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[Chipstiz]

I read one the other day that really annoyed me. A mum was saying that her usual non drinker husband had stayed on a zoom call all night over new year to his brother just having a few drinks and having a laugh. She was fuming as it was her turn to have a lie in (they alternated each day.) .. by her own admission it was a total one off and he's been really helpful over lockdown. All the comments were about how selfish he was drinking when he knew it was her turn for a lie in. Usual ott man bashing. I thought fucking hell give the bloke a break! We're all under enormous strain atm and he's had a few drinks on a zoom call! I'm as feminist as they come but men cannot catch a break on that site, not one post considered that he also has feelings too and probably needed to let off a bit of steam.

 

[Sunshinegal]

I just think they hate men on there.
No matter what the thread is about the man is always the problem. He's definately cheating even if it's nothing to do with that at all, and he's definately abusive whatever is happening.
They think all men are abusers. It's the answer on most threads.
Yet if a woman is even admitting being abusive they still blame the man and say its his fault. If its a woman cheating then it's his fault somehow as well. Yet they'd be outraged at it the other way round.
Its bizarre.

 

[Manclass]

I’m new here too and totally agree about Mumsnet. In fact I was only thinking yesterday when I was reading the ‘what’s the most embarrassing thing you have done while drunk’ thread.....if that had been asked on Mumsnet within a minute the Head Girl would have stomped on the thread saying how it was disgusting to drink more than a glass of sherry a year, you are obviously alcoholics, your kids need taking off you, your husband should leave you yadda yadda yadda

 

[Helen]

What I find funny is someone from Mumsnet joins here and their first post is trying to shut down the discussion, moderate and generally have a pop at members (pasted below).

So obviously they're banned as if they start of like this then no hope of having them here.

Then they write an email complaining about a dictatorship and how their sensible post was deleted and this site isn't free speach. Tattle has never been about free speach; to come and just antagonise, attack and start arguments with members. It's for like minded people that are somewhat disillusioned with infuencers, or people that love some accounts in the rave section.

am new to this site after reading about the alter ego scandal, i only joined so i could read it and be nosey.
I wasn't going to post, but after seeing so many awful messages from grown women attacking other women i just had to.
In no way do i condone what mother of daughters did, she really did go the wrong way about things. But can you not all see that you are equally as bad. I have skip read through a few threads and it is all so disheartening to see such vicious comments about your fellow community.
Not every poster here is guilty of this, bit there are quite a few who repeatedly are acting exactly the same thing clemmie hooper did, through her alias. You are all being so hypocritical.



Be kind to one another. And the old saying, if you haven't got anything nice to say, say nothing.....or in this case, write nothing at all.
Hopefully several of these posters will look at what mod has done and look a bit closer at their own behaviour. Just think would you want someone to be talking about you children this way and for them to see.......we live in a world of social media and so called 'influencers', so think how your words can 'influence others'

 

[Pinkblush]

I was a lurker but I coudn't stand all that toe curling dh, dd, ds nonsense. Absolute cringeworthy. Someone once referred to her 'fd ' and someone asked her what fd meant. She said it meant favourite daughter and they all started having a pop at her. She came back with, 'but I thought all mums had a favourite

 

[RedMagnolia]

I think a lot of posters forget that when people post threads on there that it's a real person with problems behind the screen not a soap character designed for their amusement.

I noticed when I was on there, there was a lot of threads with overly invested posters, teams of cheerleaders egging them on and begging for updates every 5 minutes. Some of them could do with putting the laptop or phone away and spend some time in RL.

Lockdown seems to have made it worse. Unless the thread is clearly made up, then eagerly and excitedly asking for updates every hour, especially when it's to do with illness or injury, are intrusive and unnecessary.

The posters that get their tits in a tangle about ludicrous romances (I fancy my doctor/my son's teacher/the Amazon delivery driver/the builder/my next door neighbour) who then get the frequent and more and more ridiculous updates they've been begging for, then are all upset to find out the story they've been following avidly has been taken down for being a crock of shit. Those are the people who need to read a book or watch a film and enjoy some genuine fiction.

 

[Pinkblush]

To be fair, a lot of the posters admit to liking Tattle and find it more supportive than Mumsnet.
Tattle isn't overrun with hoaxers and beggars either - when was the last time there was a thread where the poster claimed to be broke and in need of immediate funds with no way of accessing any? When was the last time someone posted from the back of an ambulance on the way to Intensive Care?

Any chance you can lend us a tenner?

 

[sixdinnersid83]

Club biscuits were staple items in 90s lunchboxes. Occasionally a viscount.

 

[String Man]

The moderation on Mumsnet is appalling especially considering the money Justine makes off the back of it. The Nightwatch in particular are very slow to react to reports, though I think I read that they are volunteers rather than paid staff? I've seen racist comments sit there for hours before being deleted. God forbid you mention the McCanns though, that shit gets deleted in seconds!

Their IT is shit and they have had plenty of data breaches. Banned posters sign up again on a regular basis. There's been a number of scammers using the site to get money or gifts off people with made up sob stories - the David/Caroline one being the worst. Begging threads in general aren't uncommon, especially around the festive period.

