Part Time Working Mummy

Thank you lovely.. i'm in a much better place than what I was 2 years or so ago when I first started following these 'mummy bloggers/influencers'. At first i thought 'waw, people i can actually relate to' and I could relate to PTWM with what she's been through etc but then i started comparing myself to them. I thought i was a mit mum because we couldn't afford a few days away at Centre Parks and days out to here and there but then realised/noticed that these 'influencers' were able to do these things because they were 'kindly gifted' these days out and weekends away. Rachael always reminds us how 'skint' she is but she's certainly not living a life where she has to scrape the barrel to live and feed her kids. The 'home interior' accounts are just as bad. Fancy furniture and beds, swipe ups so people could buy have what that account has just been given and people being sucked in to buy these things so they could be part of it or not feel left out. These people have the life they have because they are being given these #kindlygifted items and then making money and a mockery out of people who want the life these people have. I've slightly gone off topic but its just that these influencers are no longer relatable and god forbid if you call them out on something or dont agree with them because you would have people calling you a troll. Some people are bordering on 'stalkerish' behaviour but these people are making vunerable and lonely people feel like they can relate to them and then making money out of them.. As for PTWM, she should be greatful for what she has, not complaing about her 'large tina', shitting the bed and calling it a 'thing'.. My partner locks the bathroom door so our own daughter doesn't see him naked as he doesnt find it appropriate but yet we see Josh flouncing around the house with just boxers on or his top off when there are young teenage girls with raging hormones! I feel sorry for Rachael for what she's been through but her behaviour and what she classes as ok is a bit weird and creepy for someone whos been through what she has.

You know I think we all follow people in the hope we will relate to someone. I know I do, although sometimes I feel like I’ll never find anyone on Instagram . It’s a double edged sword. Sometimes you can see people with a life you wouldn’t want in a million years, then you are holy grateful for what you have and then other times, when things are challenging you, you see materialistic things and think ‘Could I just please have a bit of that for once.’ But it’s important to remember that people only tell you what they want you to know and sometimes the material things aren’t worth half of what you have in your family or friends. It’s also important to remember that whilst they seem to be tagging in ‘friends’ all the time. Especially with PTWM. The people aren’t friends, there just people she has picked up on the way to massage her ego. Again, nothing to be envious of at all. Don’t compare yourself to fiction, because most of social media is just that. Worlds that people have created to make themselves seem or feel better x

 

[Straight_talker_isnt_bitc]

@Neave I fell into the trap of taking photos of every minute of when we were out somewhere just to 'prove' and get some clarification that i was a good mum for taking the kids out.. then i realised how ridiculous that was and now i just enjoy every moment.. its mind boggling as to why people look up to these people. Not all of them are like this, i quite like perfectly imperfectly mum and island mama but others may not like them.. but a while ago i just stopped comparing myself to these influencers! I bought PTWMs book and the reviews did not reciprocate my thoughts on it. Lula has struggled with anxiety for us all to see and the fact she has therapy gets plastered all over SM. Doesnt Rachael realise that there are and will be some kids and even adults that will tease her and be nasty about it.. if my mum told the while world the things Rachael does i'd be embarrassed! I get Rachaels point about the drinking vodka saga but that isnt the situation Betsie is in. Fine, make your point across about to the school but also she shouldnt believe everything Betsie does and says. Imo i think Betsie has got Josh and her mum wrapped round her little finger and one day, Rachael will regret not disciplining Betsies behaviour enough. Betsie reigns need to be pulled in a little so she can be a teenager and not act like an 18 year old drinking on the weekends. When was her age, i would go out drinking with friends and some will go against what their parents say but also, Rachael shouldn't be normalising underage drinking and not wearing a seatbelt.

 

[H12345]

Anyone notice she’s changed towards josh since they got married. It’s literally like she got that ring and witch mode came out. Honestly she’s god awful the way she speaks to him. I wonder why she hounded him so bad for a baby she constantly whines about.

