Has anyone ever considered the fact that may she has a hormonal imbalance or PCOS or something else that causes weight gain? Underactive thyroid, etc?
I went through such a dark period of my life just after I got married and we all went into lockdown. I piled on four stone even though I was eating sensibly and exercising. Went to the drs to be told I just needed to lose weight and it was lockdown's fault...
After months and months of telling them it wasn't, tracking calories, exercising, etc. I was eventually told the weight was still going on due to a hormone imbalance which I would never have known about and wasn't anything to do with how I ate. I'm currently ttc and although I have lost some of the four stone I'm heavier than I've ever been and in the overweight BMI category. I am now getting the medical help that I need, but had I not have constantly gone to the Drs I'd probably now be 6 stone heavier. I still worry about my weight and feel self conscious and people on this thread really don't help. Weight is so personal!
I feel really sad reading this thread bcus now it makes me think how people will view me if I do conceive yet the weight gain wasn't even my fault. I don't overeat and I exercise. There are always two sides to a story and we have no idea if she's been battling through something like this or not.
Being overweight has nothing to do with how you are as a parent. I'm overweight, but I'm still active. I'm still trying to be the healthiest I can be for my child and people need to realise that hormones and body types play a HUGE part in how we look physically on the outside, but doesn't mean we look like that on the inside.