His issues can’t be fixed by you. And he knew he had those issues and instead of getting help or working on them he decided to fire up Tinder? The man is his own bin fire, sorry.
Something I learnt recently: there’s you, there’s them, there’s the relationship. Three entities, like a Venn diagram. You can work on the relationship/marriage but problems coming in from the individuals need to be worked on individually too or you’ll never cut out the rot.
A huge step in boundaries is recognising the difference between a you problem, a me problem and an us problem. Treating a you problem solely as an us problem turns it into a Sisyphean task.
Something I learnt recently: there’s you, there’s them, there’s the relationship. Three entities, like a Venn diagram. You can work on the relationship/marriage but problems coming in from the individuals need to be worked on individually too or you’ll never cut out the rot.
A huge step in boundaries is recognising the difference between a you problem, a me problem and an us problem. Treating a you problem solely as an us problem turns it into a Sisyphean task.