Peri menopause moans

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As pain is being discussed, does anyone have a thought about what I'm getting?

So, in June, I suddenly got a little stabbing spasm in my lower left quadrant - the iliac fossa region - nothing severe, but did make me wince a little and left me with this ongoing niggling, stitch like pain in that area for over a week.

I have chronic constipation and thought it might be related. Then one night in bed I pressed on that area and it was very tender and I felt sudden pain that radiated around my hip. Next day it had gone.

Now, I have the Balance app with the period tracker and also a poop tracker (yes, really) and fast forward three months later and I'm still get these twinges on the left, but I've noticed from what I've been logging on my apps, that it seems it flares up around day 13/14 of my cycle - ripe ovulation time - and will then last a couple of days into my period, then go.

I've not suffered obvious ovulation pain before, and from my understanding, this shouldn't last longer than a couple of days at the most anyway. My periods are normal at the moment (I'm 46 next month), bleeding and cycle length is as usual.

Has anyone experienced or heard of anything similar?
It may be an ovarian cyst - although the pain would be acute.
i have endo and have pains like this mid cycle and then towards my period. i am in less pain during my period. i have had polyps too.
 
As pain is being discussed, does anyone have a thought about what I'm getting?

So, in June, I suddenly got a little stabbing spasm in my lower left quadrant - the iliac fossa region - nothing severe, but did make me wince a little and left me with this ongoing niggling, stitch like pain in that area for over a week.

I have chronic constipation and thought it might be related. Then one night in bed I pressed on that area and it was very tender and I felt sudden pain that radiated around my hip. Next day it had gone.

Now, I have the Balance app with the period tracker and also a poop tracker (yes, really) and fast forward three months later and I'm still get these twinges on the left, but I've noticed from what I've been logging on my apps, that it seems it flares up around day 13/14 of my cycle - ripe ovulation time - and will then last a couple of days into my period, then go.

I've not suffered obvious ovulation pain before, and from my understanding, this shouldn't last longer than a couple of days at the most anyway. My periods are normal at the moment (I'm 46 next month), bleeding and cycle length is as usual.

Has anyone experienced or heard of anything similar?
Sounds similar to what I experience - I have been diagnosed with Pelvic congestion syndrome

PCS occurs when varicose veins develop around the ovaries, similar to varicose veins that occur in the legs. Then: The valves in the veins no longer function normally. This causes blood to back up. The veins become engorged or “congested,” which can be very painful. ( I C&P to explain it)
 
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He’s probably feeling inadequate that he can’t bring you to orgasm but men aren’t great at understanding how menopause affects us in different ways.

Even with a vibrator my orgasm is still weak. It’s really frustrating as it always leaves me feeling unsatisfied! It’s been going on for a long time now and I looked it up on a menopause forum and quite a few people had the same problem.
Yeah I think he definitely feels that, I’ve tried to reassure him it isn’t him. Yep mine are weak, even with a vibrator. Without a vibrator totally impossible. I’m reassured you’ve mentioned other people suffering from this, because I haven’t found much info on it and it’s easy to feel like it’s just you 💔 I do wonder if testosterone would help, apparently some women take it as part of HRT. It’s a post code lottery though and depends on your GP if you get it prescribed (totally unfair).
 
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35 and I cannot remember the last time I had a 'normal' period. Add in skin breakouts for the first time in years, greasy skin & hair and a period of hair loss, sweats & feeling unable to regulate my temp... heading that way, I think 🥴
 
Yeah I think he definitely feels that, I’ve tried to reassure him it isn’t him. Yep mine are weak, even with a vibrator. Without a vibrator totally impossible. I’m reassured you’ve mentioned other people suffering from this, because I haven’t found much info on it and it’s easy to feel like it’s just you 💔 I do wonder if testosterone would help, apparently some women take it as part of HRT. It’s a post code lottery though and depends on your GP if you get it prescribed (totally unfair).
Yes it’s hard to get testosterone on the NHS. People like Davina McCall who mention it are paying privately.

I’ve got a lot of friends going through menopause and none of them have had the orgasm problem which is why I looked it up on the menopause forum (menopause matters) and I was happy to see others with the same problem.
 
