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Ah I felt sorry for her but now I’ve just seen her self indulgent tik tok of her crying over how hard it is to be a single mum and now she’s irritated me. She’s not a single mum. The kids still have involvement and support from their father. It grinds my gears when people call themselves a single mum as there’s a difference between being SOLELY responsible for your children and co-parenting which is what she is doing. Yes co- parenting is difficult but it is no way the same as being a SOLE parent.
 
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Ah I felt sorry for her but now I’ve just seen her self indulgent tik tok of her crying over how hard it is to be a single mum and now she’s irritated me. She’s not a single mum. The kids still have involvement and support from their father. It grinds my gears when people call themselves a single mum as there’s a difference between being SOLELY responsible for your children and co-parenting which is what she is doing. Yes co- parenting is difficult but it is no way the same as being a SOLE parent.
Yeah I get that, it was probably badly worded. I do feel for her though, she’s probably still hurting
 
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Ah I felt sorry for her but now I’ve just seen her self indulgent tik tok of her crying over how hard it is to be a single mum and now she’s irritated me. She’s not a single mum. The kids still have involvement and support from their father. It grinds my gears when people call themselves a single mum as there’s a difference between being SOLELY responsible for your children and co-parenting which is what she is doing. Yes co- parenting is difficult but it is no way the same as being a SOLE parent.
I think that's a little unfair. She's still having to run a household by herself and pay all her bills for 3 people by herself
Being single just means not having a partner. Yeah she doesn't have it as hard as some other people but she is still allowed to struggle and share that.

Me and my kids dad are still together and I still feel overwhelmed by life a lot!
 
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I think that's a little unfair. She's still having to run a household by herself and pay all her bills for 3 people by herself
Being single just means not having a partner. Yeah she doesn't have it as hard as some other people but she is still allowed to struggle and share that.

Me and my kids dad are still together and I still feel overwhelmed by life a lot!
TBF I thought single parent was split up parents, of course having no one at all is much worse but splitting up and doing all of the parenting and adult things is tough. And as you said, it's bloody tough even with a partner

It's all tough
 
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Eh. Bit of a technicality really. She does single parent in terms of when she has the kids, the household bills etc. That said, Ebony gets a lot of freedom from the 50/50 child split. How many bloody holidays with her mates does she go on a year?! She is able to do her hobbies each week, like football & climbing & park run. She has frequent time with her mates during the week/weekend. It’s a complete other world to the experience I have parenting 🙈 but really, she is just making the best of a tit situation I guess. She doesn’t get to see her children 50% of the week, which would make me so sad. It’d take me a lot to come to terms with knowing there was a part of their lives I’d never share. And that they have a whole separate family. I’d frankly take less freedom & have my children with me all the time..
 
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Ah I felt sorry for her but now I’ve just seen her self indulgent tik tok of her crying over how hard it is to be a single mum and now she’s irritated me. She’s not a single mum. The kids still have involvement and support from their father. It grinds my gears when people call themselves a single mum as there’s a difference between being SOLELY responsible for your children and co-parenting which is what she is doing. Yes co- parenting is difficult but it is no way the same as being a SOLE parent.
I think what you’ve said is incredibly unfair . The TikTok isn’t “self indulgent “ she is clearly a mum struggling on her own. People keep saying speak about mental health and when people say they’re struggling you’re saying it’s “self indulgent “ however what if she kept quiet and felt extremely alone because of it ? Maybe she just wanted to reach out and see if the strangers in the comments made her not feel alone. She had a partner she was engaged to who seemed to of got in a relationship within seconds and has a new world since her yet she’s having to sell the house they bought together , she lost a job she’s struggling and that’s ok to share. She’s a single parent she is single and struggling and how dare you invalidate someone’s struggles in the way you have .
 
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I think what you’ve said is incredibly unfair . The TikTok isn’t “self indulgent “ she is clearly a mum struggling on her own. People keep saying speak about mental health and when people say they’re struggling you’re saying it’s “self indulgent “ however what if she kept quiet and felt extremely alone because of it ? Maybe she just wanted to reach out and see if the strangers in the comments made her not feel alone. She had a partner she was engaged to who seemed to of got in a relationship within seconds and has a new world since her yet she’s having to sell the house they bought together , she lost a job she’s struggling and that’s ok to share. She’s a single parent she is single and struggling and how dare you invalidate someone’s struggles in the way you have .
Woah!! Hang on, it’s on a public platform and this is a gossip page. Saying How Dare you is a bit strong. I genuinely feel for her but also think it is a bit self indulgent to sit and cry on SM. That being said I think atm she’s going the a really bloody tough time, it’s the housing situation and that’s horrible for her.
 