 

[AlanBanan]

Someone on their today said they don't consider anyone with 100 million extraordinarily wealthy. I'll try and get a screenshot.

You have to be completely delulu in the head to believe half of the shite that comes out of the mouths of people on Mumsnet.

It’s literally a place for bored housewives who’s husbands have long stopped getting it up and their kid is not as perfect as they thought they’d be so they construct a perfect life in their head on an anonymous board in hopes that other bored housewives will believe them and be envious of them.

 

[Anasnake]

‘Call ofsted’ over any minor school issue, there much clearly be a crack team of inspectors waiting to swoop in after a call from mumsnet

 

[Pinkii]

There is currently a thread about the woman being resentful being the main earner and contributing more and everyone is saying the husband needs to pull his weight more or make more money so he can contribute more, even though he contributes what he can.

just the other day there was another thread where the wife was saying her husband was pissed off with paying for everything and everyone was obviously labelling him as ‘abusive’ and ‘all money is family money’

You just have to laugh at the double standards these women set. Would hate to be any of their partners

 

[Fin]

All full time too, it's like going back to the 90s using that site. It's just a greedy advertising platform that's run very incompetently. They're exposing themselves for how shit they are by rushing out such a terrible idea, saying it's due to COVID-19 but also saying they were always planning on charging people for 15 seconds of editing your posts.

They should have died a long time ago, along with friends reunited.

Tattle got a mention what exactly are they saying is wrong with tattle moderation? There's a clear set of rules and posts that break them get deleted. Total opposite to Mumsnet that delete like crazy.

Yes, the 90's! It's quite unbelievable we are barely 3 weeks into lockdown and they are all of a sudden skint. I did see Tattle mentioned in the vein of what site people would use instead. I hope to god we don't see the same inanity propagating on here

 

[PrincessCharming]

The thing I always think is if you really want to bitch about every aspect of someone’s wedding you shouldn’t be going. You’re not their friend. What’s wrong with just being happy for someone who obviously cares enough about you to want you to be part of their big (usually expensive) day?

 

[RedMagnolia]

Saga threads are the worst, wasn't someone exposed who had a "support" thread, there was a bus involved if I remember correctly. Can't remember the details. There was a sick child thread which turned out to be a troll, again can't remember the details but I was shocked by that.
I don't think I had come across trolling like that until I used mumsnet, I thought rather naively, trolling was saying horrible stuff to someone on the Internet, not these long (or short) drawn out scenarios people make up. MN seemed to attract an unusually high number of these people, many of whom had done it time and again. I guess that's the nature of a message board though.

Seafour was the one who claimed to be partially paralysed after a surfing accident and was in and out of hospital with respiratory difficulties and constantly being resuscitated. She had a virtual bus of passengers she referred to as her buslings and an HDU was opened in her name. She had several long running threads about her precarious health.

Fixing was the one with a child who had a heart condition, her older child had already died of it, she was pregnant with child no.3 who had the same heart condition. The child that wasn't dead was in Great Ormond Street Hospital awaiting a heart transplant. Except she wasn't, because either someone with a sick child being nursed there, or someone who worked there, said there was no such child as a long term patient. She then said she'd meant to say she was at the RVI in Newcastle - an easy mistake to make

All complete bollocks. Emotional vampires, the pair of them. Possibly even the same person.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

You must have a serious lack of self awareness if you think boasting about losing a Mercedes is ok, when there are people out there struggling to feed and clothe their kids.

 

[Lobby]

I am obsessed with the aibu thread, just for a laugh. Some of the questions and replies are hilarious. I check tattle and aibu several times a day.
It is so toxic though, some of the responses are so frustrating and I feel sorry for people who are looking for genuine help.

 

[navybluewolf]

I posted on there once, many years ago about an argument I had with my husband, and they said I was completely unreasonable, and should be lucky my husband didn't leave me. They all piled onto me to tell me how awful I was. It was just a silly argument.

 

[VeniVidiVicki]

Justine has completely overestimated the goodwill that most posters have for MN. I think it used to be there but the inconsistent modding, the fact that individual posters in FWR were targeted and picked off by people who weren't even on the forum and the sheer number of idiotic name-changing to troll the place have been its downfall.

Oh and the fact that they promoted AIBU so heavily so it has become somewhere to go when you’re in a bad mood to give some random person a good kicking

 

[Kaylon8083]

The begging threads used to annoy me too - the ones where posters would claim they only had 2p to last until payday and the "I've pmed you, check your inbox" messages so it was obvious that people were giving them money.

There was one begging thread that went on for a long time during the time Mumsnet got hacked and posters were falling over themselves to donate this poster things from Tampax to paying for Ocado shops. I think there was a self-appointed PA too. Mumsnet did absolutely nothing about it even though, someone vulnerable was getting overly invested to the extent that it was going over boundaries.

I think if you've got spare nappies or tins of food, give them to your local Foodbank not a random stranger on Mumsnet.