made me feel rotten. Never looked back after getting the copper coil and i enjoyed a life free of artificial hormones from the age of 32.

Aghhh it's all such a minefield isn't it!

My GP appt is on the 10th April, right now I'm 5 days out from when my period should arrive and I'm like a coiled spring. Though my partner slept in the spare room last night, so I had a reasonable night's sleep for the first time in weeks - normally I am awake from 3am and move to the spare room where I toss and turn until 6! I've also booked a day off work today and it feels good to not have to go into the office and put a fake smile on.

Thank you all for just chatting to me on here. It's nice to feel less alone.
 
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I'll look into Menopause Care as an alternative to Newsom. Newsom does seem extremely expensive. Their Google reviews are amazing, but trust pilot are mixed and i don't want to waste my money.

My friend who used Newsom also has a pretty good GP, and got her prescription via the NHS. I'll call her this week to see how she managed this.

I don't want to use the contraceptive pill either - i was on a variety of them earlier in life and they made me feel rotten. Never looked back after getting the copper coil and i enjoyed a life free of artificial hormones from the age of 32.

Aghhh it's all such a minefield isn't it!

My GP appt is on the 10th April, right now I'm 5 days out from when my period should arrive and I'm like a coiled spring. Though my partner slept in the spare room last night, so I had a reasonable night's sleep for the first time in weeks - normally I am awake from 3am and move to the spare room where I toss and turn until 6! I've also booked a day off work today and it feels good to not have to go into the office and put a fake smile on.

Thank you all for just chatting to me on here. It's nice to feel less alone.
Urgh the insomnia was one of my worst symptoms too, it's just so exhausting and frustrating, isn't it.

I know all meds work differently for us, but I was given an estrogen patches then progesterone tablets to take each evening.

The tablets have worked wonders from the first night and I actually sleep for about 6 hours straight now. Before HRT I was also in the awake from 3am gang.

I wish you lots of luck in getting the help you need. It's such a difficult time to navigate.
 
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I'll look into Menopause Care as an alternative to Newsom. Newsom does seem extremely expensive. Their Google reviews are amazing, but trust pilot are mixed and i don't want to waste my money.

My friend who used Newsom also has a pretty good GP, and got her prescription via the NHS. I'll call her this week to see how she managed this.

I don't want to use the contraceptive pill either - i was on a variety of them earlier in life and they made me feel rotten. Never looked back after getting the copper coil and i enjoyed a life free of artificial hormones from the age of 32.

Aghhh it's all such a minefield isn't it!

My GP appt is on the 10th April, right now I'm 5 days out from when my period should arrive and I'm like a coiled spring. Though my partner slept in the spare room last night, so I had a reasonable night's sleep for the first time in weeks - normally I am awake from 3am and move to the spare room where I toss and turn until 6! I've also booked a day off work today and it feels good to not have to go into the office and put a fake smile on.

Thank you all for just chatting to me on here. It's nice to feel less alone.

I felt exactly the same on the pill when I was in my 20s. I came off at 30 and had the copper coil at 32. I’m now wondering if my periods could have been less painful for the last 9 years but you just put up with it don’t you?!

When I’ve raised the issue of the pill making me feel mad and depressed they’ve said the hormones in the mirena coil are only localised (so I guess don’t affect you mentally/emotionally somehow?) and a low dose.

I took my progesterone pills in the morning as I forgot them the night before and I was SO dizzy and woozy and sleepy. So maybe they’ll help with people with sleeplessness. I have the opposite problem - could sleep anywhere, any time, could sleep standing up. Trying to level out my blood sugar and up my iron to counter that.
 
Louise Newson has no doubt helped lots of women but has also had a lot of criticism for putting women on too high a dose. There's lots online. These clinics shouldn't really exist as the NHS should provide what we need.

I thought this earlier on when I took my herbal bits and bobs which cost me a small fortune - people are deffo monetising off women's misery and it would be just wonderful if the NHS could provide whats needed for us.

P.S I'll read this article - thanks for sharing x
 
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Does everyone know about the hrt prescription prepayment certificate? I didn't realise until I'd bought my second lot 🤦‍♀️

If you pay for NHS prescribed HRT medicine 3 or more times in 12 months, an HRT PPC could save you money.

Each item on an NHS prescription usually costs £9.90. You can buy an HRT PPC for a one-off payment of £19.80 (the cost of two single items).

The HRT PPC covers an unlimited number of certain HRT medicines for 12 months, regardless of why they are prescribed.
 
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Does everyone know about the hrt prescription prepayment certificate? I didn't realise until I'd bought my second lot 🤦‍♀️



yes I use this - you pay once a year and then the HRT doesn’t have a prescription charge
 
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