 

@Neave I fell into the trap of taking photos of every minute of when we were out somewhere just to 'prove' and get some clarification that i was a good mum for taking the kids out.. then i realised how ridiculous that was and now i just enjoy every moment.. its mind boggling as to why people look up to these people. Not all of them are like this, i quite like perfectly imperfectly mum and island mama but others may not like them.. but a while ago i just stopped comparing myself to these influencers! I bought PTWMs book and the reviews did not reciprocate my thoughts on it. Lula has struggled with anxiety for us all to see and the fact she has therapy gets plastered all over SM. Doesnt Rachael realise that there are and will be some kids and even adults that will tease her and be nasty about it.. if my mum told the while world the things Rachael does i'd be embarrassed! I get Rachaels point about the drinking vodka saga but that isnt the situation Betsie is in. Fine, make your point across about to the school but also she shouldnt believe everything Betsie does and says. Imo i think Betsie has got Josh and her mum wrapped round her little finger and one day, Rachael will regret not disciplining Betsies behaviour enough. Betsie reigns need to be pulled in a little so she can be a teenager and not act like an 18 year old drinking on the weekends. When was her age, i would go out drinking with friends and some will go against what their parents say but also, Rachael shouldn't be normalising underage drinking and not wearing a seatbelt.

My sons are 25, 22 and 11. Trust me, there is no such thing as a perfect Mum. We all just ball a our way through it one day to the next praying that we have done the right thing. The guilt we place ourselves under is ridiculous but can’t be helped in my experience. It’s knackering, underpaid and you never get a thank you. But every once in a while, your kids do something, achieve something or just generally show you who they are and the feeling you get from knowing you did that, you helped make them happen is overwhelming. It doesn’t come of the back of a holiday or lots of presents etc, it comes in the moments when you least expect it. You can’t catch it on camera or record all the details, because it’s real everyday life and it means more to you than anyone else would understand anyway. I think PTWM will miss those moments because to catch them you have to listen to your kids and pay real attention to who they are and what they are doing. She doesn’t know them well enough because if she did, she would respect their privacy. All I’ll say is that even with my older two, we have a mutual understanding about what I can share of them on social media. My 11 year old and I had a conversation last weekend about it actually as he wanted me to stop sharing him singing (he sings a lot,) before he goes to high school. Your children own there own content in my opinion. If they lend it to me, great. It makes my account more interesting. But ultimately they decide x

 

[Straight_talker_isnt_bitc]

Anyone notice she’s changed towards josh since they got married. It’s literally like she got that ring and witch mode came out. Honestly she’s god awful the way she speaks to him. I wonder why she hounded him so bad for a baby she constantly whines about.

I hadn't been following her for that long when they got married but the way she speaks to Josh and undermines him isn't nice. She's teaching their 'babies' to disrespect him and ignore what he says. It's a 'what i say, goes' kinda attitude and if she doesn't, then she sulks like a child. I want this i want that, do this, do that! Jesus christ woman, your pregnant not disabled! Her friend is about to loose her life to a dreadful disease (cancer), low and behold she had to make it about her and how amazing she is at helping people because she recieved flowers! Her friend has kids to and she's putting it all over SM that their mum is dying! Give the woman some dignity rather than making everything about you.

My sons are 25, 22 and 11. Trust me, there is no such thing as a perfect Mum. We all just ball a our way through it one day to the next praying that we have done the right thing. The guilt we place ourselves under is ridiculous but can’t be helped in my experience. It’s knackering, underpaid and you never get a thank you. But every once in a while, your kids do something, achieve something or just generally show you who they are and the feeling you get from knowing you did that, you helped make them happen is overwhelming. It doesn’t come of the back of a holiday or lots of presents etc, it comes in the moments when you least expect it. You can’t catch it on camera or record all the details, because it’s real everyday life and it means more to you than anyone else would understand anyway. I think PTWM will miss those moments because to catch them you have to listen to your kids and pay real attention to who they are and what they are doing. She doesn’t know them well enough because if she did, she would respect their privacy. All I’ll say is that even with my older two, we have a mutual understanding about what I can share of them on social media. My 11 year old and I had a conversation last weekend about it actually as he wanted me to stop sharing him singing (he sings a lot,) before he goes to high school. Your children own there own content in my opinion. If they lend it to me, great. It makes my account more interesting. But ultimately they decide x

Exactly! There will be more women who felt like me too, doubting themselves as parents because these influencers and instagramers seem to be getting these holidays and maternalistic things.. We have a couple of friends who think their above everyone because of the things they have and portray a perfect family life on SM but plenty of people, including me know that its not all it seems (because of things we've been told by them themselves regarding cheating and the husband treating the wife like complete dirt).. A lot of women, dont see through the cracks and whats behind the picture, they just believe what they see from what these instgrammers and influencers are showing.. I've gone on a bit of a rant and a little off topic about who this thread is about but when you have been the person that was once influenced by these people and see people being manipulated and make a mockery of, is hard to watch and not be able to do anything! She has some friends she's 'helped' escape domestic violence but yet she shows them on her instagram when they stay at hers (PTWM) and tags them. The abuser could then find out who their ex partner that they abused, associates with. Doesn't Rachael remember how it feela to feel unsafe? Because if she did, she would take peoples safety more serious and not just use her kids and friends as a way to make a not-funny and apparently relateable stories.

