With a newborn on the way surely it would make sense to get River a haircut. Not fussed about long hair on boys, but if it becomes too hard to manage it’s socially acceptable to give a son a short haircut so why not seize the option. It’s what we did when my 2.5yo was in a bath refusal phase - it’s unsustainable to always 2:1 bath a child especially with another child in the house.The thing that gets me is she’ll have people ask her questions and then she’ll give the most red flag filled answers and it still doesn’t open her eyes that her son’s behaviour isn’t typical. At Rivers age he should be able to have his hair washed, he shouldn’t need his dad in the bath holding him down.
Surprised with a 3yo that they can always choose to wait to bath him until they’re both available, tells me he’s not really getting stuck into playing out, crafting, self feeding, potty training etc. When our kid needs a wash he needs one, we don’t leave him grubby until the other parent is home, we just see to him.