Peri menopause moans

[kachoochoo]

hello! saw this thread pop up on the home page earlier and I'm so glad

I'm 39, I am childfree. I have always been ambivalent about having children, but realising I'm going through an early meno has kinda broken something in me

like, I've been saying to myself, for months now

"you're still spotting, no meno!"

"You're tired due to everything else, no meno!"

"You're not having hot flashes, no meno!"

(Although today I've learned all about *cold* flashes and they're definitely a thing )

then I thought I'd check my period app. I've read that the definition of menopause is 12m without a period and I can't remember tit

My last documented period was April 2022. I never even realised

 

[Louby@21]

I’m very pro HRT for symptoms and benefits for those that want it however there are other ways women manage their symptoms.

I’m 44 creeping into peri with some typical symptoms. I’m currently just taking supplements so I take Menopace, just started evening primrose oil, also bathe in magnesium flakes and take vitamin d spray anyway. I agree some supplements are ridiculously expensive. My Menopace are a fiver and have been around donkeys years. I do believe different approaches will work for different women as we aren’t the same.

Diet and exercise is so important as we age so I’m keen to get as much nutrition and plants in to me as i can, I do eat mainly chicken and fish but i do have veggie days. Maybe 5 days a week I kind of fast but I still drink coffee with milk in so I do eat some crap still but I may only have two meal days too. Alcohol isn’t great for a lot is in this time I defo can’t drink much, luckily I only drink socially anyway.

Exercise and moving our bodies is also important. I get it life gets in the way but even those short ten minute walks help, use stairs, walk instead of drive to the shop and so on.
I tend to do regular walks, spin classes, a bit of you tube yoga ( more for stretching and calming) strength with resistance bands or kettle bell. All from home

I should add if I feel the need I will try HRT, but I don’t believe it is always the complete end to symptoms. My sibling is on it and while it’s helped it’s not perfect.

 

[HotesTilaire]

b period arrived yesterday. 40 days, but I’d had 15 in the 12 months before time to do some reasearch

 

[AlwaysSummer]

b period arrived yesterday. 40 days, but I’d had 15 in the 12 months before time to do some reasearch

Sounds like late peri. Mine’s been 3-8 days early every months for the last 8 months, however lighter and shorter.

 

[50sGirl]

b period arrived yesterday. 40 days, but I’d had 15 in the 12 months before time to do some reasearch

Mine arrived today - 143 days since my last one.
In hindsight, I should have guessed it was coming - I had a bad migraine last week followed by a headache which I couldn’t shift every day for the past 10 days.
My previous longest gap was 135 days back in 2020 and I really thought this time that perhaps they’d finally finished.
Ah well, back to day 1…

 

[Suzesnooze]

Mine arrived today - 143 days since my last one.
In hindsight, I should have guessed it was coming - I had a bad migraine last week followed by a headache which I couldn’t shift every day for the past 10 days.
My previous longest gap was 135 days back in 2020 and I really thought this time that perhaps they’d finally finished.
Ah well, back to day 1…

It’s awful when you have to to back to Day 1 a work Colleague got to 9 months without one then had to start again. But weirdly it was after us talking about the menopause and missing periods then a few days later she got a period.

Longest I’ve gone so far is 72 days. Currently on 61 days but the hot flushes have really kicked in now especially at night

It just seems never ending but I have friends who went through it quickly. I do think I’m taking after my Mum as she had a late menopause (I’m 55).

 

[50sGirl]

It’s awful when you have to to back to Day 1 a work Colleague got to 9 months without one then had to start again. But weirdly it was after us talking about the menopause and missing periods then a few days later she got a period.

Longest I’ve gone so far is 72 days. Currently on 61 days but the hot flushes have really kicked in now especially at night

It just seems never ending but I have friends who went through it quickly. I do think I’m taking after my Mum as she had a late menopause (I’m 55).

One of my friends got her period on day 364 - now that would suck big time! Had her last one at age 58.

My hot flushes seem to have calmed down for now. It’s the insomnia I find hard. Almost 3 years now.

 

[Suzesnooze]

One of my friends got her period on day 364 - now that would suck big time! Had her last one at age 58.

My hot flushes seem to have calmed down for now. It’s the insomnia I find hard. Almost 3 years now.

OMG that’s just cruel

My friend had bad insomnia but HRT has cured it.

 

[Falkor]

I did 79 days at the start of this year, but was seriously ill in hospital and presumed that was the cause. After being bang on 30 days for the past three decades, I'm now anything between 23 and 27, so hoping things are winding down soon.

 

[Hold my beans]

hello! saw this thread pop up on the home page earlier and I'm so glad

I'm 39, I am childfree. I have always been ambivalent about having children, but realising I'm going through an early meno has kinda broken something in me

like, I've been saying to myself, for months now

"you're still spotting, no meno!"

"You're tired due to everything else, no meno!"

"You're not having hot flashes, no meno!"

(Although today I've learned all about *cold* flashes and they're definitely a thing )

then I thought I'd check my period app. I've read that the definition of menopause is 12m without a period and I can't remember tit

My last documented period was April 2022. I never even realised

The cold flashes are interesting and I'll be reading up on them, thanks. I've had times lately when I can't get warm no matter what I do.

