Panny D 
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Really? I met my husband at work and I know plenty of other people that met their partner that way too.
I‘ve been out of the game for a long time but would suggest adding him on Facebook and then you can send him a friendly ‘catch up’ message after he’s left and see what happens.
I met my fiancé at work and I added him first on fb some men just don’t know when a signal is a signal or maybe he will feel as a superior he shouldn’t say anything at present? what’s the worst that can happen he’s not interested and then you move on life is short just add him on fb x
Agree, add him on Facebook. If he accepts message him. If he doesn’t you have your answer. Also bear in mind the person you may eventually meet may not be the person you’ve built him up to be over zoom. But life is too short, he’s moving on so give it a shot
Ask him could he give you advice on how to get his job lol.I’ve met this man through work but because of the panny d I’ve only ever met him over zoom and I am head over heels! He’s exactly the type of man id go for and I want to get to know him better BUT we don’t live anywhere near each other.
I only know him in a professional capacity but we gel so well and the attraction is so strong. My friends found out he’s single but I don’t know how to make the first move over zoomhe’s actually superior to me too so don’t want to be disciplined for Being inappropriate
Is there any way I can talk to him out of work?? I can’t find his insta but could add him on Facebook I guess. It’s also urgent because he’s getting reassigned soon. Or do I just forget?!
Ask him if he wants to zoom you one to one!
Zoom you make my heart go boom!
I think you need to dial it down a bit. How on Earth can you be “head over heels” about him when you say you only know him over zoom and only in a professional capacity?!!!! You gel so well? And the attraction is strong? What?!!!!!!! You don’t know the guy!I’ve met this man through work but because of the panny d I’ve only ever met him over zoom and I am head over heels! He’s exactly the type of man id go for and I want to get to know him better BUT we don’t live anywhere near each other.
I only know him in a professional capacity but we gel so well and the attraction is so strong. My friends found out he’s single but I don’t know how to make the first move over zoom
Is there any way I can talk to him out of work?? I can’t find his insta but could add him on Facebook I guess. It’s also urgent because he’s getting reassigned soon. Or do I just forget?!
He’s senior to you at work and is talking to you on a professional basis because he has to. Sorry but it sounds like you’ve created something that isn’t really there. You think he’s attractive but that all this is - because there isn’t anything else going on here let’s be honest - there is no connection or attraction that’s reciprocated because you don’t know each other or have had any communication or interaction outside of the sphere of work on zoom. I could sort of understand what you are saying if this was someone you know in real life and if you were feeling that kind of sexual chemistry and attraction from real world interactions but you do sound a bit over invested in a guy you have only ever seen on a screen!
Honestly - I suggest you hold off until you either interact with him more at work or he moves on from his current role.
I find it inappropriate to add him on Facebook or to follow him on Instagram if you don't know him much. I have some male work "friends" and we had a chat about this once (some girl in the team tried to add them on FB) and they thought it was inappropriate (which I agree with). You can't just send a FB request to someone you've only seen once via Zoom.
I'm not sure what "re-assigned" means in this case, but I would take it slow because you don't want to come across a certain way in the workplace.
About two years ago, I met this absolutely stunning guy at work. Exactly my type. Simply gorgeous. I'd never met anyone like him before (close, yes, but not the exact embodiment of what I liked). I never noticed him until I one day (two months later) realized he kept glancing at my desk every single time he walked past. In addition to that, he would literally show up everywhere I went (in a company of more than 2k) employees. I'd be chatting with a colleague in the kitchen or somewhere in the hallway and he'd be walking past out of nowhere (he could see every coming and coming from his desk though). It was so eerie that I almost was scared he'd think I was stalking him, when it was literally a coincidence each time, really.
Anyway, fast forward, two years later, I'm still thinking about him (the lockdown didn't help either) and wish I had made a move, but again, I didn't want to come across as inappropriate. I didn't know his background and steered clear. I found his Instagram a little while later and he had moved on to another project at that point (thus worked in a different side of town), but never dared to do anything even if I ended up leaving the company shortly after. He's since deleted his Instagram and I'm still crushing on a ghost! Moral of the story - you don't want to end up like me wondering what if this and what if that two years later, but be cautious when it comes to approaching co-workers on social media. Perhaps add him on LinkedIn first? Keep it professional for now and perhaps once he moves on, you can try to get to know him by asking for advice about a specific topic (since he's a superior) etc.. and perhaps take it from there. Just a thought.