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She is a single mum though? Maybe it’s a technicality but I think of mum’s having no involvement from the other parent as solo parenting. 🤷‍♀️
 
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She is a single mum though? Maybe it’s a technicality but I think of mum’s having no involvement from the other parent as solo parenting. 🤷‍♀️
I think it’s how you look at it, she’s is a mum and she’s single so yes, she’s a single mum, however she is not a solo parent as she has a 50/50 split with David, when the kids are with her though she is responsible for them on her own, of course you could argue that David is always there though as a back up where by a lot of parents, mainly women have zero help from the other parent. Do I think it was a bit self indulgent? Yeah a bit and she does get that time away/a break but as said above, she also doesn’t have her kids 50% of the time and that’s hard. She lost her job and then couldn’t buy her house and so I do feel really sorry for her, so yeah, maybe a bit self indulgent but also maybe she just was at breaking point and needed some other people who had been through it to offer a bit of support. It seems most of her RL friends don’t have kids so they won’t get how hard and lonely it can be.
 
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She is a single mum though? Maybe it’s a technicality but I think of mum’s having no involvement from the other parent as solo parenting. 🤷‍♀️
i agree she is a single parent, I think single parent is an easier way to say it, and you can be a co-parenting single parent and also be a solo single parent (I’m a solo single parent but always call myself a single mum as it’s easier)
 
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Woah!! Hang on, it’s on a public platform and this is a gossip page. Saying How Dare you is a bit strong. I genuinely feel for her but also think it is a bit self indulgent to sit and cry on SM. That being said I think atm she’s going the a really bloody tough time, it’s the housing situation and that’s horrible for her.
I agree it’s a gossip platform but Jesus Christ commenting and complaining on someone clearing sharing that they’re struggling mentally is abit much. You may not agree with what I said but I honestly stand by it
 
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It’s such a shame that she lost her job, which meant she also lost the house! She must be going through so much as she’s having to worry not just about herself but her kids and dog too, some of these comments about how she worded something are a bit harsh…. at the end of the day she’s single and a mum, when she has the kids she’s solely responsible for them and that’s hard!
 
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yes It is really tit for her. I’ve just listened to the podcast and omg, I am crying! Lucy! 😂😂😂 well both of them. A great episode.
 
I think she also may feel extra "single" as when David has the kids he still has a second pair of hands. Ebony does have friends and family but she is the one doing the sole parenting. No passing them off for 2 hours if you're having a tit day.
Losing the job and house and dealing w9th being "alone" can feel heavy even if 90% of the time you are ok with it.
I do feel crying online is a little mad, but society has made it more acceptable. I do think she should feel free to speak about how it impacts her mentally and negatively, as I am sure it will resonate with a lot of single parents.
 
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I think she also may feel extra "single" as when David has the kids he still has a second pair of hands. Ebony does have friends and family but she is the one doing the sole parenting. No passing them off for 2 hours if you're having a tit day.
Losing the job and house and dealing w9th being "alone" can feel heavy even if 90% of the time you are ok with it.
I do feel crying online is a little mad, but society has made it more acceptable. I do think she should feel free to speak about how it impacts her mentally and negatively, as I am sure it will resonate with a lot of single parents.
Tbh I think it’s healthy in a way to show real life. We all know YouTube and insta are highlights of people’s life’s or downright fake, the fact shes being honest and showing how stressful it is will undoubtedly make others in a similar situation not feel quite so alone. I do wonder if Ebony wanted the split more than David 🤷‍♀️. She has said she feels she missed out being young as she was with David for a long time and then they had the kids, although that was due to her endometriosis I think. Im sure it will sort itself out and once she has a house sorted that will be a huge relief .
 
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Tbh I think it’s healthy in a way to show real life. We all know YouTube and insta are highlights of people’s life’s or downright fake, the fact shes being honest and showing how stressful it is will undoubtedly make others in a similar situation not feel quite so alone. I do wonder if Ebony wanted the split more than David 🤷‍♀️. She has said she feels she missed out being young as she was with David for a long time and then they had the kids, although that was due to her endometriosis I think. Im sure it will sort itself out and once she has a house sorted that will be a huge relief .
I always thought it was David that split w her because he had changed through his counselling and felt no longer connected to Ebony & Ebony mentioned she is the worst at telling when a relationship has come to an end in her podcast
 
I know they have separated but I do feel sorry for Ebony, she’s having to pack up the entire house on her own. I hope at least David has helped even if it’s off camera. I have a friend who’s husband left, moved in with his new girlfriend and she was left to do everything! The most he did was sign paperwork for the sale of the house. She had 15 years worth of stuff. He came and took bits he wanted but everything else was on her shoulders.
 
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I think she's so sweet and clearly a very good mum. I do wish she hadn't shared about daisy's emotions etc because I think that's a bit personal for poor Daisy to have shared with thousands of people
 
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So the people that were buying the house pulled out 2 days before they were meant to be moving in?? That’s ridiculous and shouldn’t be allowed to happen, I do really feel sorry for Ebony she seems to be having a stressful time but hopefully this could turn out better and she can get a job sorted and hopefully be able to buy a new place instead of rent🤞🏻
 
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So the people that were buying the house pulled out 2 days before they were meant to be moving in?? That’s ridiculous and shouldn’t be allowed to happen, I do really feel sorry for Ebony she seems to be having a stressful time but hopefully this could turn out better and she can get a job sorted and hopefully be able to buy a new place instead of rent🤞🏻
Nooo! Omg! What utter bleeps! Until you sign/exchange you are not legally bound but they would have spent money already on searches etc. poor Ebony. shes sold so much furniture and packed.
 
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