Yes that is the difference isn’t it? When I eventually told her she told me off and said I should have told her as she could have done with some happy news but I just couldn’t at the time. It just felt very inappropriate.When I fell for my third a very close friend had been having IUI. I popped round hers for a coffee one day to tell her my news and she told me she had started her period and that her only chance of IUI had failed. It took me weeks to pluck the courage up to tell her I was pregnant, and when I did I was racked with guilt and cried.
She was so sweet, I could tell it hurt but she played the happy friend. She would ask how I was feeling during the pregnancy and about my appointments, but I would always answer very briefly.
I guess that's the difference between actual friends and caring and what MH does though