Not really, work has been a place that many people have met before. Why should it be any different because it's over Zoom? She thinks he's attractive, go for it.
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In every single place I've worked there has been some kind of workplace relationship. It's very common. It's not illegal to date or be interested in dating someone at your work place and as said previously, you've got to shoot your shot somehow! The worst that could happen if she does it this way is rejection. If she did it via email in the workplace that would be extremely unprofessional, far worse than adding someone on Facebook
Again, if he’s not interested then he won’t accept or he’ll tell her so. I don’t get what the big deal is here.
Yes if the bloke finds it inappropriate, he just won’t accept her friend request. I think it’s being made a bigger deal than it actually is?
How do you know for sure he is single? Not everyone posts their relationship status online. Sorry if this has been asked x
me, having colleagues on social media, after reading this thread:
I think you're misinterpreting what I'm saying.
I never said I was against workplace romance. I'm simply saying she should wait until she's properly interacted with him to make a move on social media through whatever platform. She hasn't even spoken to the guy and only saw him once on a Zoom call, it's a bit too early to be adding him on Facebook. Facebook is too much of a personal tool.
Most of my friends are former co-workers and I have them on social media as well, but I didn't go around adding them on FB right after a first meeting during which we didn't interact. I'm just saying it is too early in the process. There is a huge gap between adding someone you've had few interactions with and someone you've never spoken to and only seen once via videoconference. It's a bit extreme. For what we know, he's not even into women, but there's only one way to know I suppose. Then again, she can go ahead and add him, if they've never interacted or took part in a large conference call, he won't even know who she is.
There was a guy at my current job who picked up my number off of a team WhatsApp group and started texting me one weekend. I never responded as I wasn't interested in communicating outside of work. Besides, I'd never met the guy aside from a few calls. Needless to say, I found it highly inappropriate.
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From the OP, it sounds like she has spoken to him a number of times?
They gel so well, the attraction is strong and she thinks he likes her too…?
I get it if it was a group call and they never even spoke… but that’s not what’s happened.
They gel so well, the attraction is strong and she thinks he likes her too…?
I get it if it was a group call and they never even spoke… but that’s not what’s happened.
She never said she only interacted with the guy once though. Her OP gives the impression that they’ve had several meets on Zoom.
That's why you read the rest I guess
This doesn’t sound like OP has only met him once, that seems to be something someone has assumed - which I definitely wouldn’t from this.I’ve met this man through work but because of the panny d I’ve only ever met him over zoom and I am head over heels! He’s exactly the type of man id go for and I want to get to know him better BUT we don’t live anywhere near each other.
I only know him in a professional capacity but we gel so well and the attraction is so strong. My friends found out he’s single but I don’t know how to make the first move over zoomhe’s actually superior to me too so don’t want to be disciplined for Being inappropriate
. I have a feeling he likes me too but it’s zoom so can’t assume.
Is there any way I can talk to him out of work?? I can’t find his insta but could add him on Facebook I guess. It’s also urgent because he’s getting reassigned soon. Or do I just forget?!
I honestly don’t see the problem with her adding him. As has been said, ball is in his park if she adds him, he can accept or ignore it. I’ve been added by male co workers, and have deleted the request - it’s ok for a man to do it so why not a woman?
Yeah that’s kind of my point.
Take it out of context for a second.
You are working in a bar. A guy comes in and orders a drink with a group of his friends. They come in a few times and you serve him his drinks and have a few conversations about what drinks he wants etc - all professional and related to the job you are doing at the bar.
Then you random get a friend request from this man on your personal Facebook. He’s somehow found your profile, when you’ve never given him any encouragement to do so or bedn anything other than professional and you don’t actually know him nor really like him, he’s just a guy that comes into the bar.
you don’t think that’s weird?!
That's happened to me before and I just deleted it. Like this bloke could do if he doesn't wanna accept it
I don’t think that’s similar, they both work for the same company and I think OP said she thinks he may like her too/have chemistry or something like that
Eh?! I’m stating a fact. Tinder is a dating app. The entire purpose is to hook up with people via tinder. People are on tinder with the sole intention of going on a date/getting laid/finding a partner - whatever.
most people don’t use zoom to cruise random work colleagues they have never met to then pursue them online when they have Never been given any indication that this is wanted!!!
No, I don’t. And even if I did, I don’t have to accept his request. It would be a different story if he was hounding me despite being rejected. OP didn’t say she had plans to harass the guy.
“She thinks” being the important 2 words here.....,! How can they have “chemistry” when THEY HAVE NEVER MET IN PERSON AND HAVE NEVER HAD ANY THING OTHER THAN PROFESSIONAL WORK RELATED CONVERSATIONS?!!!!
Jeeeeeesus. Think some peoples ideas of chemistry and mutual attraction are wayyyyy off....!!!
Why you angry typing in caps tho? it aint that deep
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