Yeah. I was friends with ”A” for ten years (I’m a young adult now but I was a kid when we first met) there has always been flirty sort of chatter between us but not a peep in terms of photos or facetime and he ghosted me in august last year (august 10th, yes I remember it, I am a saddo
) out of the blue. I still think about it now. Still wait for him to come back. Mostly for closure because at this point I think he’s cat fishing me but that’s a long painful story
Posted about it here too. It is
tit isn’t it.
I think online friendships can get really intense really quickly because you tend to meet one another with a particular interest, rather than going out on dates and drawing all of that out of someone slowly… it all comes at you fast. It can be tough to maintain as well because of the distance (arranging calls or facetimes) or the medium e.g. I’ve fallen out with people because we have mis communicated because we talk through text.
For you I think… give it some time, a breather, see if he reconnects or apologises or whatever is needed for you to resolve the argument. If he doesn’t then that just shows you the type of person he is and that he doesn’t really value your connection that much or he’d make an effort to get in touch and work things out rather than just ghosting - and you deserve better than a guy who‘s automatic decision is to ghost, it’s so immature. Although I will always miss and want closure from “A” I’m at the point where I realise he may not be the ideal man I have in my head and clearly doesn’t value me or we would have spoken long before now and this may be the same Realisation for you sadly
I will say I hope it doesn’t go in that direction for you, I hope you iron things out