or JusRollWithIt
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Just a bit of levity during this difficult time
Have you asked why your teen doesnt want to go out? Are there any other underlying issues ie, anxiety, friendship issues etc? I would say that everyone is different and if your teen is happy hanging out at home then what’s the problem. Obviously they should be pitching in with chores around the house etc but expecting someone to do something just because other people of that age do it is misguided.I actually expect them to leave the house at some point . We all went out as a family last Sunday , they wanted to come because we went for ice cream and they've only left the house once these week and that was to buy a bottle of pop.
I would expect an 18 year old with no commitments to go out more frequently. I would expect them to sometimes go to pub at that age . And there's always cafes or the gym .
The other teenagers I know don't seem to be so reclusive. That's why I was asking other people what their experiences were.
I’m not sure where you’re actually expecting them to be? They’ve applied for jobs but had no success. Yes they could volunteer as you say, but if they have a skin issue I would imagine they’re feeling insecure. And A-Levels really didn’t finish all that long ago, allow them some grace.This is part rant, part wondering if anyone else has a similar experience.
My 18 year old has just done their a levels and finished school . They are in the house all of the time and never do anything or go out . Them being in the house all the time is getting on my nerves a bit now as they often seem to be in the way .
They've been applying for jobs , but haven't had any success. I've suggested volunteering at a charity shop to gain experience but nothing has come of it.
They also have skin issues that is trying to be sorted medically , which doesn't help their confidence and I can't help but think people are judgemental about.
I think back to when I was 18 and I was so much more independent.
Roll on September when they go to college.
Maybe they're just a house cat. I'm a bit the same. I don't need to be around people all the time and I'm quite happy when alone at home just doing my thing.I asked and they said that they do go out . They dont think it's an issue to not go out for days on end. They've met with a friend this week.
I actually expect them to leave the house at some point . We all went out as a family last Sunday , they wanted to come because we went for ice cream and they've only left the house once these week and that was to buy a bottle of pop.I’m not sure where you’re actually expecting them to be? They’ve applied for jobs but had no success. Yes they could volunteer as you say, but if they have a skin issue I would imagine they’re feeling insecure. And A-Levels really didn’t finish all that long ago, allow them some grace.
Where else are you actually expecting them to be rather than at home? Sat outside on the street?
It’s not good is it. When I was 13 I was into magazines and Take That. I know it’s a different time now but it makes me sadMy daughter is 13 and lovely but absolutely addicted to her phone.
Sadly, yes I think it is for many teenagers. Mine are addicted to their phones, drives me mental.My 13 year old is always in her room on her phone. I can entice her out with food or to bake. She'll come and watch a quiz show with me as she likes them. But apart from that she just wants to go in her room on her phone. I dont know what to do or is that normal?
It doesn't address the root behaviour but at least take her phone away overnight.I’m at my whits end, just had a phone call from the school to say another parent has called up concerned about her daughter’s behaviour and while checking her phone is now concerned about my daughter. She’s Up sending messages until all hours of the night, screen shotting pornographic images off websites and sending them, there was also a video over the weekend of my daughter smoking (unsure if it was a vape or an actual cigarette) but she’s out of control. Feel like I can’t take her phone, as I work full time and she’s responsible for getting herself to and from school (I don’t get home until after 6) feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place and it’s making me so unhappy. I’m fed up of her attitude, her entitlement, her behaviour - everything is determined about how she feels and I’m sick of walking on eggshells because of her. If anyone could help or offer an advi ce I’d much appreciate it