I think @Raging.red.head is getting a little ahead. Getting the number is stage 3 of 'operation zoom man'. Stage 1 is still yet to be implemented
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Panny D is the best thing I’ve ever heard 
my advise is don’t tit where you eat, I’ve done it twice (I never learn 
) two different jobs, got into two different relationships and they both went to tit! The first job I had to leave out of awkwardness and my current job I die knowing I might get rostered with my ex any time 
my advise is don’t tit where you eat, I’ve done it twice (I never learn ) two different jobs, got into two different relationships and they both went to tit! The first job I had to leave out of awkwardness and my current job I die knowing I might get rostered with my ex any time 
Facebook message I neant!
I'm invested now OP, please update us!
Depending on how friendly you are with him I guess you could try and casually mention staying in touch before he leaves. Will he just be moving to another team or project, or fully leaving?
Some things depend on your workplace too. I've worked in more serious professional settings where I wouldn't dream of this but other jobs including my current it's pretty normal to have your coworkers on instagram or facebook and there are a fair few couples at work too - although none work in the same department which is advisable!
Depending on how friendly you are with him I guess you could try and casually mention staying in touch before he leaves. Will he just be moving to another team or project, or fully leaving?
Some things depend on your workplace too. I've worked in more serious professional settings where I wouldn't dream of this but other jobs including my current it's pretty normal to have your coworkers on instagram or facebook and there are a fair few couples at work too - although none work in the same department which is advisable!
I think you're overreacting. It's a pretty normal thing to have colleagues on Facebook, especially if you talk to them in a work capacity every day. I have colleagues from our regional offices who I've never met in person add me on Facebook because we speak all the time. The worst that can happen is that he either rejects or blocks her.
If she was talking about finding out where he lived and turning up there, I'd understand calling her a stalker/bunny boiler. But it's Facebook. It's not that deep.
I just think it’s really unprofessional to have work colleagues who you have no outside personal friendships or relationships with on your private social media. Why would you want random people from your workplace who you have never even met seeing your private life on Facebook?! It’s weird. The line between private and personal should still exist. Your work colleagues don’t need to see what you did on your holiday or where you went on your kids birthday or what you got up to on your mates hen weekend....
Work is work and it shouldn’t encroach into your private life unless you have a real genuine relationship outside of work. Which in this case this lady definitely does not!!!!! She fancies him based on the way he looks on zoom and has created everything else in her imagination, it’s not fair or appropriate to then trawl Facebook to find this guys private account and then start trying to add him as a friend or anything else - it’s the digital equivalent of showing up at his front door uninvited.....
That's your opinion and your preference. Not everybody feels the same way. Some people like connecting with colleagues online and that's fine. I'm not calling you weird for having your view so you shouldn't call her weird for wanting to add him on Facebook.
For all you know he could be searching for her too!!
Sometimes you have to shoot your shot, if you fancy someone go for it and add them on Facebook. I fancied the pants off my fella the first day we met at work, added him on Facebook straight after work and 3 years later we have a kid and live together. Risks are worth taking
Yeah but the difference here is she’s never met this guy. Never actually been in the same room as him. She knows nothing about him and has just decided she’s got a connection with him..... it’s madness! Can you imagine I’d a guy was saying the same about a woman he had never met? - people would be saying he was a weirdo, but for some reason when it’s a woman saying it that makes it perfectly ok?!
I wouldn't think it was weird if I man did it. How would anyone meet or get together if people didn't try
I have to say I agree with the above post from Betty.
OP hasn't even met this individual in person. It's one thing to meet them at work in a normal environment and it's another to rely on a single meeting via Zoom. As much as I hope it works out for OP, I don't think it's reasonable to go and add him on Facebook simply on the basis of a single Zoom meeting, which I assume it was a group call, not a 1-1.
I suggest OP sends him a LinkedIn request and takes it from there (e.g: send him a message asking him for advice on career progression etc...). Facebook is not the right platform in my opinion.
I also believe it depends on the type of corporate environment OP works in. If it's a more "relaxed" environment such as a tech company or a start up where everybody seems pretty "chill", then maybe. If it's a straight up formal corporate environment, I suggest to be cautious especially as he's a superior.
OP hasn't even met this individual in person. It's one thing to meet them at work in a normal environment and it's another to rely on a single meeting via Zoom. As much as I hope it works out for OP, I don't think it's reasonable to go and add him on Facebook simply on the basis of a single Zoom meeting, which I assume it was a group call, not a 1-1.
I suggest OP sends him a LinkedIn request and takes it from there (e.g: send him a message asking him for advice on career progression etc...). Facebook is not the right platform in my opinion.
I also believe it depends on the type of corporate environment OP works in. If it's a more "relaxed" environment such as a tech company or a start up where everybody seems pretty "chill", then maybe. If it's a straight up formal corporate environment, I suggest to be cautious especially as he's a superior.
Exactly?!Going by that standard then, you should never add anyone you meet off Tinder on social media because it makes you a stalker and a weirdo!!! I forgot people are only allowed to be interested in people they know in the flesh...
I’d say go for it OP. He’s an adult, he doesn’t have to accept a friend request from you if he doesn’t want to. You’ll never know if you never try, we live in the 21st Century ffs. Meeting online or at work is about as good as it gets these days. 
Tinder & a work Zoom call are on two completely different sides of the spectrum. Not comparable.Going by that standard then, you should never add anyone you meet off Tinder on social media because it makes you a stalker and a weirdo!!! I forgot people are only allowed to be interested in people they know in the flesh...
Poor OP must feel utterly confused with all these contradictory opinions.
How though? It is someone she has met online, she has took a liking to him. Why can't she try?
Do people not make friends through work any more?
OP, go for it! You’ll kick yourself if you don’t and will constantly be wondering what could have happened.
OP, go for it! You’ll kick yourself if you don’t and will constantly be wondering what could have happened.
Well that’s what generally happens when you post for advice on a public forum. You get different opinions.
It seems pretty self-evident.
Work is not a dating app. I think now that we have moved into this "virtual" world, people seem to blur boundaries.
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