My partner cheated

[taleoftittletat]

I can only repeat what’s already been said, that you will get through this and it’s not your fault.

I’ve been where you are now, my ex was cheating on me, stopped seeing the girl when we found out I was pregnant with our twins, but then went right back to her the night I had a miscarriage. The emotional and mental torture of it all, I don’t know I endured it. He told me he loved us both for different reasons but that I was his family, his life and he would never leave me. It was pure hell. About a week later something in me just snapped, I dropped all his bags on her front garden and he had no choice but to live with her.

Those next 10 months were hell, knowing they were together and I was alone in the most pain I’ve ever felt. But then I met my now partner, by chance. We have two beautiful children and are getting married in 2023. I suppose what I’m trying to say is, life goes on and something better is around the corner you just don’t know it.

My ex and her lasted 10 months, he’s now shagging people 10 years his junior and has nothing to show for his life. Karma always comes back around. Your best days are yet to come my love and they aren’t with him xx

 

[Greysanatomyfan]

Hey guys thank you for your lovely messages it’s been a week I’m not going to lie it’s been hard there’s been arguments tears meltdowns you name it but we have an agreement in place for our son that if his “girlfriend” is there at all contact stops and he needs to see my son at his parents… he’s paying £50 a week and his phone bill every month but I’m seriously struggling to get over the fact he walked out and is staying with an absolute hunter he’s known 4 weeks… I’m being generous when I say this he’ll never get better than me cause who he’s with is nothing more than a place to stay

 

[taleoftittletat]

Hey guys thank you for your lovely messages it’s been a week I’m not going to lie it’s been hard there’s been arguments tears meltdowns you name it but we have an agreement in place for our son that if his “girlfriend” is there at all contact stops and he needs to see my son at his parents… he’s paying £50 a week and his phone bill every month but I’m seriously struggling to get over the fact he walked out and is staying with an absolute hunter he’s known 4 weeks… I’m being generous when I say this he’ll never get better than me cause who he’s with is nothing more than a place to stay

They always are horrendous and that’s exactly what she is a place to stay. They deserve each other. Keep your head up, you’re doing amazing xx

 

[Greysanatomyfan]

On the upside my dad bless him bought me a new bed memory foam mattress and mattress topper and it’s even better than the bed we had that’s going to the tip… upgrade for me

 

[taleoftittletat]

On the upside my dad bless him bought me a new bed memory foam mattress and mattress topper and it’s even better than the bed we had that’s going to the tip… upgrade for me

It’s the small wins, take them all! X

 

[Rockin' Robin]

On the upside my dad bless him bought me a new bed memory foam mattress and mattress topper and it’s even better than the bed we had that’s going to the tip… upgrade for me

The best is yet to come.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Tell you what us women are bloody excellent sometimes aren’t we Glad you got a new bed, you enjoy it while watching some hunky men on TV!!

 

[Telly Fanatic]

I hope you are ok x

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

How are you doing @Greysanatomyfan x

 

[Greysanatomyfan]

How are you doing @Greysanatomyfan x

I’m doing much better thank you getting my house done up so that’s keeping me busy.. my ex has tried to come back he showed up at 2am but he got sent packing there’s better out there and I deserve to be happy

 

[CoffeeMamma]

I’m doing much better thank you getting my house done up so that’s keeping me busy.. my ex has tried to come back he showed up at 2am but he got sent packing there’s better out there and I deserve to be happy

Hell yes you do

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

I’m doing much better thank you getting my house done up so that’s keeping me busy.. my ex has tried to come back he showed up at 2am but he got sent packing there’s better out there and I deserve to be happy

He’s a cheeky fucker, well done for sending him packing! Glad you’re okay xx

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

I’m doing much better thank you getting my house done up so that’s keeping me busy.. my ex has tried to come back he showed up at 2am but he got sent packing there’s better out there and I deserve to be happy

