With reference to her still having the funeral urn on top of her hob - my oven is always switched off at the wall socket when not in use. I do this as I have a child with special needs but I think a lot of people do it for safety anyway. Even though I am 99.9% certain no fire would occur, I would still NEVER purposefully put something on my hob just for decoration.
She was called out by the FIRE SERVICE for doing this and told not to do it. The bloody fire brigade!! I was brought up to respect and admire these people who fight fires for a LIVING. They readily said they have seen that it causes fires in homes and asked her to stop doing it.
She should have done a story holding her hands up and saying looks guys, I was doing this but I've been told it's a bad idea so I wanted to advise you all not to do it because it's just not worth the risk. I would have actually admired her for doing that. But no, the refusal to EVER admit she is wrong, and the chance of losing a potential swipe up means more to her than anything, even other peoples lives.