and when she says stuff like 'if you dont have motivation to do something then don't do it' - Well i wasn't too motivated to get up at 5.30am to go to work this morning but it has to be done - we don't all have free holidays, clothes, food - potentially rent Imagine me ringing my boss and saying Nah I'm not motivated today mate I'm just gonna do me time today !!! Not gonna happen that's the real world Malin