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[thatstupidcat]

There’s currently a thread about more state school pupils getting into oxbridge and some posters are up in arms that they can’t buy their way in, the snobbery is off the scale.

The only thing more glorious than seeing someone complain online about not being able to buy their way into Oxbridge is watching it in person.

Many years ago, think nineties, I attended one of the red brick universities who took on a lot of students who failed to get into Oxbridge. I vividly remember on the first day, it was Registration Day, a large group of extremely posh ex-private school kids (Bedales, some kids from a fancy school in Westminster I think, and a smattering of Harrow) standing around whining that it was a lottery to get into Oxbridge because of the “wrong sort” being allowed in.

Really stuck with me and made me snicker. One of the rudest ones to me, who tried to poor shame me on a few occasions, shut up and left me alone after I gave her the nickname of Snappy (which actually stuck), on account of her buck teeth and weak lower chin. I sadly haven’t matured a great deal since then when it comes to snobs and those of the aristocratic caste.

 

[bellinibobble]

Urgh the amount of obvious troll parking threads at the minute are ridiculous.. I don’t know why people still fall for it So gullible.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

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This thread has absolutely boiled my piss this morning. To summarise a young woman in her early 20’s with ADHD was assaulted by her mother for being messy (being messy and being disorganised is a common symptom of ADHD). The mother grabbed the daughter by the throat and pulled her hair, a pretty serious assault by anyone’s reckoning. In response OP has been told by multiple posters that’s it’s her own fault for being messy, that she needs to grow up, move out etc. A few loan voices have pointed out that she was assaulted and that some of the comments are disgraceful, but the general opinion is that it’s the OP’s is responsible for what happened to her.

Its a common theme on Mumsnet that violence and abuse perpetrated by women is acceptable and always excused in some way, the other week there was a thread by a woman who admitted she’d screamed and thrown things at her boyfriend because he’d spilled something on the bed and had slammed a door so hard she’d broken the plaster around the door frame. Imagine for one moment a man had done that to a female partner, there would have been cries of ‘LTB’, ‘are you safe’, ‘call women’s aid’ etc and rightly so, but the number of comments saying he’d driven her to do it was so shocking and then when these posters were pulled up for it and told they were condoning violence and abuse they started harping on about how most victims of domestic abuse are women, men are stronger etc. There is overriding view over there that women can do no wrong, men are evil etc. Except if they are the ‘OW’ then they are the devil incarnate and it’s never the husbands fault for having an affair. But then quite frankly seeing the way they women are I can hardly blame their husbands for straying sometimes.

The place makes me sick.

 

[Orange Creme]

I posted on there once and was so shocked at the responses, my anxiety hit the roof, I deleted my account straight away and vowed never to post on there again. (I have a very thin skin fyi lol)

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I wonder if there is any man in the world that mumsnet users wouldn’t label as ‘abusive’

every small thing gets labelled as abusive and one must LTB immedi, but if it was the other way around, the woman would be not labelled as such.

Its always an eye opener when you see how they respond to female abusers. Not long ago there was a woman who go so angry because he partner had spilled something that she screamed in his face, chucked things at him and slammed a door so hard that it broke the plaster on the wall. To be fair a few posters did call her out as abusive, but they were mostly drowned out by the mob who found every excuse in the book to justify this woman’s actions. Apparently she was obviously at the end of her tether because her partner was messy, she was tired, struggling with their young child (who’d witnessed it). One even said that female abuse against men isn’t as bad, because men are stronger that women!

Abuse is abuse whoever the perpetrator is, and it’s wrong whoever it is. But don’t let that get in the way of your ‘all men are evil and potential murderers’ narrative.

 

[FrannyGallops]

I think they get a bit elitest sometimes, if you have been around so long you remember penis beaker, pombear or cutted up pear you're in. If not jog on

Is agree but it’s nowhere as bad as it used to be. Someone would start a thread and everyone would disagree with the OP until a poster who’d been around at MN’s inception would appear and announce their opinion as though it were the last word. Then you’d just get pages and pages of ‘waves to *old Mumsnettter*’, ‘sits on bench next to next to *old Mumsnetter’ ‘sits on bench nexts to *old Mumsnetter* and *so and so*’. Tedious beyond belief.
There was definite ‘MN royalty’ but as the site has grown bigger, they’ve mostly been forgotten.

 

[Kaylon8083]

I thought most Mumsnet meals consisted of large salads or dishes with lentils in them that even their strapping teenagers who were built like rugby players enjoyed.

Also the mythical MN chicken that feeds 5000

 

[rainbowlemon]

They are just very snobby all together, it’s the same with their reviews on clothes etc, high street doesn’t seem good enough for them so they pay over the odds.

I think half of them lie about their incomes, class status, where they live etc, that’s the beauty of the internet in that people can be anonymous.

Also if you shave your pussy then your ‘obviously a porn star wannabe’ who attracts paedophiles and your disgusting.

Also if your hubby watches porn knowing that you, the wife doesn’t like it, then you should leave the bastard and they only know that their hubby’s have been watching porn because they went snooping in his phone!

Ah but don't you just love it when someone recently asks (property board) if having £2600 monthly after the mortgage payment was enough to live on as a single person.