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To anyone suffering why dryness/itchy ness. It’s not hormonal therapy but I’ve found two things that have helped. Vagisil prebiotic with oatmeal cream. Balance activ menopause moisture pessaries.

Obviously not a solution for everyone but basically my point is especially for those under 45 whose GPS may not prescribe HRT for or those that can’t take it there are many things you can try to help relieve symptoms like that. It’s trial and error but things are available.
 
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It may be an ovarian cyst - although the pain would be acute.
i have endo and have pains like this mid cycle and then towards my period. i am in less pain during my period. i have had polyps too.
Yes, I imagine the pain would be more acute. Often, I wouldn't even describe it as pain, more like twingy sensations.
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Sounds similar to what I experience - I have been diagnosed with Pelvic congestion syndrome

PCS occurs when varicose veins develop around the ovaries, similar to varicose veins that occur in the legs. Then: The valves in the veins no longer function normally. This causes blood to back up. The veins become engorged or “congested,” which can be very painful. ( I C&P to explain it)
That's interesting I've not heard of that before. Can you describe what your pain was like and where it was located?

Weirdly enough, I was thinking the other week that I felt a bit congested in that area. Like, the constipation probably is the culprit for that, but I even feel a tightness in my hip and just generally more aware of that side if my pelvis.
 
Any one else get spotting or blood stained discharge? I think I might fill on a e- consult form about it.
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To anyone suffering why dryness/itchy ness. It’s not hormonal therapy but I’ve found two things that have helped. Vagisil prebiotic with oatmeal cream. Balance activ menopause moisture pessaries.

Obviously not a solution for everyone but basically my point is especially for those under 45 whose GPS may not prescribe HRT for or those that can’t take it there are many things you can try to help relieve symptoms like that. It’s trial and error but things are available.
Do you buy those over the counter at the chemists? I'm going to have to look into something for the dryness. Mine is only at a certain time in my cycle. My eyes go dry too, I've had to start using drops.
 
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I've been on the Desogestrel for a week now and the bleeding has worsened.

I'm losing massive clots and I feel really quite tit. The pain meds they prescribed are useless.

Having been somewhat fobbed off last week I just felt as though I needed to get some points across regarding my symptoms and my treatment, I went on the bloody Askmygp page, wrote an essay and it just went off and then it wouldn't accept my password.

So I phoned the surgery at 12.30ish, an automated message came up and said it was lunch break so if its not an emergency call back AFTER 2! I've never heard anything like it, I mean obviously the reception staff need a break, need to eat but there's about 6 of them, surely they can stagger it so they can at least cover calls!

Oh I'm turning into a right moany witch but I feel rit.
 
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I've been on the Desogestrel for a week now and the bleeding has worsened.

I'm losing massive clots and I feel really quite tit. The pain meds they prescribed are useless.

Having been somewhat fobbed off last week I just felt as though I needed to get some points across regarding my symptoms and my treatment, I went on the bloody Askmygp page, wrote an essay and it just went off and then it wouldn't accept my password.

So I phoned the surgery at 12.30ish, an automated message came up and said it was lunch break so if its not an emergency call back AFTER 2! I've never heard anything like it, I mean obviously the reception staff need a break, need to eat but there's about 6 of them, surely they can stagger it so they can at least cover calls!

Oh I'm turning into a right moany witch but I feel rit.
If I was you I would go to A&E as they did recommend that if the pain worsened. Just tell A&E you are finding it hard to cope with the pain. I know A&E are busy but you’re more likely to get tests etc while in hospital than going back and forth to your GP who sounds useless.
 
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If I was you I would go to A&E as they did recommend that if the pain worsened. Just tell A&E you are finding it hard to cope with the pain. I know A&E are busy but you’re more likely to get tests etc while in hospital than going back and forth to your GP who sounds useless.
I was in such a state last night that I nearly went. But I didn't think they'd be able to do much, I had it in my mind they'd just send me on my way and tell me to see my GP. I feel utterly terrible and I just can't stop crying.

I'll put they next bit under a spoiler because it's grim
I went to the loo last night, i'd already had a few clots and as i pulled my pants down a massive clot just plopped onto the floor I'm getting to the point I'm scared to wipe incase my bloody innards fall out 🙈🙈

Anyway I need help so I shall do as you've advised, if I go now hopefully I won't be hours!
 