I've had to totally cut out alcohol. One glass of wine and I'd be awake in the night hot and extremely dehydrated

 

[50sGirl]

OMG that’s just cruel

My friend had bad insomnia but HRT has cured it.

I’m afraid I won’t go on HRT. Family history of breast cancer. I know they say it’s safer now but it’s just not for me.
If I get 6 hours that’s a good night, usually it’s 4 or 5 of very broken sleep. I long for 8 hours again.

 

[petitspois]

I’m on day 176 and feel a bit grottier in general across the board but nothing I could really go to a GP about. Ageing is tit. I said to a friend‘I’m wise as duck but I feel like tit’.

 

[Suzesnooze]

I’m afraid I won’t go on HRT. Family history of breast cancer. I know they say it’s safer now but it’s just not for me.
If I get 6 hours that’s a good night, usually it’s 4 or 5 of very broken sleep. I long for 8 hours again.

I feel like you about HRT but my friends that are on it are pushing me to go on it but I’m not keen. Up until now I thought I had been dealing ok but when I get a period it’s very painful and heavy (always had light periods and never suffered badly with period pain) and the hot flushes wake me up in the night, so I’ve got constant broken sleep.

I’m glad I work part time. I don’t think I’d cope with the lack of sleep while working full time.

 

[MissCherryB]

Morning, just wondering if anyone is in the same boat or has any advice/knowledge on my situation. Background is my mum died from triple negative breast cancer at 55. I'm nearly 42 and have been having peri type symptoms for a couple of years including weight gain, anxiety, irregular and missed periods, mood swings, sore breasts etc. I am struggling to find anything to say whether I'd be permitted hrt or not due to family history. Is it decided on a case by case basis? My symptoms are manageable ish but getting worse and my mood swings are horrendous and I genuinely feel put of control when they happen. Am I destined to just put up with it without help?

 

[Notworthy]

I think it's important to remember that whilst HRT does potentially raise the risk of getting breast cancer there are other things that are a far bigger risk that people ignore. Being overweight increases your risk of cancer far more as does drinking alcohol.
It's a balance, after all, there's no point living another 20+ years if your miserable for most of it

 

[Louby@21]

I think it's important to remember that whilst HRT does potentially raise the risk of getting breast cancer there are other things that are a far bigger risk that people ignore. Being overweight increases your risk of cancer far more as does drinking alcohol.
It's a balance, after all, there's no point living another 20+ years if your miserable for most of it

The doctor mentioned increased cancer risk to my sister. Apart from she’s having it transdermal and we’ve absolutely no cancer on our family history on either side for recent generations. She said she was happy regardless as she needed help and couldn’t continue as she was!

It’s a fair point too about cancer risk from other things too. More research is showing the elevated risks of developing cancer from consuming certain foods, cooking eg bbq/burnt food and of course alcohol. Ive had friends dismiss HRT for that reason but carry on drinking wine every night.

It’s a very personal decision and up to individuals to way up risks and benefits.

 

[PunkyMonkey]

I had a chat with my GP this morning because I've been very conscious of the peri thing and he actually told me that he's worried too many women are chalking things up to that at the moment, that you do need some clear signs like proper hot flushes and a year of no periods before it's worth looking at blood tests and whatnot.

Can't recommend tracking everything via an app like Clue enough; you can tag your own monthly weirdness like specific moods and pain as well as all the fairly standard issues, it really helps with keeping an eye on cycles and what's "normal" for you.

 

[HotesTilaire]

The trouble is that you don’t get taken seriously until after you need HRT most of the time. And a set of book tests can show you’re in peri, but the NHS won’t do a set, they will do one, usually long after peri has started.
A year of no periods means you’ve had your menopause! I note you said”he”…

 

[PunkyMonkey]

The trouble is that you don’t get taken seriously until after you need HRT most of the time. And a set of book tests can show you’re in peri, but the NHS won’t do a set, they will do one, usually long after peri has started.
A year of no periods means you’ve had your menopause! I note you said”he”…

Hahaha, as I was typing that I wondered whether to acknowledge that it was a bloke

 

[Kim Mild]

I had a chat with my GP this morning because I've been very conscious of the peri thing and he actually told me that he's worried too many women are chalking things up to that at the moment, that you do need some clear signs like proper hot flushes and a year of no periods before it's worth looking at blood tests and whatnot.

Can't recommend tracking everything via an app like Clue enough; you can tag your own monthly weirdness like specific moods and pain as well as all the fairly standard issues, it really helps with keeping an eye on cycles and what's "normal" for you.

People are super aware of how their body feels now. Since the pandemic, they notice changes in temperature, how their head feels , tingles in limbs etc. When this happens and we don't end up poorly, we know something else must be causing these sensation, rather than anything viral.

We are becoming educated about peri through the experience of other women via the media.

Periods stopping isn't the issue, it's the erratic and heavy ones and unexpected bleeding.

I'm actually surprised doctors don't attribute everything to peri and send people on their way, rather than eliminating a more sinister cause. Like how they fob digestive issues off as being its.