One Direction #7 Spaces between them

[redstraw16]

One of the best lessons I’ve ever learnt is “there is no blueprint to loss or grief”. One person may need to keep busy whilst another can’t work, one person may need to constantly cry whilst another has to shut down emotionally to cope, one person might need to be stoic whilst another needs to find awkward jokes in the silence, one person might want to gush or unload on social media whilst another might remain silent.

People will be watching everyone’s moves (especially the four 1D boys) going forward but grief and how it’s handled is so individual to each person and I hope his family and those close to him are given that understanding, but sadly I don’t think they will.

 

[randomuser2468]

when’s it going to stop hurting

 

[Scar14]

I don’t think Simon was involved as people actually think. SyCo was not just him and plus they had management etc it wasn’t all Simon’s rules. He probably didn’t have much of a say outside of picking singles and songs. I know Sonny Takhar managed a lot of the stuff with Simon being on Tv a lot.

Simon said the only regrets he has is that he didn’t own the name one direction. He could have said he regrets not keeping a closer eye on them, not having a therapist on tour to help them deal with becoming famous so fast so young, that he regrets how young they actually were when he put them together. Yes their parents let them audition but none of them expected them to blow up like they did and never come home. I completely agree with you about it not being all Simon’s fault, but he should have advocated for them while they were young. I do disagree with him not having much of a say though. Remember when he had a meeting with Louis after that cake fight they had?
Simon failed them massively and he refuses to even acknowledge it, never mind to take accountability for it

 

[MissGlitzyRitzy]

He looks absolutely gorgeous with the grey hair imo

Yes I think he looks more gorgeous as he is keeping it real and not overtly groomed. Undone

 

[Diddikins]

One of the best lessons I’ve ever learnt is “there is no blueprint to loss or grief”. One person may need to keep busy whilst another can’t work, one person may need to constantly cry whilst another has to shut down emotionally to cope, one person might need to be stoic whilst another needs to find awkward jokes in the silence, one person might want to gush or unload on social media whilst another might remain silent.

People will be watching everyone’s moves (especially the four 1D boys) going forward but grief and how it’s handled is so individual to each person and I hope his family and those close to him are given that understanding, but sadly I don’t think they will.

She has absolutely hit the nail on the head.

 

[bottlewrapper]

I’m not saying Simon Cowell is innocent in any way but let’s not forget their parents let them audition (age dependant) and I would hope parents would check over any contract before it is signed or get a lawyer to do so

I'm not sure it's something that could be dealt with as a contractual issue.

It's more like child abuse, with the adults pushing the child in the direction of the adult agenda, and the child then just employing whatever coping strategies they could to deal with what situations they found themselves in.

I always found it chilling on x factor or whatever show when one of the older people (who held all the power) used to say to the young hopeful 'you're a star! What I've seen today means you're definitely a STAR, and you could WIN!' and you'd see the little one's eyes light up...and there they were, ripe for slaughter.

Surely everyone realises now from the examples that youthful fame coming out of nowhere is not a good idea for anyone?

Let's face it, whatever you think of Simon Cowell, there's no way his son will be encouraged to go into the music business as a performer.

 

[JSquared]

I'm not sure it's something that could be dealt with as a contractual issue.

It's more like child abuse, with the adults pushing the child in the direction of the adult agenda, and the child then just employing whatever coping strategies they could to deal with what situations they found themselves in.

I always found it chilling on x factor or whatever show when one of the older people (who held all the power) used to say to the young hopeful 'you're a star! What I've seen today means you're definitely a STAR, and you could WIN!' and you'd see the little one's eyes light up...and there they were, ripe for slaughter.

Surely everyone realises now from the examples that youthful fame coming out of nowhere is not a good idea for anyone?

Let's face it, whatever you think of Simon Cowell, there's no way his son will be encouraged to go into the music business as a performer.

Sorry I meant initially - I wonder what their contract originally said and if the parents had any say.

