Men are trash

[Hope96]

Hey all
So I’m in a predicament
I’ve been married 9y abs I’m desperately unhappy
We’ve just moved house and I don’t want to uproot kids
I don’t have any family so can’t go anywhere
I’m just so sad and I hate my life right now
He treats me like shit - no consideration for my feeling, my life, my struggles and my health. It’s all about him. He is a true narc. I dread seeing him coming home. He hasn’t spoke to me all evening and knows I’m really upset as it’s my late mums anniversary tomorrow. He is a pig.

This is really heart breaking to read! I wish I had some words of wisdom but like Rita said is there anyone else besides family who could help you? You really do deserve to be happy and if you want to vent/rant tomorrow then please know us tattlers are here for you. You'll be in my thoughts.

 

[BelleAmie]

I went on two good dates with someone and he said he’d love to see me again soon but I haven’t heard from him at all. I’m a little bit tender about it because if you don’t want to see me again, then just tell me. I won’t be offended. Now it’s just weird because I’m sat here wondering if I did anything wrong to deserve being possibly ghosted. That’s not a nice feeling.
Currently at a bus stop next to the grocery store where my ex and I used to shop together all the time. I’m not okay. It’s been a month and a half since being dumped out of the blue and I thought I was okay enough to meet new people (not necessarily to jump into anything, I’m far from ready for that) and when I do go out on dates, I have a decent time albeit being a bit awkward. But I feel guilty for going out for a walk or even to get a quick coffee with a man who’s not him. I now know for sure he had other women lined up ready to go when he dumped me and he refused to talk to me even over the phone (got dumped via email by a 35-year old man lmao). But still, I feel so guilty and disgusted with myself for just texting another man.
I don’t feel worthy. I don’t really like myself at the moment. I don’t think anyone wants me for a relationship. I was fine with just casual sex for years but I just really want somebody to love now and it’s not happening and when I thought it was happening, he was actually just using me to boost his ego. I am deeply sad. I had an anxiety attack about it all (men and their shitty behaviors) since around 7 pm yesterday and it’s almost noon here now and the waves are still coming.

Oh gosh, a month and a half is nothing - I was openly sobbing for months after my break up. If you feel ready to meet new men and go on dates then that’s brilliant but giving yourself time to heal and pick yourself up is great too.
I’m so sorry that you’re feeling so rubbish and that someone else has let you down when you’ve put yourself out there. It sounds like you have so much to offer and anyone who doesn’t realise that is a fool.
I hope you’re feeling better soon, sending love

Someone who asked me out on okcupid last year only to not reply to me when I responded has now messaged me on Hinge. Short memory

The audacity, I swear

 

[watermelon sugar]

My ex called me a basic bitch once, I'm low key offended

 

[isabellalovescats]

So my birthday is coming up (so is my ex’s because surprise, we have the same birthday) and I’m all types of annoyed that I’ll most likely be celebrating it by myself. I’ve always loved my birthday. It’s my absolute favorite day of the year. He told me he couldn’t wait to spend the summer together with me etc. and we had all these summer plans, and our birthday is one of them. I even had plans in my head from which cake to bake to what I was going to buy him as a birthday present and what song we are going to dance to when we’d sneak him out to the gazebo next to the water. I got brutally dumped on Mother’s Day. He still has my stuff that I haven’t bothered asking back because he was really cruel and angry when we last talked (texted, coward couldn’t even dump me over a phone call). Anyways, I moved to this town during the pandemic and lockdown was always super strict until very recently, so I was only allowed one contact person and that was him. He’s the only person I socialized with, my only friend and the one I ended up falling in love with. I’m miserable without him now that things are open and we could be doing our summer plans together if we were not broken up. I just can’t bear the thought that I might be alone on my birthday but he won’t be (this is his hometown so he’s got family and friends). Where did all the promises go?

 

[Professor Farnsworth]

Are they X Ray specs you are wearing there, Prof?

Haha good one!

 

[House of Tea]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of women are trash too, especially the ones who have no courage of their convictions?

What do you mean by no courage of their convictions?

