Lessons in life

[Carmen 6]

If he'll cheat on his wife, with you....
He'll cheat on you, when you become his wife.

 

[ChloChlo]

Definitely time is a healer.

To face my fears.

That the grass is always greener. Very harshly learnt.

Keep your friends close but your enemies closer. In my case I've found outright enemies have come in the form of "friends" or "family".

 

[Nattabell]

Always trust your gut. I used to ignore mine & regretted it every time. No one ever regrets leaving a party early but you’ll always regret staying too late. Keep your biggest secrets to yourself, take them to the grave, some are just too precious or painful to ever risk being shared. Sometimes the best response is no response at all.

 

[ClockworkDolly]

Definitely time is a healer.

Keep your friends close but your enemies closer. In my case I've found outright enemies have come in the form of "friends" or "family".

Oh same here, especially family.

To be honest, I only trust one person in this life. Most others have let me down in some way and I will barely give them house room now.

 

[tskiry56]

I think my lesson in life was leaving an abuser.
In having that courage I become a better mum. I realised how I could survive on my own. I no longer let someone hurt me.
A few years down the line i realise how happy I am. An abuser will never win.

 

[Pizzledizzle]

I've thought of another one: those who shout the loudest have the most to hide is the saying (paraphrasing), and it is very true in my experience. Also, people who tell you how wealthy / in love / successful they are ... generally aren't. They're just people who like to make a lot of noise.

I think of this one a lot but with a different twist. The life & soul of the party are the ones you need to worry about. I know from my own experience & losing friends by suicide that we weren’t shrinking violets, far from it. People who are struggling often go to great lengths to cover things up. If someone tells you they’re struggling, that’s a massive head start over the loud person who can’t.

 

[Itsallaboutmememe]

Sex doesn’t equal love

a baby won’t fix a marriage

your gut is never wrong

if (s)he’s not that into you,then move on-another will

time is a great healer-you learn to live without someone,and even smile at their memory

learn from your mistakes-or in my case,don’t learn but keep making the same one over and over again

find that one book that makes you want to read every word and reread it again and again

 

[LaurieLaurie]

When someone wants to walk out of your life simply say ok your choice and walk away. 9/10 times they run back. Don’t let them as they will do it over and over again.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I think I may have touched on this earlier, and that is alcohol. Great in moderation, but when you succumb to its darker side you do lose all sense of awareness and reality.

It's still a struggle at times to escape its clutches especially when you're feeling depressed. But there are no true answers to be found there, just temporary relief from those dark thoughts.

But there is a brighter side, and plenty of support and help out there. Just need to take one step at a time to get there.

 

[Myanthony1]

Your health is most definitely your wealth

 

[Bitofthebubbly]

Revenge is a fools game and don’t look back.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

When I was younger, I was guilty of telling people too much about myself. Without sounding paranoid, you really do need to be careful who you let into your life, even just sharing your opinions about certain things. I'll leave it at that, but it's definitely a hard lesson I learned.

Definitely agree with that!

 

[1001 others]

I have an update for my story posted above (for those who might be wondering) ... my grades have been corrected, and the other person has been issued with a warning! Furthermore, the Training Academy Director has messaged everyone to say that communication with each other during the course must be via the forum, and not direct. Which prompted a few arguments of, "That's not fair," but so be it! Good times

 

[The Devils Arse]

Treat yourself everyday as it could be your last day on this Earth - Do something that makes you happy everyday

I did this and ended up 7 stone overweight!

 

[ClockworkDolly]

In my experience no one is EVER a friend!
I’m not sure I’ve ever actually had a person I can call a real friend

I totally understand this.

 

[Sweetsunrise]

Do what makes YOU happy. At the end of the day, only you are living with your consequences.

I’ve done a lot to make other people happy, but it made me so so miserable and they didn’t even appreciate my efforts

 

[DCICassieStuart]

Someone told me in my early 30s that as you age, you care less about what people think of you. At the time I thought that was ridiculous, but now that I'm older wholeheartedly agree. You can't change what people think or say about you; all you can do is change how you react. And nobody's opinion is really worth hearing anyway. Live your life for you, and be happy.

Absolutely agree. Your post reminded me of this:

 

[Pamellla]

Life is never fair but it’s still worth it
Everyone has something going on that you know nothing about
No matter how much you think you know someone, you don’t know them at all, not really
Great things never came from comfort zones
Everything happens for a reason
Time is a healer
Be who you are and say how you feel, those who matter won’t mind and those who mind don’t matter
Life is nothing without the people we share it with
Every single person you meet will teach you something different
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift which is why we call it the present
And people will forget what you said and what you did but never how you made them feel

 

[under the ivy]

Always trust your gut and a woman’s intuition is never far wrong.

The only person you can rely on is yourself/if you want something doing do it yourself. I very rarely ask for help off someone, only as a last resort.

Treat yourself everyday as it could be your last day on this Earth - whether it’s a chocolate bar, a bubble bath, a walk in fresh air. Do something that makes you happy everyday.

Never go to bed on an argument. Since living back at home this year I’ve had a few cross words with my Mum (think lockdown and WFH hasn’t helped) but I always say sorry and love you before I go up to bed.

 

[Ohflogoff]

Sometimes boring is good.

If you ever feel compelled to check your partner’s phone, it’s time to get out of that relationship. When it’s right, there will never be that inkling to do so. Fact.