Liams dad had a past post of him that had the caption ‘like if you love my son’. Made me feel a bit icky, exploiting your son for likes? Or trying to show him how adored he is when he felt low? I don’t know, just didn’t sit right with me.

 

[sparklingdee]

Might be just me, but Harry's statement read a bit cold and quite detached.

he's a cold heartless robot.

jesus. someone is grieving their friend and all people can do is pick apart his words. if he posted something overly emotional, THAT would've been wrong. because he posted something more carefully worded, he's 'cold hearted' is he?

ANYONE who's ever met or interacted with harry will know he is the furthest away thing from cold hearted. he's funny, intuitive and a very kind soul.

have a day off and have a think about what ur saying ffs

 

[GrilledCheese]

Sorry I meant initially - I wonder what their contract originally said and if the parents had any say.

Liams dad had a past post of him that had the caption ‘like if you love my son’. Made me feel a bit icky, exploiting your son for likes? Or trying to show him how adored he is when he felt low? I don’t know, just didn’t sit right with me.

That's clearly a fake account of his dad. If you go on the page they're asking fans to follow Liam's "personal" account "liamfromlondon", and the fake Liam comments "thanks dad". LOL

Geoff and Karen were so supportive of Liam. They wouldn't use him for likes like that

 

[lime]

I don't think Simon knows how to be tactful about mental health or the delicate conversation around how shows like X Factor could've been different. He knows money and he talks money, and as far as we know none of the 1D boys were ever financially fleeced like some artists in the industry (S Club, TLC). He made sure they got the name (even if he joked about it now) and they were set up for life. I think people go overboard sometimes making him the villain.

 

[TheGlossy]

I think Simon rejecting Liam during his first X Factor attempt was a blessing in disguise. I wonder where he’d be right now if he’d never attempted a second time. He already came across as an overly sensitive boy back then.

 

[MrsLisboa]

 

[Rosa34]

I know the paparazzi have no soul or morals but that is beyond disgusting. To shove multiple cameras in a man who has literally just lost his son.

 

[MrsLisboa]

I know the paparazzi have no soul or morals but that is beyond disgusting. To shove multiple cameras in a man who has literally just lost his son.

Vultures indeed!
Can’t remember his name but the 1D security guy that was always with the boys is with Geoff in Argentina

 

[Rosa34]

Vultures indeed!
Can’t remember his name but the 1D security guy that was always with the boys is with Geoff in Argentina

Paul Higgins!! He honestly has been there for them since day 1 and has worked with them all throughout their solo careers, if that doesn’t show what a gem of a human being he is I don’t know what does, but this must be devastating for him as he always said he was their “road dad” I can’t imagine how he’s feeling either

 

[Jjjg]

My heart is breaking for his dad, he's outside looking at the tributes and thanking the fans.

 

[F1Grid]

Contrary to most people's opinions on Harry's post I actually liked the picture. It's Liam front and centre in the spotlight which is what Liam wanted. I think it's also a picture Harry took? He used to take them on stage and post them.

They were obviously not that close, which is fine. I imagine Harry taking the role that Liam thought he'd be getting took a toll on that relationship in general, Liam certainly seemed bitter about it in subsequent years.

I'd rather that tribute from Harry than the ones we're seeing from people who hadn't spoken to him in years, with pictures of them together from before Brexit was even dreamed up.

 

[gossipgirlxxo]

Eleanor Calder posted a lovely story, seems that Liam was really there for her in recent years during her breakup with Louis

 

[JSquared]

That's clearly a fake account of his dad. If you go on the page they're asking fans to follow Liam's "personal" account "liamfromlondon", and the fake Liam comments "thanks dad". LOL

Geoff and Karen were so supportive of Liam. They wouldn't use him for likes like that

Apologies, my mistake, I didn’t check out the full account

 

[Rosa34]

his sisters post is just unbelievably heartbreaking