Sorry, I put my entire life out there!
I find it inappropriate to add him on Facebook or to follow him on Instagram if you don't know him much. I have some male work "friends" and we had a chat about this once (some girl in the team tried to add them on FB) and they thought it was inappropriate (which I agree with). You can't just send a FB request to someone you've only seen once via Zoom.
I'm not sure what "re-assigned" means in this case, but I would take it slow because you don't want to come across a certain way in the workplace.
About two years ago, I met this absolutely stunning guy at work. Exactly my type. Simply gorgeous. I'd never met anyone like him before (close, yes, but not the exact embodiment of what I liked). I never noticed him until I one day (two months later) realized he kept glancing at my desk every single time he walked past. In addition to that, he would literally show up everywhere I went (in a company of more than 2k) employees. I'd be chatting with a colleague in the kitchen or somewhere in the hallway and he'd be walking past out of nowhere (he could see every coming and coming from his desk though). It was so eerie that I almost was scared he'd think I was stalking him, when it was literally a coincidence each time, really.
Anyway, fast forward, two years later, I'm still thinking about him (the lockdown didn't help either) and wish I had made a move, but again, I didn't want to come across as inappropriate. I didn't know his background and steered clear. I found his Instagram a little while later and he had moved on to another project at that point (thus worked in a different side of town), but never dared to do anything even if I ended up leaving the company shortly after. He's since deleted his Instagram and I'm still crushing on a ghost! Moral of the story - you don't want to end up like me wondering what if this and what if that two years later, but be cautious when it comes to approaching co-workers on social media. Perhaps add him on LinkedIn first? Keep it professional for now and perhaps once he moves on, you can try to get to know him by asking for advice about a specific topic (since he's a superior) etc.. and perhaps take it from there. Just a thought.
Sorry, I put my entire life out there!
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i hate stories like this
he could have been your soulmate!! You should have made a move (well you still can), if you find him on other platforms.For some reason stories like this really bug me and I need an ending
Haha. Trust me, I'm wondering myself!i hate stories like this
For some reason stories like this really bug me and I need an ending
The worst part is that at the time, I wasn't looking for anyone at all. I had just started in the company and he had just returned from a secondment overseas from my understanding. I was so heartbroken that I had willingly left my previous job that befriending anyone in the new company was not on my radar at all (that's also why it took me two months to notice him). He just popped up out of nowhere, literally.
I could possibly try, especially as I've now left the company, but I deactivated my LinkedIn first and homeboy deleted his Instagram a few days later (go figure - at least we have social media instability in common lol). To be honest, I can't get over him even after all this time. I'm the perfect example of what you shouldn't do (as in sit in a corner and rely on hope).
In all honesty, I've never ever made a move on anyone aside from some kid at school at 15 and he said he didn't like me. I've been traumatized ever since and swore to myself I'd never make a move as more than likely, no one would reciprocate. I'm hopeless!
You’ve left the company so you can’t even get in trouble over it too
imagine if, after 2 years he’s still thinking about you too 
okay I’m probably romanticising this all in my head but it could happen! For OP too, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. Either it turns into a beautiful romance or you get the answers you wanted. I am a highly curious person though, no stone is left unturned I met my now boyfriend by chance, we both attended a party just as I was getting out of an awful relationship. I saw him and just felt like I wanted to be with him forever. I never approached him but thought about him for weeks, until my friend pushed me to get his number from a mutual friend! Been together for 4 years and planning to get married soon
not the same thing because I only waited a few weeks not years (can you tell I’m impatient?)
Definitely add him on Facebook! What’s the worst thing that can happen? Blokes can be forward why can’t women do the same?
You can even have a virtual wedding over zoom and have me as your tattle bridesmaid
Also panny d and flicking the bean have been my fave quotes from tattle this year
You can even have a virtual wedding over zoom and have me as your tattle bridesmaid
Also panny d and flicking the bean have been my fave quotes from tattle this year
You’ve left the company so you can’t even get in trouble over it too
I met my now boyfriend by chance, we both attended a party just as I was getting out of an awful relationship. I saw him and just felt like I wanted to be with him forever. I never approached him but thought about him for weeks, until my friend pushed me to get his number from a mutual friend! Been together for 4 years and planning to get married soon
Weeks is reasonable indeed, years borders on critical.I couldn't agree more. I think it depends on your track record and ability to handle rejection. Living with regrets is not good, especially if you clearly sense there is something different about the person/situation/opportunity. Trust your gut. Sitting and waiting doesn't get any results at all. As a matter of fact, most of my friends met their partners at work and are now married. It can definitely work if you play your cards correctly.
