New baby and post birth advice #19 Marching to the beat of our tiny dictators drums

[I’mThankyou_]

On the subject of MILS, I know mine is down Manchester soon and she has no intention of visiting her 3 grandchildren because her Golden Balls child isn't in the country, so I made the effort and reached out and asked for help. The boy has his football presentation coming up, and I want to make sure he has my full focus on the night as he rarely gets that atm. My mums working nights that weekend so I know she can't help though she would in a heartbeat. So I asked the MIL if she would like to come with us, that way she can entertain the twins whilst I watch him collect his trophy as I know he's getting player of the season. Her response? No sorry, we're coming down with the girls (nieces) and it's not something they'd be interested in doing.
It takes a lot for me to ask for help, and even then I didn't ask her to baby sit, I asked her to come with us. I'm so very close to telling her that she's only got 2 grandchildren because mine clearly don't count for shite.

 

[LongishCat]

It's not cancer! The new spot on my mom's liver isn't cancer!
Is a hemangioma, which is absolutely harmless

Went to the GP with Kitten this morning as she had a rubbish night and woke up screaming with 38,6°C. She's been feeling bad for over a week. She's still smiley, but noticably more tired, irritable and pukey.
By the time I went to the appointment she was back at 36°? But when I got back home she was at 38° again. I called the GP to check if that was normal, but she was very dismissive and made me feel like a moron "Yes, ofcourse that's normal, when a baby gets upset, their temperature can rise. She cried a lot while she was here."
Either way, the GP found nothing wrong with her. Other than loads of snot and slime. But I can't do anything about it, as we treated Kitten with some nasal drops the past few days (not that they did anything ).
Ugh, if she's still feeling ill in a few days, I'll try to see a pediatrician.

 

[Barbie2020]

Yay finally graduating here after having my girl last week

I’ve only read the first couple of pages but I’ll get on great here cos I’ve also got a very annoying interfering MiL. Now my FiL is suddenly getting to be a pain now I’ve had the baby. Wouldn’t pass her back to me when she was crying the other day

They’ve asked to see her again today which would be every other day since we’ve been home and my husband just said no you’ll have to wait until next week. We’ve been having a few issues with feeding and struggled to find bottles that she could get on with so she had lost too much weight at her last MW appointment. We are pretty much sorted now but MiL is acting like it’s the worst thing in the world and that baby is in some sort of grave danger. I’m sure we will have fallen out in the next couple of weeks

Been reading this thread for ages whilst I was pregnant and looking forward to getting loads of helpful advice as I’m a proper baby dummy

 

[I’mThankyou_]

I'm so fed up today and I don't know why.
But I just don't feel like I'm doing enough with the twins in the day.
We're so restricted because of routine, because of the school run I can't just feed and let them nap when ever. They won't nap in the pram and if they do they're disturbed when we get home because the double buggy doesn't fit through the door. I feel so trapped inside the house. I spent the better part of yesterday and today crying when they're asleep. I was always out and about walking with the eldest it was easy, this time it just feels impossible. I won't take them out and feed them outside the house because you just get sympathetic looks of strangers who take pity on you. I don't need pity, I just wish I had a second pair of hands and it wasn't just me 24/7. I'm sorry to be a Debbie downer, Mr TY is no contact atm and I just feel so incredibly lonely.

 

[Definitelyme]

Oh wait. I feel awful @Definitelyme I forgot to ask if you and Baby Me had a nice 1st birthday?
Sorryyyy

He did, thank you! We let him play with the hoover until he got bored (it’s his fave) and I also left his nappy off much of the day so he could fiddle with himself to his heart's content, another favourite activity so he couldn’t have asked for more really!

How did the cake toppers you made turn out also!!

 

[bepobee]

Hi everyone, I wanted to introduce myself as I've now graduated from the pregnancy thread our little boy was born on Sunday morning
We had a challenging first few days with us staying a couple of nights in hospital due to difficulty getting him to feed (as I was hoping to breastfeed). We have had lots of support from midwives and specialist feeding support teams and we are making good progress now that we are home
I can't believe I'm still functioning after very little sleep this past week. I had a very on off slow labour meaning I barely slept in the 3 days before he was born, and that didn't get much better with the hospital stay.
Currently wondering when it is safe to brave transferring a sleeping baby from on top of me into his bedside crib without waking him up again!

 

[Borntorun]

Hahah are your parents also my parents?

I mean im not kidding when I say she chose a ridiculous name. She’s chosen Glam-ma. I wish I was joking

 

[Sailorontheseasea]

TW if anyone needs one, talking about sick. (Not sure it’s needed but just in case anyone is about to eat )

If anyone needs a laugh today…baby did the biggest poo explosion I’ve ever seen in my 4 years of parenting/nearly 10 years of nannying. It was everywhere. Buggy, car seat, clothes, me, my car (don’t ask me how, I don’t know ) So I rush out of the shops to change it because their baby change was closed (typical), put the older 2 in the car and change little sailor on the front seat. I’m sweating, he’s sweating and screaming because he wants a feed. My 4 year old (in the middle seat) then starts pretend gagging at the smell except he wasn’t pretend gagging, he was full on retching. He then proceeds to throw up all over himself, my car, his car seat and the drivers seat with a very near miss of the baby’s head. Fair to say literally everything I own is now in the washing machine and I’m hoping for the best only wanted to pop to the bloody shops!