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I was in such a state last night that I nearly went. But I didn't think they'd be able to do much, I had it in my mind they'd just send me on my way and tell me to see my GP. I feel utterly terrible and I just can't stop crying.

I'll put they next bit under a spoiler because it's grim
I went to the loo last night, i'd already had a few clots and as i pulled my pants down a massive clot just plopped onto the floor I'm getting to the point I'm scared to wipe incase my bloody innards fall out 🙈🙈

Anyway I need help so I shall do as you've advised, if I go now hopefully I won't be hours!
You’re doing the right thing and I hope you get better answers than through your GP. Good luck 🤞
 
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If I was you I would go to A&E as they did recommend that if the pain worsened. Just tell A&E you are finding it hard to cope with the pain. I know A&E are busy but you’re more likely to get tests etc while in hospital than going back and forth to your GP who sounds useless.
Just want to say THANK YOU for giving me the kick up the a I needed. I've been to A and E, been seen and been referred to the Gynae hospital for an appointment tomorrow morning! Thank-you chuck!!
 
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Just want to say THANK YOU for giving me the kick up the a I needed. I've been to A and E, been seen and been referred to the Gynae hospital for an appointment tomorrow morning! Thank-you chuck!!
Aw that’s great news. Hopefully you get some answers now.

I know some people don’t think we should use A&E as they’re busy but I’ve found you do get referrals or an MOT so to speak and it’s quicker than going via the GP.
 
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Aw that’s great news. Hopefully you get some answers now.

I know some people don’t think we should use A&E as they’re busy but I’ve found you do get referrals or an MOT so to speak and it’s quicker than going via the GP.
Unfortunately (or fortunately for some) GPs spend way more of their time on managing long term illnesses than previous generations. Some of that is simply that people are living far longer, some is that medical advances are such that there actually is treatment where there might not have been historically and some is people simply not taking care of themselves as well as they should.
I do wish that GPs would actually stop parroting that something is normal when a person visits them with something that isn't normal for them. Most of us know our bodies and know when something isn't right.
 
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Unfortunately (or fortunately for some) GPs spend way more of their time on managing long term illnesses than previous generations. Some of that is simply that people are living far longer, some is that medical advances are such that there actually is treatment where there might not have been historically and some is people simply not taking care of themselves as well as they should.
I do wish that GPs would actually stop parroting that something is normal when a person visits them with something that isn't normal for them. Most of us know our bodies and know when something isn't right.
I quite agree. My elderly Mum wasn't getting great care from her GP last year and then had a fall and ended up in hospital. But the hospital staff found that most of the medication she was on was not needed and they took her off about 4 tablets and she's doing a lot better now.

I also follow a small time youtuber who had been worried for ages about a breast lump and kept getting told it was nothing. Yet she kept going back to the GP saying she wasn't happy and felt something wasn't right and after 2 years of going back and forth it did turn out to be breast cancer albeit a slow growing type but as you say, we know our own bodies and sense when something isn't right.
 
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I quite agree. My elderly Mum wasn't getting great care from her GP last year and then had a fall and ended up in hospital. But the hospital staff found that most of the medication she was on was not needed and they took her off about 4 tablets and she's doing a lot better now.

I also follow a small time youtuber who had been worried for ages about a breast lump and kept getting told it was nothing. Yet she kept going back to the GP saying she wasn't happy and felt something wasn't right and after 2 years of going back and forth it did turn out to be breast cancer albeit a slow growing type but as you say, we know our own bodies and sense when something isn't right.
With medication, it is always a good idea to see the pharmacist periodically if you are on a lot of different drugs as they know far more about contra indications than GPs who basically play wackamole. My Nan was on loads of medications but we have an amazing Pharmacist at our Chemist so when my Nan visited, my Dad took her up there with it all. Turns out that 2 of the meds she was on should never be prescribed together.
 
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I know it works well for lots of people but you don't know if you'll be one of the unlucky ones and by that point its too late by then you're in extreme pain and stuck with it until you can persuade somebody to remove it. I know lots of success stories too but it's not a risk I'd want to take for me. That said I've never had horrific periods so that wasn't a driver for me thank god. Glad it's helped you though.
That's a really good point and definitely something to ask about in a consultation (I mean if someone else is reading this and thinking about having it).
 
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