 

[Jackeys]

She is definately all about herself. I went off her after she witnessed a man pass away in a car accident. She wrote a blog/poem whatever you want to call it. It went along the lines of I saw a man die, I saw the emergency help, I threw up, I comforted the man who caused the accident and so on and so on. It was then in her local newspaper so she shared swipe ups so everyone could read about her in her local paper. I mean seriously a man lost his life, his family had not even been Informed before she made it all about her. That was what made me realise how vile she was. I expect she was the one who sent it into her local paper as well. I could not believe that one man's life was a woman's social media frenzy for likes and comments

 

[H12345]

She is definately all about herself. I went off her after she witnessed a man pass away in a car accident. She wrote a blog/poem whatever you want to call it. It went along the lines of I saw a man die, I saw the emergency help, I threw up, I comforted the man who caused the accident and so on and so on. It was then in her local newspaper so she shared swipe ups so everyone could read about her in her local paper. I mean seriously a man lost his life, his family had not even been Informed before she made it all about her. That was what made me realise how vile she was. I expect she was the one who sent it into her local paper as well. I could not believe that one man's life was a woman's social media frenzy for likes and comments

Nooooo I never saw that. Honestly just gets worse as we go along. Why do people love her she’s vile

 

[Jackeys]

https://www.cornwalllive.com/news/local-news/witness-fatal-a30-crash-describes-1388058

Here's the link to the report. I can't find her blog but this report quotes part of it

 

[H12345]

Jesus. She’s got so many articles out in the paper. I’m suprised she’s not been on Jeremy Kyle if I’m honest.

 

Jesus. She’s got so many articles out in the paper. I’m suprised she’s not been on Jeremy Kyle if I’m honest.

Look at that. Definitely Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I’d put money on it

 

[Firecrotch69]

There’s one comment on that article ‘so she’s an author...says it all’

Ahahaha bleepin right! She made a mans death all about her ?!?!

 

[H12345]

Look at that. Definitely Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I’d put money on it

All I could see from that was ...i...
I need to look this up and see what it is

Edited looked it up she ticks a lot of boxes except she does show empathy but that could be crap for her attention.

 

All I could see from that was ...i...
I need to look this up and see what it is

Edited looked it up she ticks a lot of boxes except she does show empathy but that could be crap for her attention.

Her empathy is fake. You can see it when she loses her focus. She will tell a story and then manipulate right back to herself so that the only person she actually empathises with is herself. She habitually makes another persons woe her own. It’s not having the ability to see that others exist. As per the case with Josh’s sons Mother I assume. I don’t think that anyone who has the ability to emphasise with others would support an out right no contact order. They would help to secure contact in a safe environment surely. There is no understanding of other people needs, privacy, boundaries or circumstances. Not empathetic at all

Sweet lord, that nursery furniture is £800

 

[Peachy10]

Sickening how she is getting all this free stuff for her baby.

 

Sickening how she is getting all this free stuff for her baby.

“Gifted” Jesus Christ. If I hadn’t had a hysterectomy, I might consider selling my family to Asda book section and crack a kid out myself for the cash

 

[Maryberry]

Wonder how long it will be before shes asking for donations again for women in refuge ,while shes got a houseful of gifted items .

 

[Straight_talker_isnt_bitc]

If she doesn't get her Caramacs it'll be a complete tit show

 

[Boredofthem]

I earn the same as her husband & I can’t affur

“Gifted” Jesus Christ. If I hadn’t had a hysterectomy, I might consider selling my family to Asda book section and crack a kid out myself for the cash

i can still have kids but I don’t want anymore so wanna join forces & go halves on the profits

 

[H12345]

See her two latest stories
I will help her
I will do it all
I am the bleeping tit
(Okay so she didn’t say the last one)
Seriously secretly help the girl keep it to your self pat your own back

In everything she does it’s I
Why not say this is the situation we are facing how can we all help
Why are people contacting her? Surely there a proper channels to go through and she will only do what they can do themselves

 

[Boredofthem]

Just watched the story “I cried” “I contacted the refuge “ “I did this , I did that ,” tell Beyoncé she’s cancelled we have a new Queen in town