If anyone reads this and considers ever having 3 under 4. Don’t. Just don’t.

Big hugs to everyone that needs it today

 

[Borntorun]

In case anyone was struggling to picture what I meant earlier. This is how my husband arranged the trouser, vest, shirt combo after a nappy change while out. There was a massive queue for the baby change too so I couldn’t even go back and fix it

 

[Chickenandgravy]

Whoops....I almost picked the option about my actual baby and not the feathered fucker baby.

Here is the first class dickhead himself to grace the thread his phrase of the week has been shouting "you're a wee dick" to the BT guys working out the front of the house meanwhile Hannah has once again decided sleep is for the weak and partying is the only way forward

 

[Trombolese]

I don’t know if I should laugh or cry at what’s happened this evening I went to pick up Mr Trombolese and his dad from football, got there and he was so drunk so he got in the back and his dad sat in the passenger seat. The whole way back home he was just asleep, the baby was fast asleep in the car seat and I dropped his dad off which is a few minutes away from ours. As we are driving into our road, I suddenly just feel something wet hit my back, and he’s basically projectile vommed all over my car and me. The only miracle is that none of it went on the baby, I’m glad I took the sick bullet but fuck me, if he was sick on the baby I’d probably be on the news for committing murder . I‘ve wiped down the car but I dread to think what it’s going to smell like tomorrow. He’s been banished to the spare room for now. I was actually thinking earlier how it might be the time to start having sex again, but nope he’s killed that off for the foreseeable strong contender for knobwaffle of the day award.

 

[Dipdab]

I just had to share this, T1s first time in a ball pit. Thought maybe I’d a get a few pics of them both enjoying the experience. Erm nooooo ….

 

[LongishCat]

Anyone found the pause button for the world? Or the cure for cancer while we're at it?
Dad's tumor and metastasis are still growing, so he'll need stronger chemo therapy.
But now they also found something new on my mom's liver. And she had been pretty much cancer free for a while now. So that really, really sucks. They need to do more tests to figure out what it is, but they're assuming it's malicious.

Getting back on topic. Kitten had a fever yesterday, but hasn't had a fever today. She also hasn't puked (yet?), which is nice, but she's coughing a lot. Keeps waking herself up, poor thing.
For weaning I do cook fresh veggies everyday (unless she's going to daycare, because they prepare fresh meals there) and then just blend them. Today was sweet potato/carrots/broccoli, but she wasn't a big fan. Think she dislikes broccoli.
The weaning poos are very smelly, but they also seem to irritate her skin? Her poor bum was all red, so using some wonder cream (inotyol) on it and it seems to be getting better luckily.

I also like bananas and biscoff, sorry not sorry

 

[bottombanana]

Made the baby’s food and thought of you guys

 

[Crazycatlady18]

I cannot deal with another day of a windy whingy baby. I cannot deal with this feeding bullshit any more. I literally do not know how to fix it. Everything and I mean everything upsets her. Puree, milk, water, she isn’t intorlerant to everything I just don’t believe there is an allergy. She literally cannot suck and swallow I don’t know where to turn now. The nhs feeding team are fucking useless. I think we’re going to have to find a way of paying now, I just don’t know what to do anymore. 6 months of just pure feeding hell. I’m done today I can’t do it. I don’t want to.

 

[Dipdab]

Thank you for everyone’s kind words yesterday sorry I didn’t get round to replying. Today was a much better day and got some good naps in (although I have had 3 walks as she will only nap in the pram). I had a long chat with husband and my mum who have convinced to go to GP as I’ve not been feeling myself mentally recently. Bit scared but I know they are right

 

[miamae]

Sleep deprivation is next level, my best friend came round today and she was changing baby and she was like "Mia, why has he got 3-6 month leggings on?" genuinely don't know how I didn't notice, he'd had these on all day. I mean look how big they are on him

Thank you for everyone’s kind words yesterday sorry I didn’t get round to replying. Today was a much better day and got some good naps in (although I have had 3 walks as she will only nap in the pram). I had a long chat with husband and my mum who have convinced to go to GP as I’ve not been feeling myself mentally recently. Bit scared but I know they are right

Bless you, well done you for deciding to go to the GP. I hope things improve soon for you x

 

[Borntorun]

Omg I hate weaning, it’s messy and it’s faff and I’m shite at cooking at the best of times
She also no longer eats anything I cook, instead the dog puts her paws on the e bottom of the highchair and she feeds anything she’s eating to the dog, and then has a sip of water and spins the beaker around so the dog can drink too. Never seen anything like it

Haha I remember it being peak pandemic and I watched Toddler Runner feed the dog an entire bowl of pasta. And I just remember thinking, kid you’ve got no idea people are literally punching each other in the shops over pasta and here’s you feeding a whole bowl of spaghetti to a dog

 

[Definitelyme]

Toothless wonder no more his first tooth broke through during the night at the ripe old age of 12.5 months!

 

[I’mThankyou_]

I’m not loving weaning so much any more either! It was ok when she was just having porridge and purées but I hate the mess of giving her proper food. I still do, of course, but it’s so much cleaning up on top of everything else. I’m aware I sound lazy but I just can’t deal with the mess!

I hate weaning with a passion.
I'd rather have a bath with my toaster. I'm over it.