 

[KayM65]

You don’t even need to be posting an issue about your husband for them to tell you to leave him We were having issues with my step daughter a couple of years ago and out of sheer desperation for an objective opinion I made a post there. Won’t make that mistake again

within an hour of posting it, id been told I was a cow, a horrible step mother, that my husband was a bad father, that he was probably still sleeping with his ex and that I should leave him because they thought he was a terrible father and that I should be reported to social services for allowing my kids to be around him

(FYI, all I posted was that his then 12yo daughter had stopped coming over when she was supposed to come for contact as she wanted to be with her mates at mums house instead and we were torn whether to leave her be, or try and be more proactive at getting her to come over!)

never went back on!

 

[PrincessCharming]

Its the exact same format and writing style of many of the previous long-running troll threads. They’ve honed their craft, for sure.

Does it still count as trolling when it is a Mumsnet employee making stories up for clicks? They probably get a bonus if The Daily Fail or The Scum pick it up.

 

[RedMagnolia]

There used to be one called Beanie who was always going on about diamond and private jets.

I loved her posts!! Fantastic daydreams written as if they were real. 21 years old, married to a a self-made billionaire, living in a central London mansion with holiday homes everywhere and a private jet at her disposal, a small child and an army of nannies and housekeepers. She would ask for advice on booking caterers to cook a traditional Sunday roast for her and her husband, or how to organise a pool party for her toddler and his Montessori school friends, and whether flying to LA or Miami was best over Easter, or would it be better to book the top deck of the QE2 and cruise to New York instead.

I think she was probably a single mum in a one room flat with an occasional long weekend at a Haven holiday park.

 

[FrannyGallops]

Crumbs posted on a Xmas list thread once that got more and more outrageous as it went on. It went something like;

Sister In Law: Harrods hamper
Best friend: tickets for the box at Hamilton
Cleaner: Truffles handpicked by Peruvian orphans
Next door neighbour: the principality of Monaco
Ds: His own rocket ship
The vicar: a jar of jam once owned by Jane Austen

I miss her 🥲 I think she had something sadly lacking in her life, but her posts were always great.

Does anyone remember EatShitDerek?

 

[Anasnake]

Don’t forget the competitive under eating

 

[Ineedmorecoffee]

"Did you mean to be so rude?”

To be said with head tilt and tinkly laugh.

 

[Kaylon8083]

I had a thread going recently about a really important thing that had happened to us and wanted advice. After a whilst my husband was a bit pissed off I’d put it on there and I didn’t realise if someone knew us, we could actually be easily indentified. No idea what I was thinking but it was so shocking at the time I just needed advice.
Mumsnet said they couldn’t delete it as other people would be upset they’ve contributed to the thread and then it’s gone! I said I don’t give two shits yes I shouldn’t of posted so intensely about the matter but I couldn’t give a shite if someone was upset it had gone, it was our issue not entertainment for others


Anyway once I said that they agreed to delete but never again will I go on it.

I think a lot of posters forget that when people post threads on there that it's a real person with problems behind the screen not a soap character designed for their amusement.

I noticed when I was on there, there was a lot of threads with overly invested posters, teams of cheerleaders egging them on and begging for updates every 5 minutes. Some of them could do with putting the laptop or phone away and spend some time in RL.

 

[String Man]

Can anyone briefly explain the David thing from mumsnet I've not heard of that?

It was a while ago and I'm a bit hazy on it now. It was an extremely tangled web and I never fully got my head around all of it.

Basically, a poster said his wife was dying of cancer and set up a fundraising account to raise money for a charity foundation. Some posters were a bit sceptical about him but were shouted down/deleted/banned if they raised any concerns. MN actively plugged the fundraising account and I think quite a few posters donated money. The final amount raised was just over £3,000.

The charity being fundraised for does exist but the money account was set up in David's name rather than that of the charity. There was some doubt that David was genuinely her husband. David and Caroline did exist in real life but the poster was suspected of impersonating the husband. He subsequently posted a photo of her in hospital clearly very ill in order to prove who he said he was. Can't remember how that was obtained.

I think it then transpired that he had the mobile numbers of some MN posters and had made sexually inappropriate comments to them?

I can't remember if it was ever proven whether he was a fake. Any references to him were removed immediately and posters banned; it was like North Korea for a while!

 

[Renegadedancer]

Do school lunch boxes , it’ll bring them all out.

How does this lunchbox sound ladies of mumsnet

Can of coke
Dairylea dunker
Grab bag of salt and vinegar
Share bag of Maltesers

 

[Beverley Macker]

I must tentatively stick up for the feminism board though, there are lots of interesting and intelligent posters on there who have given me food for thought on various subjects.

 

[RedMagnolia]

I have just had the most MN thing happen. I mentioned on a thread my holiday had been cancelled and someone replied with...
"Come back to me when you've gone 30 years without a holiday abroad and you have to save for 2 years just for a holiday in Cornwall"
I haven't been on holiday in 5 years but even if I had last summer why shouldn't I be upset I should be going to Disney this weekend rather than for a walk.

It's a bit like the threads where someone asks 'what's the sweetest thing your DH has ever done for you?' and in between the 'he gave me his last Rolo/he bought me the shoes I coveted/he valeted my car,/he bought home a takeaway/he ran a bath for me' you can pretty much expect someone to tell them they are lucky to have a DH because their husband died 34 years ago and every day since has been full of grief and sadness.

 

[RedMagnolia]

Parking threads are so fucking boring. How do so many of them get sucked in?

Because their lives are so goddamn boring They are thirsty for secondhand neighbourhood disputes.

I could start a thread on parking. Yesterday someone had parked across my drive preventing me from reversing out and going to work. What to do?? Well, I knocked on my neighbour’s door, and her visiting cousin moved his car. All resolved within 10 minutes.