Agree on this, particularly considering her age at the time. Even if you were amazing at bereavement care I'm just not sure a lot of parents would particularly want it from a young girl. I imagine there are some aspects of nursing that you just grow into.I thought that too. If I've had a tough shift, sometimes it is difficult going back and seeing the parents again. Bereavement care can be hard and if you are someone who overthinks every interaction it can become draining very quickly. Constantly thinking about what to say, how to phrase it and whether or not it is appropriate. I think this thread alone highlights how different everyone is and there is no 'one fits all' in terms of bereavement care. The training I have received focuses heavily on communication and compassion. I'd personally always enter the room with a smile, not a beaming, teethy grin, but a warm smile as opposed to being completely expressionless. I can understand her texts to her colleague and the apprehension over seeing the parents of baby A the next day. I'm a worrier and have felt the same on a few different occasions, sat at home before a shift ruminating. However, once I've got into work, I've felt better about it and got on with my shift. Which again, is why I don't find it that strange that she spoke to a colleague about not wanting to care for baby A's sibling, but then doing so once on shift.
I know when I had my children the care during pregnancy I just found better from midwives who were older and a bit more experienced. I remember a younger midwife being really shocked I could only eat beige food in the first trimester bless her. However, during labour/delivery the younger ones shone - really on it and did a fab job with all the aftercare, stitches etc