New housemate struggles…

[xcyber]

It’s better than being locked out of my actual flat for an entire night . God even typing that is insane haha!

I’m fuming for you tbh. That was entirely intentionally done. I think def keep a log of all these incidences and evidence and if stuff gets hairy you can try and use that to get her out.

 

[xcyber]

Oh god she sounds problematic. I think you’re definitely going to have to broach it and be very firm because her behaviour is not on. It’s annoying because you just want to enjoy your living space and not feel uncomfortable or on edge. I feel for you.

 

[candyland_]

I’ve come to the conclusion that she’s just a brat, I'm wfh today and I heard her leave for work .. about 10 mins later I was on a call with my headphones in and could hear some banging so I went to investigate and there was was kicking the front door! I opened it like ‘are you okay?’ And she just pushed me out the way and said, ‘I forgot my keys and now im late because you didn’t answer’ no thank you or anything … I think I want rid

Did you remind her that she locked you out all night?

 

[yogiessexdubs]

I agree with @tinkerbell. I've been in similar situations and you can't appear 'weak' or they will run riot. It's like dealing with a bully.

 

[Tree_]

Knock on her door and then punch her when she opens it. Or maybe don't but tell her to buy back your bog roll

 

[Shutterbug99]

Wow. What an absolute nightmare! Do you think she's maybe trying to push you out of the flat so she can move one of her friends in? It seems that way to me. She 100% locked you out on purpose. I wouldn't have answered the door to her when she got locked out - give her a taste of her own medicine!

I hadn't seen this thread until now - and I do have some advice to share on how you might get rid of her - especially since she's been living there such a short time. I rented all through my 20's and for the most part I had fun housemates. However, I once had to deal with a similar situation to you. Without making this into a really long story, the guy that moved in not only practically moved his girlfriend in a week later (and she'd be at the house all day by herself when everyone else was out at work) he also threw quite a few very loud all-night parties. Anyway, first time I let it go, next few times I rang the police as an anonymous neighbour complaining about noise disturbance. Next time the landlord called round, I was sure to meet him. He asked me about the new tenant; I told him we'd had the police at the door and we'd also had a few other problems with him(the guy was an actual nightmare). The landlord told him to leave. The guy knew it was me that had called the police and confronted me about it- but he couldn't prove it.

The next time we were looking for someone to move in - we had a one-month trial period in case anything similar happened.

I never had someone lock an internal door in a house while they were having a party. The cheek of her! She is totally throwing her weight around - and you have to stand up to her. You are the longer-term tenant, so don't let her walk all over you. Stand your ground - and maybe start making things a bit difficult for her. Don't hide away in your room. I know these situations call be stressful (I've been there!) but that is the absolute worst thing you can do.

ETA: Since she has only recently moved in I wonder if you can phone the landlord and just tell him it's not working out and that you will find another tenant? He probably knows she's not the easiest to live with if she demanded all new furniture as soon as she moved in!

 

[cococookie]

It sounds like she is trying to bully you into leaving

 

[EddyDarling]

She’s 27 and I’m 33 so not too big of an age gap! Yeah, I need to grow some balls and say something … my washing just finished and my drying rack is in the front room, I’m just hiding in my room wondering what to do so stupid!

27!!!!
I wondered if she was just a bit young and not up to speed with shared living but at 27 she knows what she's doing.
Go and get your washing before she bins it!

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

@Blahblahahaaa77 you were literally locked out all night but then the housemate was rapping the door and complained she would be 10 mins late because you wouldn't answer?! Nah absolutely not. pardon my french here but FUCK that. Who does she think she is. You have to make it clear to people like this they can not get on like that from the beginning otherwise it will just get worse. You are a better person than me because I would have told her where to go instantly with that attitude.

 

[EddyDarling]

She sounds entirely batshit

 

[Dollylovesshoes]

How is everything now Blah?

 

[MrsBsDayOff]

Her behaviour is totally unacceptable. Tbh she doesn't sound like the type of person who will ever improve. These people never do.

'Having a word' may make you feel better as you get feelings off your chest (I'd do it myself), but her behaviour won't change sorry to say...don't expect results.

Unless she does something that breaks the terms of the lease (make sure you write everything down and take photos/videos), you will have to move out. Life isn't fair, again sorry to say it but it's true, someone's bullying behaviour drove me out of a house share before leaving me stuck in a relatives spare room for months, it wasnt my fault at all and I had to suffer the consequences.

I've lived with a few assholes in house shares but no one as explicitly bad (at first anyway) as the person the OP mentions

Have a word with her and let your landlord know what's going on too, cover yourself

Sadly in my experience landlords don't wanna know about internal tenant conflicts unless a condition of the lease is being broken (such as damage or drugs or overoccupancy), and I can see their point.

She’s a dick and very rude. You’re going to have to have a word but tbh I’ve been in a similar situation and it’s such a horrible atmosphere, it only resolved when that person leaves.

Its awful, as noted above I lived in a house where I had to hide in my room from an absolute dick of a housemate, you can't relax in your home and feel on edge all the time. I bought a house eventually but I never take my privacy for granted esp as I know a lot of people are in situations where they have to houseshare with shitty people as cant afford a house purchase

 

[Blahblahahaaa77]

Is there any common ground you could find where you end up being friends or at least come to a truce? Do you have any similar interests, are you the same age bracket etc. You could try be friendly and go for a 'clean slate' approach.

If not, time to get your psycho on and get her out of there.

She’s 27 and I’m 33 so not too big of an age gap! Yeah, I need to grow some balls and say something … my washing just finished and my drying rack is in the front room, I’m just hiding in my room wondering what to do so stupid!

 

[Shutterbug99]

I’ve said something and spoken to the landlord .. they’re coming to sort some stuff out next week so we shall see. I have covid at the moment so I think being stuck in the house is just making me a bit crazy!

She sounds like a real piece of work. I already said this in my previous post but I really think she's trying to get you out of there so she can move a friend in.

Hopefully the landlord takes your side on this as you've been there longer and she's being a total nightmare.

 

[Blahblahahaaa77]

Sorry my notifications for this thread disappeared . No real updates, we just don’t speak AT ALL … literally no more than a hello . She just stays in her room and I text her when the bills are due … such strange vibes! She does makeup on the side and she had people round all weekend doing their faces and I sat on the sofa and drank wine with them … they were way more fun than her but I’m not sure she should be using the living room as a makeup studio

 

[Mysteryy]

Rub chili pepper seeds on thr toilet roll... just make sure you don't use it

 

[Lady Die]

I’ve said something and spoken to the landlord .. they’re coming to sort some stuff out next week so we shall see. I have covid at the moment so I think being stuck in the house is just making me a bit crazy!

Well done on standing up for yourself and saying something to the landlord. I've had some bad/super inconsiderate housemates in my time, but nothing quite as catastrophic as being locked out all night!!

 

[cococookie]

How’s it going?…Are you alive

 

[primarkqueen93]

She sounds absolutely horrible I think you should call her out on it. Petty and immature.

 

[Blahblahahaaa77]

I’ve said something and spoken to the landlord .. they’re coming to sort some stuff out next week so we shall see. I have covid at the moment so I think being stuck in the house is just making me a bit crazy!