Parenting Hell Podcast #5

[Angelesque]

Nah, I love Lou. She definitely passes the pub test. And I’m jealous of her trip to Nashville. Rob’s away 50% of the year, I say grab any chance you get to have fun!!

I say this as a very tired working parent

 

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

Nah, I love Lou. She definitely passes the pub test. And I’m jealous of her trip to Nashville. Rob’s away 50% of the year, I say grab any chance you get to have fun!!

I say this as a very tired working parent

Nobody’s saying she can’t or shouldn’t!

Rob’s the ‘default’ worker of the house- imagine the uproar if he were to say he’s writing a book about the privilege of being able to work away but the guilt of not being home. Nobody needs it.

 

[amber.gl19]

What is Lou doing in Nashville? A book tour?

 

[esoes]

What is Lou doing in Nashville? A book tour?

Recording a country album about being a lonesome, wronged default parent.

 

[LilPinkie]

Anonymous dm, AKA Tattle . But Yep, you’re right!! View attachment 4019480

We know she’s a Tattler. She watches all that Real Housewives rit. Tattle is right on her radar. Touched a nerve we see.

 

[MeatyCushans]

Recording a country album about being a lonesome, wronged default parent.

Im still sniggering at this. Nail on the head there

 

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

We know she’s a Tattler. She watches all that Real Housewives rit. Tattle is right on her radar. Touched a nerve we see.

Exactly, she’s so defensive. There’s no way she knows Tattle exists, that she’s mentioned, and doesn’t regularly check in. Hiya. No one hates you Lou, just find you annoying and smug. And that’s okay! Dread to think what my Tattle thread would look like

 

[DrMeredithGrey]

Exactly, she’s so defensive. There’s no way she knows Tattle exists, that she’s mentioned, and doesn’t regularly check in. Hiya. No one hates you Lou, just find you annoying and smug. And that’s okay! Dread to think what my Tattle thread would look like

I don’t think I even find her annoying and smug.

I just think she’s really taken the piss with her default parenting book.

 

[CaptainHolt]

I don't dislike her or dislike her , I just find her book bleeping patronising. I've been a single mum and the audacity of her sitting there in her posh house having countless holidays a year, able to send her girls to private school, while her husband works to provide that lifestyle for her/them. Read the room Lou!

It's not that I don't think she's entitled to moan about it, of course she is. Being a parent is bleeping hard work. But she has a lot of privilege to ease that burden.

 

[Shoegal17]

They both do a lot of poor Rose, poor Lou when they are solo parenting. Hello, most families work like that and don’t have the wealth to make it all a little more comfortable and with countless holidays to look forward to. It just doesn’t sit very well. Happy for them to be successful and have money but don’t come across as so put upon and entitled.

 

[disneys]

Also worth noting she never would have gotten her book deal if she wasn’t Rob Beckett’s wife . I haven’t read it and have no doubt she can write but it’s a really tough industry to crack into unless you already have an “in” . And she’s only a best seller because of her husband’s ready-made audience . She is incredibly privileged in a lot of respects !

Not saying it’s a bad thing and if my husband was famous I’d absolutely being using my privileges ! But I just think it’s the lack of acknowledging that and her whole woe is me act which rubs me up the wrong way .

But I’m pleased she reads here . Hopefully our feedback is getting passed on !

 

[lionesses25]

Also worth noting she never would have gotten her book deal if she wasn’t Rob Beckett’s wife . I haven’t read it and have no doubt she can write but it’s a really tough industry to crack into unless you already have an “in” . And she’s only a best seller because of her husband’s ready-made audience . She is incredibly privileged in a lot of respects !

Not saying it’s a bad thing and if my husband was famous I’d absolutely being using my privileges ! But I just think it’s the lack of acknowledging that and her whole woe is me act which rubs me up the wrong way .

But I’m pleased she reads here . Hopefully our feedback is getting passed on !

Yeah - when Rob was praising her “achievement” of being a bestselling author as something she did all on her own, completely failing to mention that none of it would have happened without being his wife.

 

[LilPinkie]

Exactly, she’s so defensive. There’s no way she knows Tattle exists, that she’s mentioned, and doesn’t regularly check in. Hiya. No one hates you Lou, just find you annoying and smug. And that’s okay! Dread to think what my Tattle thread would look like

Rob has mentioned Tattle on the podcast before. I swear he said Lou told him about it. She’s completely having a little snoop on some threads.

 

[disneys]

Rob has mentioned Tattle on the podcast before. I swear he said Lou told him about it. She’s completely having a little snoop on some threads.

He did say she told him about it ! So she probably lurks here , I expect she likes the reality tv threads . No shame in loving a bit of gossip Lou !

 

[Mufasa]

Rob said today they have a cleaner who also helps to do their washing, who comes in 3 times a WEEK. Okay mega busy default parent Lou 🫡

 

[ByTheWay]

Yeah generally quite a fan of Rob and Lou in spite of the negativity but bloody hell, a few times a week is madness. I thought he may have meant a nanny/helper but I feel like if it was a nanny then they'd probably not appreciate being referred to as a cleaner, and vice versa.

I thought people had cleaners once a fortnight or week at most; the only people I know with cleaners are families where both parents work out of the house doing 40 hour weeks.

Don't get me wrong it's exactly what I'd spend money on if I could, but it's not great optics for someone talking about mental loads and default parenting.

 

[Katienana]

It doesn't surprise me and I would 100% do the same on their income but once again it does mean that the mental load is not quite as taxing as you are claiming! I've organised a few things this week - birthday cards for several birthdays next week, the dog needs grooming and to see the vet, took my son to a hospital appointment, organised school photos, kids needed swimming goggles, flu vaccine consent form, fathers day, etc. I was on my own for 4 nights as well. What else am I meant to be doing as a sahm? I'm the default parent but my husband is the default earner.

 

[DrMeredithGrey]

Anyone who says they would continue doing all the thankless tasks that come with running a home if they had a high disposable income would be a liar.
Isn’t that what they say the best thing money can buy is? Time.
And genuinely I do not care, and would not care if they said they had someone come in daily to get the house a once over.

as we’ve said on here many times before though, maybe don’t write a book about how hard it is doing something that you actually don’t do

 

[ItsmeImtheproblemitsme]

Anyone who says they would continue doing all the thankless tasks that come with running a home if they had a high disposable income would be a liar.
Isn’t that what they say the best thing money can buy is? Time.
And genuinely I do not care, and would not care if they said they had someone come in daily to get the house a once over.

as we’ve said on here many times before though, maybe don’t write a book about how hard it is doing something that you actually don’t do

no I don’t care about Nannie’s or cleaners or holidays either, it’s the negativity behind the needing to do stuff that all ‘default’ parents (usually mums) do. So you’ve written a book about it? Now what? Nobody’s campaigning for less school admin tasks, nobody’s going on ‘replenishing the toilet roll’ strike. If you choose to go on holiday and plan it all, that’s your choice! I both curse and enjoy being default parent, but that’s what I expected being a parent would be!

 

[PoorPatrol]

Oh absolutely! I’d have everything on tap, maybe a housekeeper or someone that does two hours every morning or something. I’d also be going on tonnes of holidays and generally living my best life with my kids. What I wouldn’t do however, is have the audacity to complain.

I am a solo parent and get no help at all from anyone. I complain less than Rob and Lou because I’m still very grateful for the life I have. It’s the ingratitude and whining that pisses me off, not the fact they have help.