They ALWAYS come back. The grass isn't always greener. My ex only decided he wanted to actually be with me when he saw someone else was interested. You are better without him in your life. I am glad you are doing well and keeping busy xx

 

[strawb]

I’m doing much better thank you getting my house done up so that’s keeping me busy.. my ex has tried to come back he showed up at 2am but he got sent packing there’s better out there and I deserve to be happy

good on you! just continue that way and you'll be good btw i absolutely love your dad haha what a sweetheart

 

[Ya-Mar]

Living well is the best revenge. My therapist always says men move on dead quick and regret it later, women grieve and heal, then succeed later. So basically you’re nailing it even if you don’t feel like it


Woohoo!! You GO girl

This is so true my ex cheated and less than year after our 18.5 year relationship ended he was living with the new partner and her 2 kids.

Meanwhile I’ve had counselling and worked on myself and 18 months in I’m enjoying my new single life.

Hey guys thank you for your lovely messages it’s been a week I’m not going to lie it’s been hard there’s been arguments tears meltdowns you name it but we have an agreement in place for our son that if his “girlfriend” is there at all contact stops and he needs to see my son at his parents… he’s paying £50 a week and his phone bill every month but I’m seriously struggling to get over the fact he walked out and is staying with an absolute hunter he’s known 4 weeks… I’m being generous when I say this he’ll never get better than me cause who he’s with is nothing more than a place to stay

Ooo they never go for better only easier

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Some of you may remember me from the heartbreak thread, I have posted about this before but two years ago my husband had an affair, it lasted 4 weeks he knew her in real life but “bonded” over a specific game and they’d play together which lead to snapchats, nightly calls and FaceTimes, meeting her twice and staying the night with her and obviously they had sex. I knew something was off I just couldn’t understand what. I could use his phone anytime and he mine, had each others faces for id. Anyway one night he was asleep and he left his phone out and I reasoned with myself I’d check the phone, find nothing and then go to sleep. And wow how wrong was I. My blood went cold and I can still feel the pain as the pieces started to fall in to place. Anyway we gave things another go moved on from it and it hit me this morning (idk why now) he planned to meet someone for sex and went through with it and still came home to me like nothing happened, twice he did this. I’m sorry I’m rambling and I realise I sound stupid but I don’t know how to explain how it’s suddenly so clear? How do you do something to someone you love what the duck?

 

[sofipbn]

Some of you may remember me from the heartbreak thread, I have posted about this before but two years ago my husband had an affair, it lasted 4 weeks he knew her in real life but “bonded” over a specific game and they’d play together which lead to snapchats, nightly calls and FaceTimes, meeting her twice and staying the night with her and obviously they had sex. I knew something was off I just couldn’t understand what. I could use his phone anytime and he mine, had each others faces for id. Anyway one night he was asleep and he left his phone out and I reasoned with myself I’d check the phone, find nothing and then go to sleep. And wow how wrong was I. My blood went cold and I can still feel the pain as the pieces started to fall in to place. Anyway we gave things another go moved on from it and it hit me this morning (idk why now) he planned to meet someone for sex and went through with it and still came home to me like nothing happened, twice he did this. I’m sorry I’m rambling and I realise I sound stupid but I don’t know how to explain how it’s suddenly so clear? How do you do something to someone you love what the duck?

Firstly you don't sound stupid! I don't know, everyone makes mistakes. It's really hard, it doesn't mean he didn't love you back then. My best friend cheated on his bf when they were going through some problems and she says it was the biggest mistake of her life because she loves him so much.
But, I couldn't for the life of me forgive something like that because I would never trust him again. It would be too hard for me. Maybe ask yourself if you really forgive him for it? That may be why these thoughts are coming back now. I'm sorry you're in pain right now x

 

[gummy-bear]