I always go from the principle that the guys I like don't like me back because it's been a repeated pattern since I was a teenager, that I also assumed this one probably couldn't care less like all the other. I don't know if it's a self-esteem issue (probably), but it's certainly a mental block for me. It doesn't help I was slightly intimidated. At least, I'm happy to be able to share this experience and use myself as an example of the type of strategy to avoid.
Yes I agree, his behaviour seems like he likes you though! But I understand behaviour and signals can be misread. And it’s difficult if you’ve dealt with rejection before and fear the same thing happening
I couldn't agree more. I think it depends on your track record and ability to handle rejection. Living with regrets is not good, especially if you clearly sense there is something different about the person/situation/opportunity. Trust your gut. Sitting and waiting doesn't get any results at all. As a matter of fact, most of my friends met their partners at work and are now married. It can definitely work if you play your cards correctly.
I always go from the principle that the guys I like don't like me back because it's been a repeated pattern since I was a teenager, that I also assumed this one probably couldn't care less like all the other. I don't know if it's a self-esteem issue (probably), but it's certainly a mental block for me. It doesn't help I was slightly intimidated. At least, I'm happy to be able to share this experience and use myself as an example of the type of strategy to avoid.
Also I’ve noticed when I let a situation “brew” for so long, my mind twists how it actually happened. I start making my own “version” of the situation and it may not have been like that at all!
either way I wish you good luck!! (And OP too), if you decide to go for it or not
The panny d has given us all a lot of opportunity to flick our beans to be fairDefinitely add him on Facebook! What’s the worst thing that can happen? Blokes can be forward why can’t women do the same?
You can even have a virtual wedding over zoom and have me as your tattle bridesmaid
Also panny d and flicking the bean have been my fave quotes from tattle this year
Christ can you just add him on Facebook like the more we talk about it the more waiting to see if he is into it or not I am invested in this now 
Wouldn’t you think it was really weird though if you were him? God knows how many people he’s in contact with over zoom as part of his job - can you imagine then having some random person from work who you’ve never met in real life and have no real world interactions with, and no non-work related conversations with - if they had trawled Facebook to find you and then added you as a friend?!!!! It’s a bit stalker-ish/bunny boiler?! The guy hasn’t made any moves - has been nothing but professional- and yet this girl has built some fantasy around it where she thinks they have “a connection” - the poor bloke!!!!! It’s all well and good finding someone attractive or whatever but bloody hell - stalking them on private social media is pretty unhinged!!!Christ can you just add him on Facebook like the more we talk about it the more waiting to see if he is into it or not I am invested in this now
Add him on Facebook, the worst he can do is not accept the request!
If you’d just seen him around and never spoken to him, then added him on Facebook that might be a bit weird. But if you’ve spoken to him, you “know” him in a professional capacity, you’d be comfortable enough chatting to him in the office then why not.
The only thing I would say is that I’m a manager and I don’t accept anyone on social media who work in the teams ‘below’ me. I don’t mean that in the hole way it sounds (couldn’t think of a better way to put it!), just that I know it wouldn’t look good professionally if they had access to my social media and saw my stories of nights out or being drunk on holiday so that’s the only thing that might stop him but if he’s leaving soon he might not care so much!
If you’d just seen him around and never spoken to him, then added him on Facebook that might be a bit weird. But if you’ve spoken to him, you “know” him in a professional capacity, you’d be comfortable enough chatting to him in the office then why not.
The only thing I would say is that I’m a manager and I don’t accept anyone on social media who work in the teams ‘below’ me. I don’t mean that in the hole way it sounds (couldn’t think of a better way to put it!), just that I know it wouldn’t look good professionally if they had access to my social media and saw my stories of nights out or being drunk on holiday
so that’s the only thing that might stop him but if he’s leaving soon he might not care so much!I get your point but if he doesn’t accept it kind of answers the question he isn’t into her. I added my partner 7 years ago on it we met at work now we are engaged and are expecting a baby. I think the real thing here is she only knows him in a professional way which is difficult to gage if he is just being polite.
I would wait until he's left, add him on Facebook and send him a friendly text just asking how his new role is going. Then leave it up to him to take it from there.
How would she text him - she hasn’t got his number?!
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