Parenting Hell Podcast #3

[ByTheWay]

Really though- I don't get peoples issues with that? Just because we can't all afford to or don't want to do that means no one else should and we should look down on people who do? There's so much reverse snobbery goes on these days.

I'm afraid I do judge people who have children and don't actually want to interact with them, as it makes a huge difference to their development as people. It's why most of the politicians in the country are absolute sociopaths, because they were abandoned at 7 to people who had to be paid to look after them.

I'm going to sound a bit like a knob I know, but I'm sure most of us want to raise children as empathetic people who contribute to their community and try to make life a bit better for everyone. I don't really want my children to be "all about the graft" stepping on people to get ahead in life. I think that's an awful attitude to have towards others.

Off my soapbox now sorry!!

 

[SwishSwing]

Just opened Instagram to yet another video of them talking about how much they shag

Pleeeeease can someone make them a thread.

I thought you meant Rob / Josh there and I was wondering which of them had posted to their public Instagram and what I'd missed

 

[planetzanussi]

I think if Rob doesn’t want them known then we should respect that and not post. Once on the internet it’s there forever and you never know what weirdos are reading! Not denying I was curious to know the names too, me and my friend have chatted about it, the same way if I see a baby in a Tesco and got chatting to the parent I would naturally ask baby’s name. If there’s a way to delete it I think we should.

Really enjoyed roses episodes, I love the Tuesday episodes and have found myself only listening to the intros of the guest episodes and then skipping a lot of the interviews. Can’t stand listening to someone promote their book or talk about their career when it’s a parenting podcast!

 

[frillylilly]

I think there are probably some weeks when they don't share much about their kids/parenting because maybe it's been a hard week? Kids could be going through some behaviour stuff, tough times at school etc and particularly as the kids get older they might not want to share?

If we're going to compare anyone's trauma with children in Gaza then the implication is that none of us should share anything and everyone just has to buck up. Someone else's trauma, no matter how awful it is, doesn't negate how hard someone else might find something. Yes, it can give perspective, but not when you're in it.

I do think Rob can get very 'therapy' sometimes and a little navel-gazey, but it sounds like the things he'd learned in therapy have been really life changing for him and he finds it interesting, so I can see where that comes from.

 

[Bobbleowl90]

The Phillip Schofield stuff made me chuckle in the latest ep!

 

[welshgirl2021]

Google the son’s name!

oh come on who calls their child Google?

 

[Maci77]

I’ve loved the last two episodes. I absolutely love the playground shagger stories. Josh sounds like he needs a holiday - I hope he’s ok.

I really couldn’t care less if either Rob or Josh send their kids to private school. They both do a good job of remaining quite humble and acknowledging their privilege imo, which is one of many reasons I like them.

 

[Tuliptulip]

I usually like Lou but I did find that blog post quite whiny and self-indulgent

I agree. She seems so oblivious to the fact that she does actually have choices. Her financial position means she could pay for more childcare and household support. So that she doesn’t feel like she has to beg her mum for a night at the pub. Rob could take on less work so he could help out more. They could reduce the extra-curricular activities the children do. They don’t have to do the fancy birthday parties that cause stress. They could cut out the very fancy holidays to make some of these choices more possible and to free up time and money. If these choices don’t appeal to her, then she should accept the choices she has made.

It is also ridiculous to whine that she feels like people can’t be honest about how hard parenting is when her husband has a very successful and £ making podcast doing exactly that.
And if she doesn’t want to be known as only his wife, then don’t put in your blog bio “wife to Rob Beckett”.

She has so many choices available to her compared to millions of people (although I recognise the medical issues do limit some) and doesn’t seem to see this at all.

 

[Longtimebrowser]

Reading this thread I’m seeing why the names haven’t been mentioned on the podcast before now

 

[CaptainHolt]

I've been having thoughts (feel free to ignore) and I'm projecting wildly so take it as you will!

Rob's just been diagnosed with dyslexia, he suspects he has ADHD (doesn't appear to want to get tested from me reading between the lines). This can really open up a lot of feelings in regards to the realisation you're not "just stupid" or "a bit much" you do a lot of self reflection and you can feel almost like you're grieving for the person (specifically the child) you previously were who was constantly made to feel less than your peers. It's hard to explain, but I went through the same and so much of your life suddenly becomes clear but also you get a bit cross that it was never your fault but you were constantly labelled "the naughty one", "the disruptive one", "must try harder" etc etc.

He's possibly going through a bit of a manic phase at the moment - he reminds me a lot of myself sometimes when I listen /see him on tele. I think it's similar to when Josh was depressed/getting sober. I think in a month or so he'll look back and maybe think "oh I was a bit much back then" but in the midst of it he's probably unaware. I reckon Josh, as a good friend of his, is his safe space to unleash on. Josh appears to take it in good humour.

 

[Affiliatemebaby]

I love the fact that Rob is so emotionally articulate and happy to share it too.

 

[CaptainHolt]

I’ve lost track of what we’re talking about here !

Whether Pete Wicks needs a signed document to take our children abroad with him.


I think.

 

[Affiliatemebaby]

I loved it and I thought she looked fab. Let’s face it, if you’re not going up on stage or famous, you’re unlikely to do the whole red carpet photo thing, and surely best to go in something you feel good and confident in.

 

[Stantheman]

I'm glad Josh called Rob out today for not letting him finish his sentence. Rob does it way too often. Ok, he gets excited but it's quite tedious often he does it. Josh has snapped a few times now

 

[SwishSwing]

oh come on who calls their child Google?

As Josh would say "bit of fun"

 

[weeweegie]

I read Lou’s blog and felt she was showing her vulnerability and I think that takes some guts. I get the points about her privilege but I didn’t take it as whining. She’s been the default parent for 8 years and given up her career and suffered with her health. No matter how much money you have you can still find things tough. It’s far too easy to lose your identity when you become a mum, and although I can’t relate to having a famous and rich husband () I do relate to the feeling of losing yourself in motherhood and missing having something that is just yours and gives you a purpose outwith your husband and kids. I hope she secures a teaching job soon, she is still young and could have a long career ahead of her.

 

[Affiliatemebaby]

I’d rather he got freebies on the back of having talent that he works hard at, than a pointless influencer who’d go and take photos of themself with thumbs up and a smirk.

 

[booblin99]

I think she looked great

agreed, plus the criticism seems so unnecessary, she's not a celebrity or public figure

 

[frillylilly]

I know Alison gets a bit of stick and people are a bit fed up with her, but I think she’s a good egg really. And seems to know “this” probably won’t last forever and so she’s banking that cash, which is fair enough!

 

[N0sey.P4rker]

Josh's comment today "people said they don't like the guest episodes" - yes Josh, listen to the people

I do quite like the guest episodes...guest dependant.