Some of you may remember me from the heartbreak thread, I have posted about this before but two years ago my husband had an affair, it lasted 4 weeks he knew her in real life but “bonded” over a specific game and they’d play together which lead to snapchats, nightly calls and FaceTimes, meeting her twice and staying the night with her and obviously they had sex. I knew something was off I just couldn’t understand what. I could use his phone anytime and he mine, had each others faces for id. Anyway one night he was asleep and he left his phone out and I reasoned with myself I’d check the phone, find nothing and then go to sleep. And wow how wrong was I. My blood went cold and I can still feel the pain as the pieces started to fall in to place. Anyway we gave things another go moved on from it and it hit me this morning (idk why now) he planned to meet someone for sex and went through with it and still came home to me like nothing happened, twice he did this. I’m sorry I’m rambling and I realise I sound stupid but I don’t know how to explain how it’s suddenly so clear? How do you do something to someone you love what the duck?

Hey love. That’s tit and I’m sorry you went through all of that. Did he ever give you any reasoning?
I believe in redemption but I don’t know if it’s ever full possible to totally forgive someone for doing something like this. It’s something I would really struggle getting over if it happened to me. I think often when this happens it’s very much a spur of the moment, impulsive decision made purely on temptation. People let these emotions take over.

 

[Telly Fanatic]

Some of you may remember me from the heartbreak thread, I have posted about this before but two years ago my husband had an affair, it lasted 4 weeks he knew her in real life but “bonded” over a specific game and they’d play together which lead to snapchats, nightly calls and FaceTimes, meeting her twice and staying the night with her and obviously they had sex. I knew something was off I just couldn’t understand what. I could use his phone anytime and he mine, had each others faces for id. Anyway one night he was asleep and he left his phone out and I reasoned with myself I’d check the phone, find nothing and then go to sleep. And wow how wrong was I. My blood went cold and I can still feel the pain as the pieces started to fall in to place. Anyway we gave things another go moved on from it and it hit me this morning (idk why now) he planned to meet someone for sex and went through with it and still came home to me like nothing happened, twice he did this. I’m sorry I’m rambling and I realise I sound stupid but I don’t know how to explain how it’s suddenly so clear? How do you do something to someone you love what the duck?

Sorry to hear this and I am no way sticking up for him but it sounds like it's just a sex thing he has with these other women but it's you he wants to be and stay with ...a lot of women put up with relationships like this and say nothing look at Tom Jones late wife he cheated on her all their married life but he wouldn't leave her

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Firstly you don't sound stupid! I don't know, everyone makes mistakes. It's really hard, it doesn't mean he didn't love you back then. My best friend cheated on his bf when they were going through some problems and she says it was the biggest mistake of her life because she loves him so much.
But, I couldn't for the life of me forgive something like that because I would never trust him again. It would be too hard for me. Maybe ask yourself if you really forgive him for it? That may be why these thoughts are coming back now. I'm sorry you're in pain right now x

Hi thanks for replying, I totally understand people making mistakes I just feel his was a choice rather than a mistake.. I’m struggling to forgive completely it’s always there in the back of my head. It’s just so tit x

Sorry to hear this and I am no way sticking up for him but it sounds like it's just a sex thing he has with these other women but it's you he wants to be and stay with ...a lot of women put up with relationships like this and say nothing look at Tom Jones late wife he cheated on her all their married life but he wouldn't leave her

Hi, thanks for replying!, I do believe it was just sex there wasn’t a “relationship” type thing going on, oooh I didn’t know that about TJ x

Hey love. That’s tit and I’m sorry you went through all of that. Did he ever give you any reasoning?
I believe in redemption but I don’t know if it’s ever full possible to totally forgive someone for doing something like this. It’s something I would really struggle getting over if it happened to me. I think often when this happens it’s very much a spur of the moment, impulsive decision made purely on temptation. People let these emotions take over.

Hi thanks for replying, he just said things were really strained between us, which is true I admit that however I didn’t fall into bed with someone else so idk . But you’re right about spur of the moment decisions x