 

[Inforapenny]

This thread is a bit ridiculous. Imagine having a thread named "all women are trash".
If you have such a poor opinion of men then I doubt you'll find the decent ones. You know the whole weird incel crap? They berate women and blame women for their lot well it's a bit like that.
Come on take a bit of responsibility for your future. If you keep dating awful men who use you then you're an adult do something about it. Stop allowing men the power and agency.
I see it with my best friend she literally goes from one disaster to another yet she is blameless yet she makes theses choices.

There are some wonderful men.

 

[sleepflowers]

Food for misandry: https://www.instagram.com/sheratesdogs/

 

[Scorpihoe]

Like they act all precious and perfect like their shit don’t stink, but they’re the exact people that cower when pulled up on their bullshit! Basic bitches really!

I don’t know why this made me laugh so much

 

[Swipeuplikeandshare]

I've sent him a message so expect me to return to this thread crying in a few days.

Good luck rooting for you xx

 

[Swipeuplikeandshare]

This makes me so so sad to read. I’m so sorry you feel like this Have you got any friends close by?

Thank you
Not close by but about 30 minute drive
Thing is we are all friends - it’s complicated!
He told me once If I left him he would be in despair and would harm himself
I’ve had about three or four serious chats to say this is what’s wrong how do we fix it - nothing
He even said to try for another baby a year ago but we don’t have sex - he messes with my head constantly

 

[ChampagneBox]

We were arguing over the phone once after we had split up. It had been a year. I can't even remember why we were speaking over the phone but he said 'your 2 favourite bands are Oasis and Abba, you fucking basic bitch'

I would love to know what argument leads to that comment

 

[Professor Farnsworth]

Does anyone else feel that a lot of women are trash too, especially the ones who have no courage of their convictions?

 

[Hope96]

Like they act all precious and perfect like their shit don’t stink, but they’re the exact people that cower when pulled up on their bullshit! Basic bitches really!

I guess you should stay away from the basic bitches then.

 

[isabellalovescats]

It’s amazing how much you can’t say these days for fear of upsetting someone for no real reason. I notice that the emoji’s on here have been complained about for upsetting people, I can’t actually get my head around that one!

What’s happening with the emojis here? I didn’t know about that.

 

[thunderfook]

Kept myself busy up until a few hours ago and I'm feeling really awful. I wish it was easy to get him out of my thoughts. I feel so anxious and sick when my mind is consumed by thoughts of him. Trying to stop myself from crying because I don't want to cry anymore but I'm not doing a great job of it. I hate missing him so much. I'm exhausting myself by keeping busy but I can't do that 24/7. Blah.

Do you have something that helps you relax and switch off? I use hot baths, long walks or a drive with the roof down with a good playlist, pilates, watching silly comedy clips on YouTube. I even sneak in a cheeky power nap if I get really anxious. Something that makes me giggle or breath easy. Keeping busy is great, but you can’t be in the go 24/7.

 

[isabellalovescats]

@Hope96 @isabellalovescats

I just saw this! Thank you, thank you!

I've seen lots of people being royally fucked over by the men in their lives, so here's a place to vent about it

Oh my goodness, I just saw this thread. Thank you, @WilmaHun. I hope your bf is being better to you.

@Hope96 I’ve been watching Bubzbeauty videos again (she had a divorce over a year ago) and it calms me down a little. She can be way too positive/preachy at times but I do like her a lot because she’s very vulnerable and open.

 

[Professor Farnsworth]

My ex called me a basic bitch once, I'm low key offended

Haha why did he say that?

 

[Professor Farnsworth]

You sound like you’ve been burned before

I just see right through people and most of it isn’t good!

 

[Bellaboo83]

We are our own worst enemy during a breakup aren’t we, every awful thought you could ever possibly have about your ex, you have it.

It’s killing me too right now. It’s good to know I’m not alone, the world always feels SO lonely when you’re suffering like this

Was your split mutually agreed then? Yes it always helps to know you're not alone in feeling this way and to know that what is going through your mind is normal for the situation. I'm really struggling too, sending you lots of love . I wish I could fast forward to being happy again . Its so lonely you're right x